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Adamk

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  1. Hi, Just thaught I'd follow up this thread. Part of my sister's compulsions is that she does, as you say, demand things are done certain ways. For example, she often demands to have a vape pod. Any resistance to this demand will cause my sister to make us feel guilty. She might say that we are making the OCD worse, or even more disturbing things. Often this is all directed to my mum who feels quite unempowered. As you say, it is tricky. We want to unite as a family in the correct response. We are trying to use negotiation tactics but I'm not sure this is the best option (I.e., saying you'll get this if you do this, or if you wait x amount of time). Might it be better to administer tough love and weather the storm of torrents that will come? The other option might be to say that we are sorry she feels that way but we will only give her the vape at a certain time that fits our schedule. That way we don't starve her of her compulsion, but don't reorganise our lives around it. It'd be great to hear any thoughts. A
  2. Thank you so much for the informative response. I've communicated this response with my family and it will be helpful. Many thanks, Adam
  3. Hi, My 19 year old sister has been locked up in her room for the last 6 months and twice tried to take her life last year. She suffers from a combination of OCD, anxiety and depression and is currently incapacitated in the sense that she feels leaving her room will trigger OCD. My mum basically is her permanent carer, making her food and such. I talk to her now and again on the phone and she is adamant that no therapy can help her and that only she can be the solution to her problems. She thinks that by staying in her room the OCD will go away. It sounds to me like she hasn't given CBT or exposure therapies a proper chance as she hardly knew what they even are. So, as you can see the situation is grave. So far we have just been living with this situation as if it's the new normal and we don't know how to progress, so I thought I'd post here. My question is: what can I do as a brother to help her? What can we do as a family? It's easy to now imagine her as a narcissistic teenager who is lazy and just stays in her room doing nothing, unfortunately. I should add: she was in a hospital for a month under close supervision and has gone through various therapies and cycles of antidepressants. But right now there is no progress on these fronts. After all, she is an adult so it's hard to force someone to take medication or seek therapy. We want to help, but she needs to want it.
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