Kcbell92

The Mets are struggling again. I know you’ve all given me advice, but I’m very close to just giving up. I got people online who are Yankees and Phillies fans telling me to go waste away and overdose, and **** my dad and more then even that. And now I think when people at work take shots against the Mets, that they mean it like the ones online or people from the past, and I am close to just giving up. Just giving in. Mets have lost 5 of the last 6, and fallen out of first. I want to die

I am trying to turn to other hobbies and activities to keep my mind off of the tough losses, and focusing on what else I can do in my free time

Can anyone help

I’m fed up with being like this during rough losses. I think it’s best I just give up

Some of you may know. I am a huge New York Mets fan in baseball. They are doing good so far, 19 wins & 9 losses, but they blew a 7-1 lead today, and lost 8-7 and I’m just envisioning name thinking they’ll collapse and this loss is the start of it. I got severely depressed and I wish to just die in my sleep naturally. I can’t handle ruminating over the bad blown losses and what will come from it,

My family loves him. And they obsess over him. Bc they think that the only issues that matter are economics and borders and that, that’s all anyone is focused on. Bc they blame immigrants for everything but anyway, this isn’t a place for politics

Thank you. You remember how bad I used to be, right?

Yes, @PolarBear is stern with it but honest and truthful

I was once a sufferer, and a bad sufferer, back in 2021. Every little thing different bothered me with my car, my health, my home, my job, whatever. every noise and movement and feeling was making me ruminate for hours, but it isn’t worth it.

I’ve grown a lot on myself and my life, I’m not an ex sufferer but I’m not a sufferer anymore either. I’m finding ways to grow myself and think straightforward and cleaner, I have challenged myself with issues that used to affect me or I was worried would affect me, and I realized I’m capable of more then I initially thought. I idolized @PolarBear and at first I didn’t understand what he was saying, and didn’t think it’ll work. But it has worked better then I thought, following his lead amongst others here who have been here for me

It’s just entertainment and meant for fun, most shows don’t explain everything up front either. They make you guess

I think I should start small and rebuild myself watching stuff that has more details to it and accept I won’t understand a lot but I can still enjoy

Any advice to watch a show and just not focus on feeling I have to understand and know what there saying and doing at all times.

I’m struggling feeling I can’t keep up and can’t watch shows and I can’t understand and know what they mean

So in a few weeks, The medication won’t help ease the thoughts or ease my mind to just stop obsessing and stop the importance of obessing that I have to understand and know all that everyone means when they are saying or doing stuff, when I watch something

I started Luvox again for my ocd. I started the set dosage last week, I also take Abilify. I am working hard as I previously posted on not falling into ruminating and obsessive thoughts like I used to. it’s improving but I sometimes have occasional mental setbacks. Like now I’m focusing heavily on having to understand and know what people mean when I’m watching a show. I can’t enjoy myself just watching a show bc I feel I have to keep up and follow everything they say and do and I have to understand and know what they mean when they say it and I have to hear them clearly any suggestions for this issue?

Yes I am using techniques from CBT to understand that it’s fine that he doesn’t give me the re assurance I want from him like your saying. And the reasons why it’s fine I don’t need his re assurance I want from him

Yes, I used that just now when obsessing over a friend who used to chat often and the last two years just stopped answering me much and just says that he doesn’t text anyone and it’s nothing personal. I told myself we aren’t close and it isn’t important if he talks to me or not. He doesn’t answer and doesn’t care to answer, he is living in the moment, and focusing on what he’s doing now and sticking to that.

Thanks @northpaul I’m starting to just realize that my obsessive thoughts are nothing in reality, nothing but thoughts that ruminating over it won’t change the outcome of the issue I’m obessing over

Wow, the break from this forum site has been immensely productive for me, I’ve begun to finally consistently just blow off thoughts and forget it and move on and I feel like it’s ok. Idk what hit me but whatever it is, I’m feeling blessed, I still have slight obsessive thoughts but over the last about 2 weeks now. I’ve begun to blow them off with little to no ruminating. Now I consider myself “living with ocd” and yes I am. But I thrive to become an ex sufferer one day. Any ideas?

Would u say that if I have an obsessive thought and I just say “oh it’ll be fine, focus on enjoying myself in the moment and going forward” is still suffering from it? Bc I spend a few seconds to a minute ruminating over the issue and then saying it’ll be fine in a bunch of words, and refocusing my mind

Well, it depends on the issue too. Sometimes the issues take longer then others, but I’m trying to learn to take one issue the same as another, no matter how severe

I finally feel like I am reaching a more stable level of a more advanced “living with ocd” I am starting to finally feel like I can blow off thoughts and worries to avoid majority of ruminating and worst case thinking. And I’m starting to feel like when I blow it off, it’s Easier to take my mind off of it and then focus onto the next thing with a more clear eased mindset and focus. And then I do forget it after and I accepted it’s okay to forget it and move on with your life. And not look back and anazyle bc ruminating won’t do anything. im still living with ocd bc I sometimes have a harder time blowing off obsessions then other times. And I sometimes keep going back to the ruminating habit, but I keep working at it. Can anyone relate and understand what I’m saying directly on this?

Meanwhile, I realized how ruminating does nothing but cause issues, my car is done, and inspected and passed. New mechanic is letting me gradually pay, and the Mets won the first 2 of the last 3 and are in the playoffs! it all worked out and I wasn’t anticipating to need it to as much and wasn’t ruminating

Thanks guys, ruminating does nothing and the issues aren’t as serious as I make them sound and won’t be the worst case I always think