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  1. I'm so sorry to hear that you're all struggling Your son sounds like he could have OCD so you've done the right thing booking an appointment to see a GP. Hopefully they will refer your son to your local Child and adolescent mental health service (CAMHS). If he has OCD then they should recommend Cognitive Behavioural Therapy. It's a talking therapy that looks at how his compulsions make his problem worse and looks to change his response to his worries. In the mean time, you can try to learn how to tackle OCD as best you can. It's likely that your son checks the rubbish because he worries something might happen if he doesn't and OCD will make him feel very responsible for preventing whatever he worries about. This is why it can be terrifying to not do compulsions and could be why he resorts to standing in your way and hitting himself. OCD-UK have a young person's guide to OCD you can freely download or request here, http://www.ocduk.org/teens/ Hopefully this will help your son feel less alone. There are also some brilliant self-help books for OCD which you could look through together when things are less anxious to begin talking about, discussing and understanding his problem together. The best adult one is probably Break free from OCD, if he is younger then Breaking free from OCD is great.
  2. Wow Ashley that's brilliant news, it's better than a tonne of presents to hear such OCD success. Well done a thousand times GBG is right, you are such an inspiration, thank you for sharing xx
  3. Hi, welcome to the forum Polar bear is right, no therapist will make you stop compulsions, that's not their job at all. The aim of therapy is to build a safe relationship of equals in order to challenge OCD. I'm sorry to hear that your relationship with your parents is difficult at the moment. OCD can put a lot of strain on families and unfortunately parents can say unhelpful things when confronted with such a difficult problem. Try not to be too hard on yourself, many people have been where you are, myself included, you can't just know how to get better, you need to learn new ways to approach your problem. Cognitive Behavioural Therapy is definitely worth looking into. With the help and support of a therapist, you will be surprised how much you can improve. Have a look at OCD-UK's Young person's guide, you can request a free copy or download an e-version here, http://www.ocduk.org/teens/ Hopefully it will help you see that you are not alone There is also a really good self-help book out there called Break free from OCD. It's a great book to learn what CBT is. You might be able to pick it up at a library.
  4. That's interesting, I didn't look at it like that. You could be right, awful thing to do if that's the case
  5. I don't think it's different from other misuse although it is odd that they tagged all the charities in. Is that easy to do on twitter or would they have to look them up?
  6. Hi Charley Are you currently doing CBT with your therapist? I found CBT really helpful yes. It helped to explain why I was feeling the way I was and how what I did (compulsions) made it worse. What have you found helpful in sessions and what have you found unhelpful? Is your therapist setting you homework? You mention that you want to control your emotions between sessions. What do you mean by that? I think what you say here is really important. Searching for 'the one' and valuing commitment and relationships is completely fine but it has probably made you particularly sensitive to thoughts about relationships. This is incredibly common for OCD sufferers so you're no different and is helpful in explaining why your OCD focuses on relationships You want to feel 'in love' to make sure that you're with the right person, but that's an unrealistic expectation, no one can feel anything for all that long, because all feelings come and go, love is no different. What your OCD has made you worry is that not feeling love at a particular moment means something. That's why you try to make sure. With CBT you'll learn that the problem isn't that there's something wrong with your relationship, the problem is you care about having the right relationship so much that you worry you're in the wrong one. So the goal in CBT isn't for you to be sure that you and your boyfriend should be together, it's to learn to not care, to accept the uncertainty that everyone in a relationship has to accept.
  7. In case anyone was confused Breaking free from OCD is not the same book as Break free from OCD. The first is for children and families, the second generally for adults
  8. Hi Charley I've experienced a lot of the thoughts that you have too. It can be incredibly difficult and leave you feeling very unsettled all the time. This type of OCD isn't any different to all the others, it's the compulsions that keep it going. In therapy you look at tolerating uncertainty and I think for you that's a biggy. No one knows for sure if they are with the right person yet the thoughts you're experiencing will be incredibly common. The difference between you and someone without OCD is that you saw that having doubts or questions as meaning something, beginning the OCD cycle. Have you talked to anyone about your OCD like your gp? Cognitive Behavioural Therapy is the recommended treatment and usually your gp can refer you for it, in England you can self-refer. Waiting lists vary, so looking into a self-help book like Break free from OCD can be a great place to start. With the help of therapy you'll learn to ignore these thoughts, accept them as just thoughts, that will reduce your feelings of doubt and make your feel a lot clearer about your relationship
  9. Gemma7


    There was a thread on Pure on the OCD in the media forum. I commented but can't remember what I said! I found it pretty good at the time
  10. I remember you too It's good to hear you've been doing well and you've had success with CBT, keep up the good work. It's also always great to have more people on the forum to share their wisdom so glad you've come back x
  11. Hi Donna That's great to hear you've been doing well. Yes treat this as a blip and ignore these urges to seek reassurance and you'll feel better in no time
  12. I hope everyone has a great time at the OCD-UK conference today :)

    1. gingerbreadgirl


      Ohhh yeah I forgot that was this weekend hope it's going well :) 

    2. taurean


      It was excellent, so proud of all those whose efforts and freely giving of their time made it possible. 

      Longest journeys I discovered. Some Belgians, and a family who came by car from Worthing. 

      Wonderful to see parents supporting their children with OCD, young and old. 

      There are so many family out there who really do make an effort to understand and help their relatives and offspring with OCD. 

      Living with someone with OCD can be incredibly challenging of course. These people are very special. 

    3. Andrea


      OCD-UK is the best OCD charity :57439eb60db27_thumbup:  :siterock: 

  13. Well done CAH_05, you did well today, and you can do this tonight x
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