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  1. Feeling very vulnerable tonight, my dad is really unwell in hospital after suffereing a heart attack and he as also got an infection and severe temp 😢 

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    2. daja


      That’s great news Lost.

    3. Emsie


      That's such wonderful news, Lost. Xxx

    4. lostinme


      Thank you so much to everyone for your caring support and well wishes it means a lot to me :yes: 

  2. I think quite often when we first initially seek treatment we are unaware what to expect and what is to be offered to us, we just know we need help. So often (I think I am right to say) we are looking for a miracle cure or magic wand(so to speak to). I think finding a therapist that offers evidence based treatment that as proven successful to other patients gives us hope that we can also get better if we work along side our therapist. I think just because it’s not evidence based doesn’t mean it might not work for some individuals. What works for one doesn’t work for all. I think the most important concern here would be, why do they think that this treatment would be more suitable for me and could it possibly cause me to have a major setback or make things worse than what they already are? I think that evidence based treatment gives you the hope needed, an important part of recovery. Definetly, understanding CBT is a major part of the journey which can’t be learnt over a few weeks, in fact I’m still learning. I think one of the big downfalls of treatment and having to keep returning again and again is the lack of knowledge regarding CBT and more importantly understanding it. If I’m honest and I’m sure I’m not alone when I say this but the biggest part for me was understanding what words were used for what eg: (going over things over and over again in your mind, this is how I would have explained it before, so understanding when someone said you spend a lot of time ruminating was referring to this. Understanding what is your obsession, what is your compulsion etc, when you first seek treatment you are unaware of what they are never mind what they are called, you are just aware that you have to do things in a certain way or a certain number of times etc. To find CBT affective you need to be aware of what they are, how the therapist refers to them so you can apply the appropriate treatment, with a correct understanding of what you are doing and why you are doing it. I think that group sessions prior to CBT therapy would prove to be very affective and give you a better understanding before starting to apply it for these reasons.
  3. Hi guys, hope your all ok and still trying to push yourselves forward :)

    Sorry I’ve been a bit of a stranger recently but I’ve had a few difficulties of my own lately which as you know impacts on our OCD sadly :(

    Good news is I havnt let things slip back but sadly I’m no further forward :(

    It doesn’t feel right answering posts when I’m not in a positive mindset. 

    Take care of yourselves and hopefully I will be back here soon, best wishes as always, lost :)

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    2. taurean


      Glad you popped in and updated us lost. Keep going. Roy 

    3. taurean


      I am so pleased that you have been able to maintain your gains lost. It's a marathon 🏃 not a sprint, and accepting when we experience setbacks is all part of the journey. 


    4. lostinme


      Thank you daja and Roy, your kind words and support always mean a lot :)

      Hope you are both good and keeping well :) 

  4. Merry Christmas 🎄 

    Hope everyone as had a lovely day :)

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    2. gingerbreadgirl


      Happy Christmas lost :) 

    3. lostinme


      Hi Roy it’s been a good but very busy couple of days, spending lots of family time together playing games, drinking and eating way to much. Hoping to find a little relaxing time tomorrow, though I doubt it very much still lots of things planned :)

    4. lostinme


      Thank you daja and gbg, hope it’s been a good one for you too :yes:

  5. Bless you cub I’m glad to hear that never give up hope and have a little faith in yourself you can do this one step at a time
  6. Sadly it doesn’t work that way Phil, compulsions only get worst and never better and quite often when one doesn’t work it gets replaced with another, sadly making the OCD worse. The only way forward is by stopping your compulsions, this needs to be done gradually by working through your least anxiety provoking compulsion first and then when your feeling comfortable with this one you then start on your next one working through your heirachy step by step.
  7. lostinme

    Start of a new chapter

    Well done Freya, I’m so happy to hear you have taken that most important step
  8. I think it’s only natural to feel saddened and anxious when therapy comes to an end. It’s really frightening going it alone because you become afraid of setbacks. Try to keep hold of the positivity you had whilst you was in therapy and what you have learned along the way, remember that you did all the hard work and your therapist was there to guide and support you. Don’t feel afraid to reach out for help from the forum when you are needing a little guidance and support we are here for you. Well done, your doing great you can do this
  9. lostinme

    Can't cope anymore

    Sorry to hear you are both struggling at the moment, I’ve been there too so many times and it’s really not a nice feeling and at the time you feel like you can’t cope. But please remember that these times will and do pass. Try to do something enjoyable whether it’s reading a book, having a bath, going for a walk etc, making time to refocus your attention on something more positive. Your mood won’t lift immediately but don’t be disheartened keep doing it over and over again and eventually your mood will lift. Never give up hope, it leads to motivation and aids forward planning: a key ingredient to recovery.
  10. lostinme

    Deal with it later

    Yes i think it’s a great technique to use also at first it seems like the most important thing in the world, but quite often when it’s left alone it subsides into something of nothing
  11. Bless you Roy you are such a star ⭐️ always here to offer support and help to others
  12. Never felt so low and useless as I feel tonight, you build up your positives but then life just throws so many negatives at you, so how do you keep your head above water :(

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    2. lostinme


      Thankyou kindly everyone for all your well wishes :) it will teach me not to over castrophise a situation, the OCD snook in only slightly I think :a1_cheesygrin:🤔 

    3. gingerbreadgirl


      so pleased you're feeling better about things Lost :) xxx

    4. lostinme


      Thank you gbg, it’s crazy how we over react and only see the worst case scenario xx

  13. lostinme

    Laser dot when out.

    That’s the problem with OCD, we immediately zoom into what we perceive as a threat and don’t see the bigger picture, panic and anxiety strike straight away and you acted as though you was under attack, but sometimes things are not always as they appear. Looking at it in a more rational way this could be because of a number of reasons, a laser torch, a laser toy etc. Let it go and continue with your day
  14. Hope everyone is ok, I’m not very active at the moment very very busy what with Christmas soon upon us with lots to do and also applying for training courses etc. But thinking of you all and hopefully popping in from time to time.

    All the best as always lost :)

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    2. daja


      Take care Lost. x

    3. taurean


      Have an XMAS present from me, lost, to help you on your way 🎁

    4. gingerbreadgirl


      Really glad you're OK lost :) :) 

  15. Good post Roy, you’ve taught me an awful lot about worry and it as been really helpful