Ocd dan

Has anyone ever been hypnotised to treat OCD? i have heard of this being treated for phobias but never thought about this for OCD

I know what you are saying but it's so hard not to question myself as I feel bad as I have all this in my head. As I said I don't know if any of this happened and I don't know if she told me to stop trying to touch her innapropiately because I had a girlfriend and If I kept going and said we weren't working. I don't even know if that happened but why would I have that doubt? Then the doubt of if I had the thought of me thinking it might not be that wrong to carry on as I might have assumed she only said no because I had a girlfriend and me telling her it's fine. I don't know if this happened and I don't know if I agree with this thought but if I did would that then make me a bad person? Or am I only looking at this as like black and white (right or wrong), so if the above did happen which I don't know (as I've worried so much) then it could be different and there could also be a number of other factors that mean it's not just simply right or wrong? I really don't know what to think!

Is anyone able to offer some advice. I don't know if any of this is real or if the situations and thoughts in my head are all made up, I think I'm looking too far into it and making all the things up with false memory and my ocd is grasping on to the worst things. I know I'm not a bad person but it seems so hard to differentiate between ocd and reality!

Whoever is reading this thanks for taking the time, I appreciate it! I'm having really bad thoughts, which started when I was on a night out. I'll try keep this as short as possible: I have a girlfriend and we weren't working too well. I was on a night out talking to a girl and she knew I had a girlfriend and I tried to kiss the girl. She told me no as I had a girlfriend. I ended up back at my friends flat and the girl was there with my friends. She was in bed and I got into bed beside her thinking maybe she will change her mind. I asked her what had happened earlier as I was really drunk before and started to sober up at this point. She said that I tried to kiss her and she also said i 'tried to finger her.' I was a bit surprised at this and asked if anything actually happened other than me trying and she said no. I then said to her what about if I try now will anything happen, I think she said no because of my girlfriend, she turned around and I might have started to cuddle her. I don't know if I started feeling her body. My friend came in the room to go to his bed, she got up and so did I after her then I went home. I started to worry about this wondering if I was persistent or forceful on her. I have since seen her once and said sorry if I was an idiot, she laughed and said I was just creepy, told me not to be sorry and hoped me and my girlfriend were better (which thankfully we are). However I cannot get out my head the thought of if I tried to touch her innapropiately and if she told me to stop and then if I still kept trying to touch her. Also Ive had the thought that maybe she hasn't said anything about it as she is scared or trying to forget it or maybe I am looking too far into this and making it up. I don't know what to think as I have these thoughts that feel like memories in my head and don't know if they happened or if I've made them up from worry. I also feel bad as I had a thought in my head thinking it wouldn't be that bad if she did tell me to stop trying to touch her innapropiately because I had a girlfriend, and me continuing to try and touch her saying that me and my girlfriend aren't working. Obviously if she told me to stop again and if I didn't that would be bad but is it bad to think this wouldn't be that wrong as I assumed she only said no cos I had a girlfriend which I didn't think was a big deal? ( this is also something im not sure has happened or if I have made up, but if it did happen then it worries me that I've had the thought of it not being that bad). Again I don't know what has happened but I also doubt myself that maybe this has happened and I'm just blocking it out. I know I messed up with my girlfriend, please don't judge me on that we have since had a chat about this, I'm just looking for help. Thanks

I'm sorry but I absolutely do not agree with number 5! Everything I have been told and all the advice is to not look for certainty as that is the whole reason you are anxious in the first place

I willowy my best over the next few days and let yous know how I get on, thanks for your help!

So should I go into this thinking I didn't do it or should I go into it thinking maybe it did maybe it didn't happen?

Thanks for all your replies guys! The thing is I don't know if this is false memory ocd or in fact real memory ocd? I don't know if they are intrusive false thoughts or hazy drunken memories? Sometimes I get a thought and it's not strong as it doesn't feel as real however other times I hey a thought that feels real and I feel I need to address it? How can I leave that alone? I'd basically be accepting that I cheated!? I didn't go to the beach to try and remember I mean I was at the beach during this period when I was drunk

I went to the beach and remember certain things however can't remember if I was with someone or on my own, I also have the image of having sex with a girl which feels terrible and I don't know if it's real or false.

I've been on here a couple of months ago in regards to this issue however I have tried to stay away from the forum as Ive been trying to tackle this on my own but I am really stuck. Quick overview - I was on holiday and had drinks, I walked off on my own very drunk and got home about 6 hours later. I have thoughts in my head that I might have cheated on my girlfriend. I try to tell myself this is rubbish but whenever I do the doubts seem so real and I think why would I have a doubt so clear if it wasn't true? I've been over this alot and cannot figure it out. I want to be over this horrible feeling! I know not going in to rituals and compulsions is the best way to go, however when I don't go over my doubts that Ive cheated, it makes me feel that I have cheated as I'm living with that thought and if I feel like I've cheated then that is the worst thing! I don't really know what do to, I just want to know and be at ease and move on with my life. Any advice is appreciated. Dan

OK polar bear thanks, but recently I've been trying all sorts to get past this for example: accepting that it might of happened, accepting that it did happen, accepting that it probably didn't happen and none of those seem to work, so I don't know what to do in terms of what I should accept in order to get through this?

Thanks guys I understand where yous are coming from but I feel like I can't begin to get over this until I either; have a sense that I probably did do it or probably didn't do it, as just now if I just let it go I am never going to know what I've done or if I've done nothing at all. I don't expect to be 100% certain but I would like to have an idea whether or not I did it, does that make sense?

Thanks for the post, I have this, or at least I hope it is a false memory, but I'm not very sure. The reason I'm not sure is I can actually picture the thing happening the night I am worried about, I was drunk, but I don't know if I've made it up or not. I feel like because I can picture it and see it happening, then that is me remembering so it must have happened. Any advice?

Hi guys, I'm struggling a bit today. My thought is that I might have cheated on my girlfriend on holiday. I have posted this topic previously but I am finding it very difficult to not give in. I have doubts and images in my head that may be a real memory or may be made up. Every time I tell myself it's made up I think 'well why would you make something like this up, I obviously remembered something to initially get this thought.' I had a bad night last night which has carried on to today: I want to get over my ocd, and I know that by accepting thoughts and doing absolutely nothing with them I will get better in time. But I then thought to myself, is what im doing normal, because if a normal person had a thought or doubts that they might have cheated then they would want to go over it until they had an answer to it, so why should I be any different?

Goo goo dolls - iris. The chorus is my fave bit as I feel with ocd we can relate to it.

Thanks guys I appreciate your time that you take to reply. I was doing well yesterday and for the most part of today until...I let my guard down and got hoovered right back in! I was going over it and over it trying again to convince myself I done nothing. Then I said 'i know that I cheated on my girlfriend that night'.It felt right because I was getting it off my chest and admitting to the truth and that's why I said it. I feel massively guilty for saying that and feel like it's true if I said that and felt like it was the truth at the time. Ahhhhh I hate this!

It might not be false or made up and may infact be true, as now I cannot remember if I made this up or if it is a real memory

But how do you know this is a false memory and that I didn't do it? I could easily have done this just as much as I might have not done this.

I am still going through it and would only be able to tell you not to give in to the thoughts. Don't go over them as that will only make you worse!it's really hard to begin with but gets better, you know this as you've been through this before, don't expect to get better overnight, it takes time, one small step at a time. Something that I have struggled with before is paying too much attention to how I am getting better and if I'm doing the right thing with the thoughts, that itself is ocd. Just let them be, no compulsions or rituals and accept all thoughts good or bad. Live your life

I relapsed 15 months ago, and trust me I wish I got a hold of it as early on as possible! If you wait for it to get better it will likely get worse, don't wait and start now with what you know, get control over it early on and it will be so much easier

Hi everyone, I've not posted in a couple of weeks but I last posted before I went on holiday about thoughts that were bothering me, if only I could go back to that point as they are nothing compared to what I am now worrying about! I went out one night on holiday with my friend and we were very very drunk. I woke in the morning and I had flashbacks of the previous night. I remember dancing and having a laugh in a club, and I remember leaving the club without my friend at about half 3 in the morning. I walked to the beach on my own and I have flashbacks of me being in the sea, talking to a man and lying in the sand(why would I do this and why would I do this on my own? Was I on my own?). This is all I can remember even though I got home at 8 in the morning. So I started to think what if I done something really bad and slept with another girl, I then pictured myself doing this and because I was able to picture myself doing this it makes me think there is a high chance I have done this. I am also trying to think of why I would make up this thought in the first place, is it because I can't remember what happened and I'm worried about worst case scenario, or did I infact do this and this thought is actually a real memory. I have tried to think did I make this thought up after worrying or did I initially remember this thought because it happened. Now I have no idea what to think. I tell myself I would never do anything like this but then I get huge doubts, like I've never had before. I know that accepting the thought and living with uncertainty is the way to go, but how on earth can I live with the uncertainty that I might have cheated, this would be the worst thing I have ever done and to the person I care most about!

Thanks guys I appreciate your help, it's really hard but I'm going to get better! I appreciate all the help on this! I seen online that the best thing to do is: don't resist the obsessive thoughts, but resist the compulsions. I thought that was really good, is this something you agree with as well? And if so would you say the same with past events, guilt, feeling down and sad, etc; don't resist these but resist the compulsions that come with them?

Hi guys thank you for your help and I've not replied in a couple of days because I've been trying to work on getting better. I still feel really bad about what happened and every time I feel like I'm making progress on the ocd rituals and the guilt of what I did then I start doubting myself. I go on holiday tomorrow and want to be in the best place possible because I don't want to spoil my holiday. I have thought about confessing to my girlfriend about why I might have phoned the girls but decided not to. Now I don't think I called these girl to cheat I am certain that's why I called these girls. There doesn't seem to be any other reason why I'd call them. I have thought about the pros to confessing and the cons, and I feel myself stuck in a ritual about it all. If I do confess will my girlfriend finish it? Would I want her to confess the same thing to me? I feel like I should confess for these reasons but I also know it will make my ocd worse? But then is this ocd or is this just who I am because I might of done something wrong? Please help

And know I don't want to do this for 20 years I want to get better, but I feel this is something my girlfriend should know in case I actually was making plans to cheat

Hi caramoole. I know but it's the fact that I phoned these girls and I might have done this because I was acting on thoughts to cheat. Therefore me making plans to cheat might have actually happened. I know I didn't cheat but it makes sense that I phoned these girls with an intention to cheat and that's why I phoned these girls. And that's a possibility, it's not something that didn't happen because it might have. Do you know what I mean?