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  1. Thanks for this, Howard. Have you ever read anything by Seamus Heaney? I would argue he is one of the best (if not THE best) poets who ever lived.
  2. Also I'm so glad your job is going well and that you enjoy it. Hopefully now you've got a good therapist you can kick OCD's butt and put all these worries to bed.
  3. I honestly think these beliefs that you have will go away with time and as you get older. It's definitely a part of growing up and not unique to any particular generation I think. Like I said I remember when I was about 19 or so and I had similar views about relationships and so did most other people I knew at the time. We had MySpace back in the day and I remember posts going around about things like "10 reasons your boyfriend is the perfect guy" and things like that. I'm 33 now so not ancient haha but I definitely know a lot more now about stuff hopefully!
  4. This is me. I am the world's worst flirt. I can't help it sometimes I just love men so much šŸ˜‚ BUT I am happily married to my husband and I'm so in love with him even though we've been together for nearly 14 years. I would never cheat on him and even though I fancy and flirt sometimes with men I also understand that I would never cheat on or leave my husband for any of them. I do think some of your rigid views about fancying other people is a byproduct of your age though as I remember having similar views when I was about 19/20/21 or so. They went away over time though as I got older and learnt a bit more about the world!
  5. I agree with what others have said, all this is doing is dredging up the past for no reason. You've already told your wife about the infidelity numerous times. Who started it or ended it or who exactly did what doesn't really matter. If you started it and then carried on then you still cheated, if she started it and then you responded to it and carried on then you still cheated. If you ended it first you still cheated, or if she ended it first then you still cheated. Your OCD is hyperfixating on a tiny insignificant detail in the whole event and making it seem like everything hinges on that detail when it doesn't. Your wife already knows that you cheated and you worked through that as a couple at the time, and she has made her choice to stick with you and move forward with her life. By bringing it back up again for no reason all it will do is jeopardise your marriage even further and cause further upset to you and your wife.
  6. Is there not a disability support department at your uni? At mine there was DASS (disability advice and support services). I had to provide medical evidence of my OCD (a note from the GP), and they were able to arrange for me to have extra time for exams and coursework, and they also assigned me a support mentor as well. The department itself did all of this directly and not the academic department/tutors.
  7. Unfortunately that's the nature of the beast, Summer ā˜¹ļø. The trick is to not get drawn in by these intrusive thoughts by not doing any compulsions. If you do this consistently then the intrusive thoughts should lessen and not get in the way of your happiness.
  8. That's great news šŸ˜Š. Glad to hear you all made it home. Hopefully your son will be able to access treatment soon and start his journey to recovery.
  9. I don't believe you are a lost soul at all, NLL. You have OCD, which with the right treatment you can recover from and lead a happy, fulfilling life. Your age is not a disadvantage or a predictor of whether you will get better or not. Many former sufferers didn't start getting better until they were in their 40s, 50s and beyond, but once they did they never looked back. When do you start therapy?
  10. You are holding on to a false belief about something that has absolutely no basis in reality. Multiple professionals have told you that no harm was done to the baby yet you still persist with this worry and obsession. What do you think is driving this obsession? Once you get down to the core of most obsessions you will find that they're usually driven by a specific fear. Do you think it could be due to a fear of losing control? A fear that you could have lost control of yourself and harmed the baby? Or is it that you worry you must be perfect all of the time otherwise something bad might happen? Do you worry that deep down inside you might be a monster who is capable of harming others? Once you've worked out what's driving an obsession then it becomes a lot easier to tackle.
  11. Lynz


    I'm a massive book nerd and I'm constantly reading and looking for new books to read. At the moment I'm making my way through the complete works of James Joyce. I've just finished Dubliners and A Portrait of the Artist as a Young Man, and I'm also reading his complete letters, which are just as fascinating as his actual books IMO (I'm a huge Joyce fan haha). I've also recently read Shadow and Bone from the Grishaverse, I read the Six of Crows books first which were much better though. Generally I will read absolutely anything and I don't really have favourite genres as such. I'm also making my way through all of the Agatha Christie books too. Some nice books to read that always chill me out and relax me are the No.1 Ladies Detective Agency books by Alexander McCall Smith. I've read them all! Hmmm what else can I mention... The Thursday Murder Club by Richard Osman was good, so was Where the Crawdads Sing by Delia Owens, and so was Daisy Jones and the Six by Taylor Jenkins Reid. I'm on Goodreads and my reading challenge for this year is 50 books. I read 40 last year and 37 the year before that! I don't have much of a life at the moment but I do have my books! I reckon the forum should start an online book club, even if it's just done by a thread on the forum where members vote a book to read each month, read it, and then come back and discuss it. I think books are great for mental well-being and promoting reading would be a good thing to do IMO. I will do it if no-one else wants to!
  12. Is there a chance he could perhaps take some essential things with him today, and then you all come back at a later date, maybe in a few days or a week's time, to get the rest of his stuff? Obviously I don't know if this is feasible or not depending on distances but I thought it was worth mentioning as an idea. Especially as you said his tenancy doesn't run out until July so he's got plenty of time to move everything.
  13. I think the trick is to not push him and make it clear that it's OK for him to take his time packing and that if it takes a while to get everything sorted then that's fine. If he needs to have a break from packing to try and deal with everything then that's OK too. Has he told you what it is exactly that's overwhelming him?
  14. Women don't stare at men and try and keep an eye on them if they creep us out. We actively avoid them and avoid eye contact. It's instinctive. So if she's looking at you a lot then there's absolutely no way that she thinks you're a creep. You're overthinking this and should put it all to bed.
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