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Gemma7

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  1. Gemma7

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    Hi Helen, if you are having suicidal thoughts you can ring the samaritans for support for free on 116 123 at any time. Know you are not alone, OCD can be overcome
  2. Gemma7

    DWP & Dread

    Have you looked at citizen's advice? They helped me a while ago with a benefit claim
  3. I am totally on board with your passion. I agree that people very much placed the burden on the individual to pull themselves together and agree that the cause of OCD is outside our control. However, there is not enough evidence to suggest it's a malfunctioning brain, there's no evidence to suggest that. Brains of people with OCD are physiologically the same as those without and brain images with increased blood flow in certain regions have never shown cause over causation. Also, any biological explanation of mental health problems has always been shown to be more stigmatising than environmental explanations. So it's actually counter intuitive to press the biological issue to get people to have more understanding and sympathy.
  4. Good post Saffie I haven't read every response but I agree with your original post. From what I've read the focus of CBT is usually to help with the immediate problems, so stuff you can't do now. This is obviously essential if someone can’t leave the house or eat etc. But I agree, often there is a lot of background stuff that remains that keeps you vulnerable to getting OCD again and I think an incredibly skilled therapist using lots of techniques from different therapy types is probably what is needed. I have found that I have had to learn a lot about myself to give up some of my compulsions. I have taken from as much psychological theory as I can to work out why and how things are this way. Also, it seems a lot of people say they feel they can't say certain things on the forum. I really do think there are more people here who agree with you than don't. We won't all agree all of the time, but fighting for people to have the best therapy on offer is what the charity is here for and exploring the shortcomings of CBT and particularly the often poor CBT people are given is part of that
  5. Can't find link, go to https://www.babcp.com/Default.aspx and follow their podcast links.
  6. Just listening to this, it's a podcast on CFT, there are others too. It falls under the area of cognitive behavioural therapies and it's from the BABCP website. There are podcasts on others too, might be worth listening for you Edit: trying to find link
  7. Although i agree CBT is not a panacea for all problems I don't think you can say it ignores social influences. Maybe a poor therapist would just look at you having OCD and use basic CBT techniques, but I would be looking for a therapist who had experience in many issues, who absolutely included the effect of our environment and who draws from many therapy models. Your problem would definitely fall under the bracket of problems that are helped by CBT.
  8. I agree with GBG, your previous strategies involved some normalising and some self-reassurance but I wouldn't worry about it. I think it's completely normal to do those things at first when you're struggling with OCD but now time has passed and with the help of CBT I'm sure you'll find better ways of dealing with the anxiety
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    Some advice - cleaning and germs

    I agree with dksea. I think your discussion with your partner was more about feeling secure enough to challenge OCD and was also about her issues so really needed to be talked about. All the confessing previously was much more in line with compulsive reassurance. Well done, I'm really glad you're seeing an improvement
  10. I agree it is and it shouldn't be this way. Have you started any relationship where one of the first things they know about you is you seek approval from other people so say things are fine when they aren't? That's where you need to start with a relationship with a therapist. So they can work with it from the start.
  11. Well, I'm not big on the 'this is who I am', I don't think anyone is who they are, we are all ever changing, but that's a topic for another day So if this is who you are, find a therapist where you can incorporate this form of communication. You could both agree to email any extra thoughts you've had on a subject you were talking about or take notes with you into your session. You aren't likely to be the only person who prefers this. This is overgeneralising, making assumptions and using feelings as evidence but you know that already. Just keep your options open I say!
  12. But why? Are you sure it isn't a check of some form. Say you say something wrong and it needs correcting, what is so bad about that. I really get the 'I know best' thing, my one and only therapist was useless, just used to go on about how he went to the shops for exposures with other clients. He never ever suggested doing the same for me! No formulation, no talking of thoughts, assumptions and beliefs. Totally rubbish. But anyone with an 'I know best' attitude is a bad therapist/gp, still isn't a reason to not try again. Good, I hope it helps. What we all need is a therapist like Paul Salkovskis and co
  13. Hi GBG I understand what you are saying about therapy being difficult for you, it's like you need a little therapy for some of your problems to help you feel confident enough to engage in therapy with a therapist. I haven't had a therapist, but I actually think finding a good therapist would be amazing. Absolutely amazing. I don't go looking for one but if I was stuck I would. I don't understand why you don't think therapy would work for you. Your experience clearly wasn't the best but that doesn't mean the next one will be as bad. I think you need CBT with an added therapy like Compassion Focused Therapy but that's just my opinion. Definitely read CBT for OCD, it's where I learnt extra stuff
  14. Eh? Sounds strange. So those who just reach recovery haven't had a significant improvement in their condition? Does that mean they were less severe than those who meet reliable recovery to start with? That's the only condition I can think of for that to be the case. In other words the difference between their initial score and end score can't be classed as 'significant'. I suppose that is more transparent than just classifying all those as people in recovery, but not that keen on the word reliable. Don't get why it isn't just significant recovery and significant improvement!
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