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About taurean

  • Birthday 27/04/1950

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  1. Let's focus on wonderful weather and socialising, not on our OCD. 

  2. I was taught to seek to capture the high ground and look down on the OCD. One way to do this is to be dismissive. When an intrusion comes in, just think "oh that's just my silly obsession" and refocus away. Soon we automatically just observe an intrusion, but refocus. And gradually they will occur less frequently, less powerfully.
  3. Lonely mum. Let it go. Your OCD is on the scan for threats everywhere hence the anxiety building. Others don't see the threat, hence no anxiety. But they aren't likely to be risk unaware, they will respond to what they deem a risk, at the right threat level. In contamination OCD the threats are all around us (so says the OCD). But it exaggerates then catastrophises. Believe your folks will be just fine, and resist the compulsion to check on them.
  4. Thoughts run on a conveyor belt through our mind. We can't control their entry and onto the conveyor, but we can let the intrusive ones pass and around the corner and out of sight. And that is what we can all aim to achieve. Because that is what the non-sufferer does automatically. And we all have the capability of reaching that stage too if we apply what we are told to do.
  5. Some therapists are recoverees themselves. My second one had harm OCD so knew exactly what I was going through.
  6. When you realise that all this doubt and uncertainty is classic OCD, and really start to believe what we tell you, you will embark on the road to recovery. You really need to do this, it's the way forward.
  7. I was diagnosed as actually having OCD when I was fifty. Before then I knew I had weird intrusive thoughts but - typical of sufferers - I was scared to open up about them. A kind female doctor on a company healthscreen encouraged me to do this, and she it was that gave the diagnosis. This started me on a voyage of cognitive behavioural therapy discovery with private therapists, initially funded by health insurance and then, when the benefit limit was reached, I was fortunate enough to be able to pay myself. It was only a couple of years ago that, thanks to help here, I was able to find the missing methodology to shut down constantly-repeating intrusions in my mental chatter - CBT alone hadn't done that. But it was needed as the core therapy, and I was privileged to have had two psychiatrists and 3 clinical psychologists over a number of years - and thus have been able, on reflection, to pick out the best things from all of these. Here are some of them. We tend to think our OCD is different, perhaps worse, than others' - because we are ourselves suffering so much. But others have it just as bad - it's a vicious mental illness. And we can obsess, then carry out compulsions to seek to remove disorder, about literally anything. But the CBT methodology will be the same, whatever the theme. Though with themes like harm, paedophile, sexual preference the OCD is targeting one or more of our true character values, alleging the opposite is, or could be, true. To others our obsessive thoughts will just be worthless nonsense which they instantly dismiss. So our aim in CBT is to be able to see them that way too. In CBT we learn how the OCD creates a core belief which is false exaggerated or revulsive, and creates triggers linked to that to cause the threat /fear that cause the D - disorder. Until we are able to defuse that core belief, we will still respond to it in an unhelpful behavioural way, giving it belief, connecting with it. So we need to uncover, then challenge, what that core belief is saying. Exposure and response prevention is a necessary part of CBT, but won't work unless we are first able to understand and accept the cognitive side of how OCD works, so we see why we react as we do. Trying to remove an intrusive thought by neutralising it with an opposing thought only makes it stronger. The compulsions OCD cons us into carrying out don't provide anything more than a minimal better feeling followed by rendering intrusions stronger and more powerful, causing more disorder. They harm and hinder recovery. Keeping busy, and learning to refocus away from intrusions into a beneficial distraction is a great technique, and used in conjunction with ERP can aid us to set up new ways of thinking to overcome the power frequency and strength of OCD intrusions. OCD demands certainty of us to prove we are suffering from it not a real threat. We cannot have certainty, but we can have probability that it's all only OCD. We need to take that leap of faith. And if it seems like OCD it probably is. Relaxation techniques, including meditation, yoga, and similar - coupled with aerobic exercise to burn off stress chemicals - are beneficial. Mindfulness added to CBT can help us focus our thinking in the present in the moment with a calm mind, away from obsessing and compulsing. I hope this summary of beneficial things I myself learned in therapy will help others.
  8. It's just another theme of OCD. We can obsess about anything really and it's just something else your OCD has conjured up. Here it's another example of OCD targeting one or more of our true core values, and alleging otherwise. Don't try and work out why you feel how you do as a result. The thoughts themselves are simply worthless nonsense and you need to simply note them then refocus away. Trying to get rid of of them will simply make them stronger. Just think "oh that's only my silly obsession" and move on.
  9. Reckon you are over generalising here Handy. As I said earlier I have come across couples in real life, and online here, in great relationships where one partner has OCD and the other copes with it and supports them really well. And my own and my sister's spouses are examples of such. You might be looking for this for some time. I have my doubts about this, same as the others.
  10. The more we listen to and connect/believe with intrusions, the more we give them power and they will keep on coming back again. This does NOT mean that our fears are true. It's the way OCD tries to trap us into believing what it is saying within our brain. Our brains are however "plastic" meaning we can reprogramme them through CBT so that we ignore, and then become able to easily dismiss, the intrusions. This takes time commitment and hard effort. But it works.
  11. It will come back until your default behaviour is to ignore it. This is the OCD at work, trying to hook you back in. Ignore it, refocus away again - and keep on doing that. It may be hard at first, but it will get better.
  12. It would do if you worked through CBT correctly. There is no quick fix in CBT for OCD. It's a long campaign but one that does so much to help the sufferer from OCD.
  13. OCD likes a vacuum and will fill it. So keeping nicely occupied on other things and ignoring intrusive thoughts if they come calling is the way forward. And when we take our rest, a good book or interesting absorbing TV programmes are good. Plus meditation helps us keep beneficially focused.
  14. Happy Easter All! We are relaxing with music, good food, and a choccy bunny. 

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