Amber31

Thank you for your response Gemma. I will definitely be looking up that book and will let my partner know about the Zoom support group too. I am trying to look after myself. Could do better!

Thanks so much for replying, I really appreciate it. And sorry to hear about your wedding being cancelled. We also had to cancel due to covid and then have had this second cancellation. I think you make a good point about the reassurance, that's helpful. Maybe I have been in rescue mode. I am so desperate for him to be home. I think his compulsion is staying away. He says he wants to be sure he won't harm us, but it seems that isn't possible. And he's going to have to work through this. He does say how much I'm helping him by supporting him. He's having counselling but on the waiting list for specialist ocd treatment. It seems to be taking a long time. Anyway, I will keep looking at the info on here. Thanks so much for the encouragement, I really need it right now.

My partner has OCD and GAD. And I'm just feeling so lost at the moment. At the beginning of the year he cancelled our wedding a week before due to an argument setting off his HOCD and since then things have been rough. He moved out and has been coming back slowly, staying a bit longer each time. But anytime anything difficult comes up, he just breakd down and runs away. It seems his OCD has just seeped into every insecurity he has about himself and life. He's scared of everything. I'm finding it really difficult to cope. I've been trying so hard to reassure him and support but I'm at the point where I'm on eggshells when he's here and on autopilot when he's not here. I have a young Son to look after and I just feel really alone. I can't face seeing anyone since all this happened because I just cry and can't stand all the questions from friends who don't understand mental health. I love my partner and am standing by him. I think I just needed to tell someone who might understand. So thanks for reading xx