Hey everyone, I just need some opinions from some fellow OCD sufferers or parents or whoever knows about what I'm talking about!
I have had OCD for nearly 14 years, onset at 7 years old, but only diagnosed 4 years ago when I was 17. But in spite of being diagnosed 4 years ago, my parents are very difficult and unwilling to accept my condition, and they are eternally challenging me and my compulsions. For instance, whenever I wash my hands (which is a lot!) I wash them eight times, which takes me around 5 minutes. Whenever my parents see me, hear me, sense me washing my hands, they will come up and ask me why I'm washing my hands, tell me I 'don't need to wash my hands so much', asks me 'why do I wash my hands so much', tells me 'I could just not wash my hands', like 'I could just stop washing my hands so easily I can just stop'. It is very exhausting. Every single conversation I have with them includes something about my OCD, most frequently with emphasis on the question 'why can't you just stop having OCD?' or something of a similar vein.
But on the other hand, when I try to talk to my parents about how I feel, when they don't initiate the conversation, they deny all knowledge of my anxiety. And depression for that matter. They are fully aware of the obsessions and compulsions I have, but don't seem to think I have any anxiety or depression surrounding them, or at least they pretend like they don't know this. They will say to me 'you're happy, right?', 'what have you got to be anxious about?', 'you don't have anything to worry about', 'your sister has more to worry about than you', despite having an anxiety disorder. This has been an ongoing theme for my parents since being diagnosed, and it's as if they pick and choose when I have OCD - and when I do have OCD in their minds, it's an opportunity to shout at me and tell me I'm not trying to get better and tell me to stop washing my hands and cleaning. They don't even notice my other compulsions like checking, symmetry, order etc.
Please if anyone has advice on how to deal with my parents, or even if anyone experiences difficulties with their parents or families it would be really helpful. Or even if you know someone with OCD, how do you deal with it in a way that's better than what I've listed above?
Thank you so much guys