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It’s a very common ocd trigger but it will pass . Happened to me loads . Felt like end of world but now I can’t even remember why I was worried . Will pass . i made more of a fool of myself dramering about it than I ever did on the night . it will pass

I agree with Christina , I use way too much but am reducing it very gradually . Mainly because if cost

Well done for resisting 777 . I had a big trigger today and I don’t know if it’s the heat , but I was just like I can’t be bothered to worry about it .seemed to work .

My daughter had a couple she didn’t feel comfortable with , one was too blunt and rude . Do you mean like this or like an irrational fear ?

Thank you 777 and Christina. I think when they come thick and fast like that it is telling us to rest and to remove ourselves from the physical stress if possible . I’ve had a sleep and now I’m taking everything slowly . Even though I’m at work all day today i am going to prioritize and pace myself. It’s hard to see ocd as stress with real event , but with things like catastrophising after touching something it’s more obvious that we just aren’t thinking straight if we are overwhelmed .

Thank you break free . I knew you guys would understand thank you . I think I know what I need to do , it’s just good to be able to tell someone

Yes definitely, but coming on here helps. It’s hard for non sufferers to understand this forum has helped me so much .

Hi everyone . i have just been away for the weekend and i have been bombarded with ocd constantly . Worrying about getting ill before and during , from food or water or my illnesses . I have worried about bookings and timings and losing medication and harming someone . I have worried about offending people the list is just endless I could go on . i just can’t believe it . I held it together and tried to keep it to myself to not ruin it for my family or embarrass my son who’s girlfriends family were there . I just can’t believe it’s got this bad and this is on top of the main event worry I have posted about earlier . i know this needs to stop and I am working on accepting my real event and that all these worries need to stop and I am going to work on this but I just needed to “talk “ to people Who understand and not upset my family thank you.

I wish I could make this stop for you . You helped me so much in my post . I think ocd is making you think all this stuff . It always attacks the thing we fear most , mine is so different to yours , but my response is the same , my problem probably wouldn’t affect you nor yours mine . This is where we have to fight it .its taken something you care about and twisted it up to use it against you . I know you didnt and wouldn’t do anything bad but ocd makes it so we can’t see that ourselves . We have to call its bluff . Say “ Actually ocd , God forgives everyone so you can’t get me with this “ . If I can tell youre a good person, I’m sure God can but don’t use this as reassurance use it to tell ocd to get lost so that you can do this if it happens again . Then get busy with something productive or fun , even though it’s hard, see it as a win against ocd and you will also reap the benefits of what you did . Good luck you’ve got this !!!

I have been in exactly that situation before . It’s hard to not just give reassurance , but I will say everyone says this kind of thing all the time and doesn’t give it a second thought so that’s what you need to do . When this happened to me it passed relatively quickly if I got busy . Look at what is actually a problem and what is ocd making you overreact and it will become clear . Hope this helps

Doubt is so hard ocd sufferer , It’s the guilt as well . the thing is when I read anyone else’s post I can see it’s ocd and think “I wish I had that one because it’s clearly ocd” , equally my past worries don’t seem so bad . I'm now thinking all these people are being so lovely but they don’t know this bit….. This has happened to me before when I have been to drs for reassurance , before i knew reassurance was a bad thing , I then think “oh but I forgot to tell the dr this bit …” Real event is by far the hardest because you can’t just blame it on a faulty thought I need to try and live with the discomfort and not allow it to take over my life . The nights are the hardest it’s 4 am now . I’m jealous of everyone who doesn’t have this and I’m angry at myself for a careless slip up .. I wish it hadn’t happened but I also think if I can beat this then I’m on my way to beating ocd for good . I hope you are able to beat your recent one that started in April ocdsufferer , I guess we have to beat it in such a way that we defeat ocd rather than just getting relief that is short lived like ruminating our way out of it . I want to say , “Ha ha ocd I can live with the uncertainty and guilt and I’m not letting it ruin my life so you can’t get me again !” I hope one day we all can .

Thank you Simonsky , that means a lot to me . Sorry you had to go through this too. in the 70s and 80s there was not the awareness there is now and because we werent physically harmed we just suffered in silence . My mum still won’t get help or even see that she needs it , she just thinks she is careful and has standards that other people don’t . In the past we have tried to help her many times but she is now 80 and just refuses all help or anything emotional . I do feel as though I’ve had to work hard to get to a neutral place and then teach myself the skills my friends learned as children . Most practical stuff I have managed and emotional stuff like listening to my children’s feelings and boosting their confidence etc . It’s just this worry and ocd that is much harder to shift . thank you for such lovely words of encouragement which are telling of how far you have come that you are now able to help me . Times are better in this sense now , so onward and upward we can do it .

Thank you Garfield , that is such a kind post , you have really helped me to feel positive . the event did happen but I am going to try not to exaggerate the consequences and when any consequences do come along I will be in a position where I can handle them ! I want people to know it was a total accident and that I am not a bad person . I have low self esteem because of not having such a good career etc because of being held back by ocd so I often doubt myself . Your kind words have really helped with this .thank you for taking the time to support me

My children have definately been my reason to keep going through my very very dark times . It was so hard growing up with a mum with such complex mental issues and I couldn’t bear to think of them going through what I did , so I try to teach them a different way of life . I feel like I am getting like my mum, sometimes I can fight it , like with practical things like I have a paid job and also do charity work but sometimes the mental stuff runs very deep . my 4 boys are completely ocd free , my daughter has ocd sometimes but I have taught her many strategies and she is able to see it and know a how to be more rational so it never gets chronic . My mum still thinks the trees are killing us and that she causes diseases so won’t leave the house . Each generation has more knowledge . I have the knowledge but it’s just so hard . If I’m happy I fear I’ll loose everything , it’s so hard . i am grateful I have people on here to chat to , so I dont end up distressing my children like my mum did to us . thanks again for taking the time to reply.i want to be strong so that if there are any repercussions from my harming someone i can handle it ! thank you

You are right Snow Bear , I definitely need to do this . I need to learn to accept it could be me and seek some level of peace with out the certainty otherwise it will just keep happening . I am trying to build up my resilience to life in general by reading about people who showed courage in history to learn how they did this . you are so right Handy , eventually I have to be responsible for something , we can’t live in a world of viruses and busy roads etc and expect there never to be something . I do see that it’s courage I need to find . Bad things happen all the time I can’t just hide from everything so that I can be happy like my mum does , I have to learn to be happy ( or at least less distraught) alongside the bad times . These answers have given me a lot of help . I totally get you are right , thank you , now for the hard work ….