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About taurean

  • Birthday 27/04/1950

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    Northampton, England
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    Olympics (especially London 2012),Athletics,Swimming,Photography, Astronomy, Archaeology, Antiques Programmes on TV,Art. Choral and Classical Music, Jazz, Fishing, Aerobic Exercise, Gardening, National Trust, Wildlife

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  1. I find it all just dreadful, as Adam says scores are just a part of the overall whole.Going by scores only, you would never get treatment for the remaining part of your OCD because lots of of it is now overcome. As for the psycho-sexual referral suggestion, they just don't understand OCD.They should, and need to, understand it better. For me, we can have literally any aspect of life as an obsession, then compulsion. It's why trained OCD therapists seek to understand the whole complexity for the sufferer.True success means overcoming each and every angle of OCD.
  2. Yeh, it's like how we don't get the trunk (boot) on cars, or the sidewalk (pavement) for pedestrians. But I have always loved the "boardwalk". I was brought up on a diet of imported American TV shows and films and that helped us realise the differences between interpretations. High School means something somewhat different to Americans, and our refuse collection is a garbage one across the pond. Somehow as a kid we coped with all of the differences, and we loved them.
  3. I like a hoodie too. What really lifts me is a little male jewellery, a spritz of male perfume, and a pastel colour combination.
  4. Golly don't we need this! Since Monday more people out and about, socially-distanced chat in gardens going on, a whiff of Spring in the air. Not long to go till we can visit the hair salon, the shops will be open again, and smiles will return to faces. In my almost 71 years on this planet this last five months have been the worst time for me - a usually very social, gregarious person who likes to seize the day. A short spell of fine weather is actually a little premature, a false dawn, but a nice way to herald in Easter. Weird to enjoy seeing the kids off to school, then on holiday again. Crazy old time. But, for me, fishing will shortly be back on the cards, and that is my favourite hobby.
  5. Weather back to "normal" on Friday so make the most of the warm days folks. 

  6. Do you know, I think I am now becoming both a lark, and an owl. I don't seem to need much sleep at night, and like to doze anyway in the evening, and during a siesta.
  7. I was discussing this issue of the monster with my therapist last session (back in therapy after a bad relapse). She wanted to dig a little deeper into my perceptions of OCD. For me, it's not so much about chemical imbalances - because if it was, then correcting them would correct the OCD. I more favour the idea that, for whatever reason, the brain's frontal lobes are miscommunicating, creating false or exaggerated thinking - which then formulates the OCD. This then takes the appearance of a monster bullying us and looking to restrict our lives through unhelpful rules and rituals, physical or mental.
  8. I reckon you are pretty efficient on here in those very early hours ?
  9. I'd like to be more like Julie too! Aside from her white coat hypertension (phobia on medical matters) she is pretty laid back, just like her Dad. Her Mum was a worrier and black and white thinker, so the dominant genes were her Dad's. When Julie has a depression, it only usually lasts 2 days!
  10. Are you a lark or an owl? And as such, how are you coping with lockdown? I am a lark (my wife is an owl) so we have to work around this. E.g. She doesn't really acknowledge any start to the day till about 11.00hrs! And only wants to go for a walk about 14.30 hrs. As a retired businessman who was up and out of the door at 07.15, those differences become far more meaningful in retirement and, furthermore, in lockdown. And the winter, in lockdown, has been a challenge - especially as, being vulnerable at over 70, we truly felt that we had to use online grocery shopping and delivery until we had had the vaccine and waited 3 weeks for full effect. Well as a lark I wake early, but read or meditate till time to give my wife her hypothyroidism meds (which she has to take with water an hour before breakfast) then listen to the radio before a gentle process of washing shaving dressing and preparing breakfast. After breakfast I tend to stroll down into the beautiful village, which still has its character (and thatched properties) although now connected to the town. I now often pop into the bakery, which serves coffee and pastries for takeaway, and sit on a bench staring across the road to my friend's café - where normally I would socialise many mornings a week. Returning home to our retirement bungalow there will be chores to do, a little cleaning, but then I can go to the loft room, play the radio, go online or paint. Lunch is 13.30 and Julie takes her walk an hour later and settles to watch TV. She can spend hours watching Catfish, home improvement or the usual girlie TV shows. Now it is better weather the garden is available for some gardening, and an occasional drive to the garden centre or into town is a joy, though not much open in town. After dinner together (often watching TV) I tend to fade by 20.00 hrs and retire to listen to music and read. Julie will mooch about, watch TV listen to radio, do puzzles till 00.30 It's not life as we usually know it, but the vaccine has given us more freedom.
  11. If you buy from Amazon folks, do set up your account to be through Amazon Smile, and your designated charity to be OCD-UK. I have done that. And just ordered an Amazon echo dot 4th generation smartspeaker for my birthday. Amazon will give OCD-UK 0.5% of the order, so I am raising money for the charity just by buying on Amazon.
  12. I think we might also thank all those hardy souls that combined with the charity to find ways to raise valuable sponsorship monefunding for the running of the organisation and the valuable work it does. For those that bought from the shop, or from Amazon through the link where the charity gets a small amount on each transaction, or just those who made donations of what they could afford, or became a member. We all play a part, even if all we can do is help others via the forum. We aren't out of these woods yet, and we don't truly know what lies ahead. But what we do know is we can rely on OCD-UK being there for us, whatever.
  13. What has been lost to the pandemic in terms of lives, livelihoods and mental health scars is massive. But through it all our wonderful charity, run by its trustees, staff moderators and volunteers, with input from the members and bulletin board users - and with wonderful input from its patrons and certain mental health professionals, has remained there for us .A magnificent resource to turn to, get support guidance inspiration, source materials. And it is mentioned as a help resource by the mental health organisation from which I am currently having therapy. Thank you everyone for all that has been, and is being, done for sufferers, their friends and families, and everyone affected by OCD during this dreadful pandemic.
  14. Feel free to record happy things that bring hope and joy to our restrictive current existence. I will always be grateful to two erstwhile friends, Kevin and Sue, for helping me overcome my shyness with females. What brought this on? Well although I have a sister, and we are close, we led separate lives really in childhood, with mostly separate friends and a gap of two years. We both went to separate grammar schools, nowhere near each other so no opportunity for social mixing. And I was too entranced at school in my extracurricular activities of singing in the school and church choir. When I moved to London and started work, there were no female professionals in my field, a very masculine environment. Gradually this changed, and I became friends with Sue, though not in a romantic way. We gelled, there were good times in a little clique and she gave me the female perspective on things. Kevin, like me, was a City of London insurance broker. He was in a longstanding relationship, I think with a childhood sweetheart, and incredibly comfortable with girls, and very able to speak "girl talk". I began to use Kevin as a role model, observing how he did this and picking up ideas. When I started to have the confidence to put these into action, I never looked back in my dating. And eventually I settled down and have continued to enjoy easy interaction with the other sex. It has enriched my life, and I thank Sue and Kevin for being the helpers that overcome my fears and self-worth issues in this respect.
  15. Started a watercolour painting by numbers picture of "Flying Scotsman" today. Very soothing. 

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