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taurean

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  • Birthday 27/04/1950

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    Northampton, England
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    Olympics (especially London 2012),Athletics,Swimming,Photography, Astronomy, Archaeology, Antiques Programmes on TV,Art. Choral and Classical Music, Jazz, Fishing, Aerobic Exercise, Gardening, National Trust, Wildlife

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  1. Anyone remember what rain looks like? We have a yellow alert  in Northampton  possible thunderstorms Friday p.m.

  2. Well my own particular theme is harm, but I have had a lot of CBT, read a lot of self-help OCD books, and spent many hours over 5 years on these forums - seeing a lot of material about faeces contamination worries OCD along with all sorts of other manifestations of OCD. The fact is that we can obsess and carry out compulsions about literally anything. And OCD operates in similar fashion whatever the theme. So none of us need suffer from the same subject matter, within the same theme, to understand - and give an opinion.
  3. What would I do? Nothing. Only your OCD tells you there is an issue here. The rest of the - non-OCD contamination by faeces - world would see no issue, no risk, no threat. I have had so much in my car recently, with probably 30 carloads of discarded rubbish, garden rubbish, because of a home move and downsizing. It needs a clean, I will get round to it. Does it need de-contaminating, swabbed with disinfectant? No. Just brushing out and the windows cleaning - I see or fear no threat. It's an important part of CBT to consider how others would view our OCD theme's fear threat or revulsion, because that shows up what the OCD core belief is doing, and encourages us to challenge it. However being aware of this, then still asking for re-assurance each time a perceived threat incident occurs, is a compulsion and only strengthens belief in the obsessional thought.
  4. I was a child at the time, and these were only minor issues, and OCD was not that powerful with them - so once I realised they were pointless, it wasn't difficult to stop them. Re the numbers as Gemma says, the compulsions are neutralising ones - and they will only strengthen the obsession. My sister was uncomfortable with the number eleven, and of course her brain was scanning for it and when it found it would announce this with full trumpets and drums accompaniment But it was just a silly, meaningless, obsession.
  5. taurean

    The Four Steps

    It's OK to do that once. It is called a "behavioural experiment", and it is an optional part of CBT. Don't run it again though. What it shows is that your real fear is believing that what the OCD is saying is true - which you can see from the experiment that, in all probability, it isn't. Hold on to using probability - it's another CBT tool for overcoming OCD
  6. You can't be sure, but you can seek to recognise that the demand for doubt and certainty is the OCD at work, and latch on to that. This is I think the best technique - act "as if" that is just the OCD at work, and gently but firmly steer your thoughts away.
  7. taurean

    The Four Steps

    PolarBear is right. But when we are locked into this repetitive loop of thinking and urges to carry out compulsions (itself the evidence of OCD at work) the doubts and the assertions seem so powerful that we cannot break from them - meaning of course we give more belief to them, make them stronger, creating a circle of distress which only maintains this repetitive loop. Can you see and understand that now? You need a plan. So here is one to work on. Remember what we have told you - OCD wasn't known as "the doubting disease" for nothing - it hooks sufferers in, and maintains their distress by doubt, and the demand for certainty that it is all OCD. So, determine - despite the doubts - to play along with the idea that what WE, not the OCD, is saying is true. Don't listen to your own mind, and the doubts (that IS in fact the OCD at work). Hold onto that idea that it is all OCD - and if you find yourself slipping into performing compulsions, stop yourself. Each time your mind pulls you towards belief and carrying out compulsions, simply note this and gently but firmly ease your mind elsewhere and onto something beneficial and distracting. At first this will be really tough, and your mind will try and stop you. Resist, note and refocus away ; do this every time. It may feel like the biggest battle of your life - and it probably is. The mental struggle may tire you, you may feel distressed. But keep to the task, keep just noting and refocusing away. A key element of this plan is to listen to WE not the OCD. Maybe copy and paste this plan into the keep or equivalent notes folder in your phone - somewhere where you can find it to remind yourself of what to do. As my good friend lostinme would say You can do this Headwreck. Roy
  8. The disorder works the same, whatever the theme - it's our behavioural response that may be different. Change your behavioural response and you change your experience of the theme. Yes it's difficult, but - as I well know - perfectly possible 🙆.
  9. taurean

    Hello

    Hi Angelmeadow. Plenty of people have similar fears to you. How nice that your therapist recommended our forums Beating OCD involves undertaking a journey of listening learning and changing behaviour. The good ship OCD-UK is a great one on which to be a passenger during that voyage of discovery and change
  10. Analysing the past to find out when our OCD started won't help - in fact it's another compulsion! And whether OCD evokes thoughts feelings or urges, it's our behavioural response that we must change. I was taught to be dismissive "Oh that's just my silly obsession". This is incredibly powerful - it claws back control from OCD, implies we have sussed it out, and seen that it creates what are in fact silly thoughts feelings or urges - nothing we should really treat as fearsome, threatening or repulsive. Then I was told to refocus without giving belief to, or connecting with, the obsessional thought. Now THESE are really essential CBT psychological tools for me, in challenging and overcoming OCD.
  11. Negative Bias OCD imposes on us unwanted negative obsessional intrusive thoughts, and seeks to impose restrictive rules by implying the need for avoidance. We can watch for negative bias forming in our general thinking, which quickly aids a downward spiral of mood and emotion. In therapy my therapist tested my "free association" of thoughts to see how much negativity was built up inside me - the store was amazingly large and had a really weakening affect on my resilience to OCD and made me sad and depressed. It follows that if we can shift that negative bias more towards the positive it may help us to challenge our OCD, and raise our mood. So let's take a look at our patterns of thinking and see how much negativity we are shocked to find. Then reappraise those experiences to look for, then apply, a more positive interpretation and course of action. When we learn how to do this it can become an autonomous action and gradually steer our bias back more towards the positive. OCD Rules Watch out for the illness forcing you towards avoidance and restrictions. Start to practice the compulsion of avoidance, and life will get more and more restricted. You may feel you can't meet with others, have a relationship, go out, earn a living. A good way to tackle this is to reject the shackle - don't buy into the need for the restriction, see it as OCD and refuse to play along. Rather, walk on that crack between paving stones; refuse to count a set number of times, do things symmetrically or in strange sequences. When we really get good at our cognitive understanding of OCD we learn that practising a ritual prevents nothing - and that our feared obsessions are in fact nothing more frightful than silly nonsensical mental chaff.
  12. Golly Emsie they start sports young these days I think the only sport I undertook at that age was playing in the sandpit I too hope it has been a better day for you lost.
  13. If I did that my doctor would have my guts for garters I genuinely need to get my weight down by at least 8kg (about a twelfth of my bodyweight) to get the risks of me contracting type 2 diabetes, heart disease or a stroke down. Maybe I need a sponsored weightlossathon
  14. They are just general silliness that happens. I don’t tend to get many as it happens, but I understand where you are coming from re the cat. My fondly remembered cat Edward took his devotion to me so seriously that he would wait on the gatepost watching for me to come home, and didn't trust the alarm clock - he would personally come and wake me up by dabbing at my shoulder till I woke. I wore the ongoing "stigmata" in terms of claw marks for that for a long time after he passed away.
  15. taurean

    The Four Steps

    Exactly. Once you understand, you can see that the OCD works the same way, whatever theme. Just with some themes, like paedophile, harm, sexual preference it targets our true core values and alleges the opposite to be true - causing severe distress.
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