Hi,
Just thaught I'd follow up this thread.
Part of my sister's compulsions is that she does, as you say, demand things are done certain ways. For example, she often demands to have a vape pod. Any resistance to this demand will cause my sister to make us feel guilty. She might say that we are making the OCD worse, or even more disturbing things. Often this is all directed to my mum who feels quite unempowered.
As you say, it is tricky. We want to unite as a family in the correct response. We are trying to use negotiation tactics but I'm not sure this is the best option (I.e., saying you'll get this if you do this, or if you wait x amount of time). Might it be better to administer tough love and weather the storm of torrents that will come? The other option might be to say that we are sorry she feels that way but we will only give her the vape at a certain time that fits our schedule. That way we don't starve her of her compulsion, but don't reorganise our lives around it.
It'd be great to hear any thoughts.
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