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  • Birthday 27/04/1950

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  1. Can you do this by creating a separate topic please Handy?
  2. Break Free is a very good self-help book, and will help you "map out" how your own OCD works and how to tackle it. Plus in the appendix is the template for a relapse recovery blueprint, which is excellent. My own one is saved onto my computer and easily updated.
  3. I truly believe that the right blend of therapy, plus listening to believing and actioning what we are told to do, leads to recovery. How much that recovery is may vary, but there is every chance that it will be significant. I am going to highlight again listening to believing and actioning what we are told to do, because this is key to recovery. We have to walk the walk, work the homework, make the thinking and behavioural changes. Only we can decide if we are going to do it now, or carry on suffering for another twenty years before we do it. What's it going to be, Phil?
  4. And If there is to be such a thing, could it be posted on a new, separate, topic thread, not on Rachel's or another sufferer’s topic thread?
  5. In the doctors practice I used when we lived in London, two out of the four doctors with whom I had dealings thought I was a risk. But they had asked me a specific question as to what form my OCD took, and I said harm thoughts. They asked whether it was harm to me or to others, and I honestly said others, and that's when they thought me a risk, showing their ignorance of how that theme of OCD works. I The two others, the senior partners in the practice, were keen to learn more from me about OCD, which I was able to do. And this would benefit other sufferers who might be patients so very useful awareness.
  6. I am not sure where the psychiatrists come in to it, but over the years I have consulted personally with two psychiatrists (as required by my medical insurance provider) overseeing CBT performed by three clinical psychologists, plus I at my own expense, after health insurance funding ran out, consulted with a fourth clinical psychologist. In actual fact, what ultimately worked for me was a combination of CBT, The Four Steps, Mindfulness, Love Kindness Meditation and the collective wisdom of the charity OCD-UK and its members.
  7. Three people taking an adverse view prior to explanation is neither a crowd - nor a problem. Because their misunderstanding is in fact easy, with a reasonable understanding of OCD, to explain: and this then becomes another gain re awareness-spreading.
  8. A friend told me I have the gift to make people laugh. That made me smile. 

    1. lostinme


      Thats nice Roy, it goes to show what a nice person you are :)

  9. That approach I didn't feel helpful when the OCD was targeting my true core character values and alleging the opposite. Why should I agree with it, when it's clearly lying? I am not personally a fan of that approach. Plus the idea that taking the Schwartz approach as a short-term re-assurance , or long-term compulsion, doesn't sit with me either. The idea is to use it until we have re-programmed our brain away from focusing on the obsessional thought, nothing more. We have then shifted focus away from the damaging obsessional default. But the good news is there are the two methods. We don't just have one choice.
  10. Why not make a note of what we have said here? If the OCD rears its head again, then you will know what to do without posting. And when you get the hang of that, you will be able to discard the note.
  11. Handy, you have said this before and we disagreed. Knowing how to treat OCD, given the benefit of an experienced therapist, may look easy, but actually going through the thinking and behavioural changes necessary to recover is really hard. Plenty of people only have OCD and no other significant mental disorder. But for those that do have other mental health issues as well, it is important to get these uncovered, and a treatment programme set up encompassing them too.
  12. Hi there. Just took a look at some of your previous content so now understand. Challenging those catastrophic thoughts is one way to deal with this. OCD will always follow a worst case scenario, but why should the worse happen? Real life doesn't work like that, it works on maybes, maybe nots - and with those outlooks people can take the stance your nephew is. I did this myself a few years back. I had a two week referral for a procedure to check for cancer. My doctor didn't think it was, but needed to have it checked. I used to worry about all sorts of things. But I worked hard psychologically and managed to overcome that. So with this two weeks, I applied that thinking. I put it out of my mind, and was only a tad concerned, on the day, to make sure I kept alert so I didn't misunderstand the procedures. The results were clear. Last year my wife was ill and we had two speedy referrals, and I helped her challenge her health phobias and keep busy on other things whilst waiting. Did I worry she had something terminal? I thought she might, but I was calm, adopting a "whatever will be will be approach", which worked well. For me, there was no purpose in worry, it would only make me ill. The checks came back with diagnoses of conditions which needed to be managed with medication. Julie has improved well and the meds are great. Taking the worst case approach, as per your OCD, just makes you anxious and feeling ill. Don't look to carry out compulsions like Googling - compulsions only make things worse. Try taking that "maybe, maybe not" approach that has served us so well.
  13. OCD can do all kinds of things, and is typically made worse when we are feeling stressed. If we can take control of the stress, then at the same time we will be rebuilding some resilience to help us to tackle the OCD. So maybe discuss with your hubby what your stresses are and what you might do about them, then look to Impliment the best ideas.
  14. Firstly, seeking to counter an intrusion with saying "I don't know and that's OK" each time isn't the way forward, as it's a neutralising compulsion. Just leave those thoughts be. They are only thoughts. Remember that old saying "sticks and stones may break my bones but words may never harm me?" Thoughts won't harm us if we don't give belief to them. Spot intrusions , then refocus away. Keep gradually (not continually) doing this until not paying any attention to them becomes the norm. That's the refocus and distraction element of CBT. The other important element of the B - behavioural - element of CBT is exposure and response prevention. Having learned the C - cognitive - side of OCD (what it is, how it works, and why our themes aren't true) we need then to fully expose ourselves to the trigger intrusions, whilst bearing this in mind. It works best I think in short, structured, sessions in a quiet private environment. As we ride the anxiety response, but remind ourself that there isn't a real threat, over several sessions the anxiety should begin to ease away. And when the intrusions lose their power, they should reduce in both strength and frequency.
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