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About taurean

  • Birthday 27/04/1950

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    Northampton, England
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    Olympics (especially London 2012),Athletics,Swimming,Photography, Astronomy, Archaeology, Antiques Programmes on TV,Art. Choral and Classical Music, Jazz, Fishing, Aerobic Exercise, Gardening, National Trust, Wildlife

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  1. I like the Midlands. You can get everywhere easily from here. The grey or sandstone bricks of the houses in our countryside are gorgeous. There are lots of bungalows on this side of town and we wanted, and have, one. Generally the natives are friendly.
  2. It may be winter but :- Trees and bulbs are budding. Some interesting photos can be taken on walks. There are some great shows on TV about the countryside, wildlife. When I was out and about last year, so many beautiful aspects of our immediate neighbourhood revealed themselves. Some very disruptive nearby roadworks have finished.
  3. We are finding some mental soothing in animal programmes on TV. Not safari type stuff, more vets, wildlife, animal welfare,village communities, romance. Plus home improvement, buying and selling, gardening. Personally I am no fan of drama, sci-fi, mystery, blockbuster movie material. It's all too realistic and some gets my OCD going despite lots of CBT and ERP.
  4. No, my therapist taught me the basic principles. Just look for a simple guide. Essentially it really is a simple process of focusing into the here and now, but with all senses just working for you to do that and you savoring what they tell you. A simple example. If I went on my own into town I would take a walk around the market. I would simply drift into the square, flowing between the aisles noting the goods prices bartering the colours of the items and the stall covers, the sounds of the calls of the traders the smell of bacon and coffee from the open café, note the people and their ages. I would lose myself in everything market.
  5. Yes it isn't a recognised treatment for OCD. But mindfulness can help us to refocus, which is part of distraction. It's basically bringing your mind to focus on what you see or do in the present, in the moment and it has been helpful to me. It's a powerful distraction, because you ask your mind to use all your senses at the same time, and to savor with them.
  6. Just click on the link to OCD information or OCD-UK the charity. From the website revealed. click on "overcoming OCD". Loads of guidance and help, plus books available from the shop.
  7. The practice of savoring is very calming. When we savor we open our minds up to the pleasure and enjoyment in our vicinity. We can savor the presence of others, the smell and taste of a meal, the good looks of our friends, the joy of driving on the open road, fresh air entering our lungs. We can savor taking a screen break. I would wander around the office, savoring what I saw what people were doing reading notices. Savoring is free. And wonderful.
  8. N. B. Its the Diane's that are especially identified with Hygge, though Norway is very into it too.
  9. It seems a good time to home in on one of the reasons why people in Norway are said to be the happiest people on earth. One of the reasons is said to be their focus on Hygge, which is the creation of a mood of coziness and conviviality, which creates feelings of wellness and content. So here is my take on how we might work towards surrounding ourselves with elements that can nurture some Hygge, and those with unwanted time on their hands now might take this on as a new project. Is your home cluttered, dirty? Could you move things around to create more space, light, convivial sharing? Since we downsized and moved here this has been the goal - and the results are spectacular. There are zones. I am working in the dining zone, on the table, but it does far more than that. The table and a display cupboard next to it offer happy objects with joyful meaning, but also a mini office, space for a portable radio and, behind me under the stairs a specially chosen chest of drawers fits under the stairway to the loft. It contains bedlinen, towels, and medical appliances and sits next to a sweet bookcase which contains cooking, hobby, self-help and gardening books. The dining zone is the western end of a through room created by an earlier extension, and now forms a lounge. As it happens, large double French windows display our beautiful garden and I am watching the woodpigeons as I write. The lounge holds the TV and music systems, CD and DVD storage, coffee tables and a pouffe to put feet up. Spotlights and a desklight in the dining room, uplights in the lounge. One works of course with what one has available, some money has been thrown here to create the structure by the developers from whom we bought the bungalow. But we have used that structure to create the most wonderful maximise of space with minimal clutter. The colour of the room is beige, bland and peaceful. So what might you do with minimal or maybe no additional resources that can transform a living zone into Hygge? Maybe you might reconfigure your bedroom? Take down some tired hard Rock posters, put up some pastel scenes. Move a bookcase, resite the TV, incorporate a small bedside music system. Change the curtains. A room where family can be together even if doing other things can be wonderful. Let's hear it for your Hygge!
  10. The pandemic is in full flow and we are facing many challenges. But there are plenty of simple free, or almost, ways that we can practice some peacefulness and ease down our stressors. What do you find helpful? Is it preparing a meal, listening to music, puzzles, family time? I will start us off by copying over a piece on meditation I just posted in the member's area. If you click in the Internet you will easily find simple methods to enjoy relaxing meditation. And you can devise your own. For mine just now, I was lying in bed, soft light on, gentle relaxation music playing. In a gentle half hour just now I slowed my breathing and took my consciousness into several peaceful scenes. A love scene from a favourite book, taking place under the stars. Gorgeous. A gentle walk on a summer's day, blue sky, birds singing, cars gliding past. Then just listening to the music, sinking back into the bed. Nothing else matters. However busy we are, we can set a little time aside to practice such a healing meditation. Setting the alarm half an hour early is one way. When I worked (I am retired) this is what I did. Then I practised getting up mindfully. Enjoyed the ablutions, a little spritz of male perfume, selecting my clothes and clean shoes. When I locked the door, I left my home life behind. That door was a bulkhead, shutting out my home life until the return in the evening. I stepped into a transient state - travel. My focus was simply just on the way to work, suspended in time. Breaking the day, the week, into zones was spectacularly beneficial for me. By going to the gym on a Wednesday evening there were various win situations. I could pre-order a meal in the bistro for after. My wife had a night off from cooking. The working week was split into 3, then 2, days not a whole 5 days. The exercise and shower toned my mind and body. I often then would go for a drive, just deciding the route in the moment. What do you, can you do to boost relaxation and calm?
  11. For me the important thing to remember with this form of OCD is that the OCD core belief is likely to add new thinking into the mix to cause doubt and upset. But we aren't like that. It is targeting our true core character values. Look at your own. You probably feel upset if you accidentally hurt a fly. So leave the new thoughts in the same mental category of OCD and its attacks on your core values. Ignore what the thoughts are saying about you. How it says you think, you feel. It lies, it revulses it makes us doubt. But only if we listen to it.
  12. Tottenham play my team Brentford in Carabao Cup semifinal tonight on Sky Sports.

  13. I like your post MarieJo. OCD creates a core belief belief which may be false, exaggerated or revulsive, and will feed thinking into our brain to support this belief, which can include such things as false memories, magical thinking, intrusions attacking our true character values suggesting an opposite to be the case. It can tell us that 2 + 2 = 5 and make us believe it. It can be so convincing that even 0.1% doubt can challenge our thinking. There is no good form of OCD, and any one theme can be devastating if untreated but beatable or at least manageable if it is. The base treatment is cognitive behavioural therapy and the application of distraction to break the cycle of distress. I found my work was a great aid to providing distraction . The more we learn from CBT how to reduce the power of the disorder through understanding of our own issues and exposure and response prevention, and reduce the time available to the OCD by eliminating compulsions and distraction and more positive thinking patterns, then the better may be our experience. If meds assist, that's good, but meds are very subjective as to what benefit any particular drug may provide to any particular person.
  14. Negative Doing my best to look beyond them, looking to lift the mental filter that highlights them. Risky going into open shops if in the vulnerable age group. Positives Managed to get a Sainsbury's delivery booked. It's still possible to walk or drive in the dark. An inexpensive SAD lightbox replaces lost daylight. The Oxford vaccine has been approved, so we now have two to look forward to.
  15. Negative Things are getting worse, we will be stuck at home till June. Positive We can enjoy just being, read, watch TV, walk, call folk, whatever.
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