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  1. Hi GBG, I'm so chuffed, that's brilliant! You're so welcome. A huge well done. I hope it continues to work and that you then feel at ease watching TV as you did before. Xxx
  2. Hi Roy, I just wanted to say a huge thank you for everything. You have helped me and countless others so much. You have been there for me when I really needed help and guidance. Enjoy and hopefully see you around here soon. All my best wishes, Em xxx
  3. So glad it makes sense! You’re very welcome and I hope it helps watching TV tonight. I’ve been meaning to watch killing eve on catch up, so it’s great to hear it’s good. My pleasure and thank you, it was lovely on the beach. Xxx
  4. Hi GBG, we had a lovely time at the beach thank you. So I was thinking about what you said about you mentally bracing yourself and that you don’t know how to stop it as it’s automatic. I’m guessing you mean that you are anticipating something triggering you, so you have your scanner on as Roy would say. I’m guessing that you feel something when you mentally brace yourself and possibly think something. The first thing that came in to my head to try and tackle this was that when you know you’re mentally bracing yourself, to ridicule/belittle the response. Of course I’m not saying ridicule yourself, but the bracing. It’s a bit like when we say to ourselves something like ‘I’m not dealing with that right now’, when we try to delay a compulsion such as ruminating. You could initially possibly say something to yourself that ridicules the response. You wouldn’t be neutralising an obsession, just exposing the compulsion. Out it for what it is, just an OCD behaviour and not give it the time of day. I’m of course not suggesting replacing one compulsion with another. You’d just be making light of it to take the sting out and then give it the apathy it deserves. I’m not sure if this makes sense as I’m finding it hard to put in to words what I mean and of course it’s just an idea and it might not be the best approach. It’s what first came in to my head when you said the bracing is automatic. You could stop it by essentially laughing at it?? If this is complete cobblers then of course feel free to ignore. Em xxx
  5. You're so welcome, glad it makes sense. I'm going to have a think today about how you could stop/reduce the mental bracing, when I first read what you wrote something instantly popped in to my head that you could maybe try, but my daughter is desperate for me to take her to the beach so I'll give it some thought first and reply later. I'm not too bad thank you, cracked some themes but some still there. Xxx
  6. Hi GBG, I agree, it could well be those subtle compulsions. For me, I feel I’m in a better place, but there’s certainly things going on that maintain certain fears for me. I catch myself doing them, but sometimes I carry on as I’m trying to solve something to feel better. I need to crack that lure! To give you an example, it may be thinking something that’s self reassurance ‘it’s ok because he said that’, so recounting things, conversations. Or maybe trying to push thoughts away with an internal dialogue. I like Avo’s suggestion of writing things down to identify any subtle compulsions. I agree with Gemma too, what’s happening day to day to maintain them. The bracing could well be considered a compulsion too. It maybe worth keeping a log over a couple of days to help you uncover what’s going on and then you could highlight what you think are your subtle compulsions. I’m sorry if this comes across as repeating what others have said, but I just wanted you to know that they’re wise words and that I’m in a similar situation of the less obvious compulsions maintaining the situation. Wishing you all the best xxx
  7. Great topic, Roy! I was only talking about statistics this evening, albeit in a different context. I fell pregnant when I was 41, even though statistically my fertility was low. Plus, (and I didn’t know the statistics at the time), apparently I had a high risk of miscarriage. I was also statistically more likely to suffer from various conditions during my pregnancy. I had no issues and my beautiful girl turned 4 yesterday. That’s statistics for you! 😉 Aiming to be a black swan, Ashley! Love that!
  8. This is such a good description. This is how it feels for me. It's a roller coaster isn't it.
  9. Hi, first of all, here's a huge hug from me. I have quoted the above because I think we've all felt like this, I know I have, but you ARE strong enough to fight this! I have felt like that too, but I feel I'm in a better place right now and I don't feel like that at the moment. You can feel different too. Just because you feel it, it doesn't mean you are. You're great at your job, remember that! Plus to have a job you're passionate about is amazing, you are in the fortunate minority! As you said, I know you know what you need to do, and you have had some great achievements against OCD behaviours recently. Treat this feeling as a blip and keep going. I developed new themes too, so I know how you feel. I have been much better recently at not engaging in my intrusive thoughts and it's so true what they say as it really does lower the frequency and intensity of the thoughts. When you have that under your belt, it really gives you the impetuous to keep going. I've slipped over the past couple of days and the frequency went up again. So, keep going, see those improvements in action and learn from your mistakes and stick two fingers up to the false alarms that your OCD is creating. Hug xxx
  10. I completely agree with GBG, it's pretty much directly proportional for me.
  11. So glad you agree, thank you for all that you said, Roy. And I’ve done the beneficially resting this evening too. I’m going to build on my momentum.
  12. We really need to remember this as I've had another fulfilling day with activities and me too, rarely troubled. I feel like the longer I can take this approach, the more weaning off OCD thoughts and behaviours that I can do. A new normal. X
  13. Hi Dave, a huge well done! It’s brilliant what you’ve done. Keep going as PB says. X
  14. Hi everyone, I think my tip would be to limit the opportunities for OCD to come in to play. Based on my recent experiences, I have been very engrossed in various things over the last few days. Today for example, I have been gardening and tidying up the garden in general. I’ve been fully in the moment during these activities and various issues that I have at the moment were not in play at all. It knocks them away from my focus and it does diminish them afterwards. Mornings are always my danger point, and I know others here have said the same, so my other tip would be to not put yourself in a position for OCD thoughts and then compulsions on existing ‘issues’ to rear. For me, this would involve getting on with my day and not being on my own and left to my own devices. I know these are basic, but I have really noticed how much better I am when I’m fully occupied. Take care everyone. X
  15. Thank you PolarBear! No, me neither. At the moment if I find an ‘issue’ I just try to not engage/not do compulsions as my CBT techniques. When I fail it’s a catastrophic fail. I do have a thing about lumps and they are a big obsession, but it is not the only thing, it could be anything about my health...skin cancer, mouth cancer, bowel cancer, my heart, diabetes, my teeth, MS etc etc to name a few that I have feared.
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