Kcbell92

I just feel like bc two people from my past always told me that I’m a terrible person who can’t control myself and better myself and that I’ll always be looked at as a failure to everyone around me and never have any friends and I tried hard to do what’s right by them. So being me and other friends now have had disagreements and even if i felt we worked it out. I also feel that they are holding onto issues with me in the past and if they don’t answer me for a couple days at a time sometimes

Now I’m focused that if my friend doesn’t answer me for a couple days I can’t take not hearing from them and I feel like I ruined everything and I always do and I’m freaking the hell out. I just spent 15 min crying and had a major anexity attack

I do plan on seeing a dentist like I said, but because I have to wait a few months, I just feel bc of that slightly uncomfortable feeling from when I bite down that feels slightly out of place and misaligned even without pain, that because I have that feeling sometimes when I bite down and I think it’s always feeling like that. That i won’t be able to focus on anything else and therefore can’t enjoy my life

@PolarBear I’m trying hard but need your help on this. I told myself if it doesn’t hurt and doesn’t bother me when I eat, drink or brush and it isn’t even feeling that sensitive or irritated when I’m not touching it either, I should just stop trying to bite down in the area where the crack piece hits the bottom teeth. Any idea to help my mind get over that until I get it checked out in the summer? It’ll help me feel I can enjoy my life despite the out of place and misaligned and slightly rough uncomfortable cracked area when bitting down on my teeth.

It does seem drastic I did realize. But I still can’t help but to focus whenever I do bite down or the tooth hits that area and it just feels slightly out of place or misaligned and uncomfortable rough even without pain that because it isn’t as stable as it was or because it is different feeling that it’s a major nuisance and I won’t be able to get my mind off of it bc it’s noticeably different and therefore can’t put my mind on enjoying where I go or what I do until it’s taken care of

@PolarBear I mentally melted down today bc now it feels like the cracked area of the tooth when I bite down against the bottom of the teeth. Again no pain and very come and go sensitivity, but I feel like it feels a little rough against my tooth when I bite down like a little out of place and misaligned and I feel until I go probably this summer to see a dentist, that I can’t enjoy my life knowing when I bite down to the teeth under that top tooth with the small crack, there is a little feeling like that cracked area has a little rough out of place and misaligned feeling. I need serious advice in the meantime of when I look into a dentist to accept that there is a crack and most importantly that when I bite down it doesn’t feel fully 100 percent right and has a slightly out of place and misaligned feeling on the edge where the small crack is i just feel I cannot enjoy my life knowing that when I bite down that there is a slight out of place and misaligned feeling bc of the cracked edge of the tooth

I have this issue I’m struggling with and have been for years. I have a friend who I talk to often and haven’t seen in a while but we plan to get together this summer when there more free. But point being is, I want go to back to universal studios Florida either this year or next. And regardless of when I go, I feel I can only go with this one friend and not other friends bc I feel I won’t enjoy the trip as much with other friends even if there also close to me. It’s something I’ve been trying to work on for a long time now and something that led in the past to me giving away a lot of money trying to hold onto friends bc of what people in my past who turned against me and called me out for being a failure in life got in my head. I just need a direction with accepting I could go on that trip or another trip without the friend I feel I have to go with and still enjoy

He did yes. And any feelings in my mouth as a whole doesn’t mean it’s because of the crack in the tooth causing major problems with everything with the tooth either. If it hurts or feels worse I can make a dental appointment but it isn’t even a serious deal

It’s just a small crack in the back right side of the back right tooth. I stopped feeling that small crack with my tongue for the most part. But since I started to, I began to feel like that area is out of place or misaligned but when I just felt it with my tongue it feels the same as last week before I had the out of place feeling.

@PolarBear I just have another question, do you think it’s all in my head regarding like my small non pain crack in the back tooth in reference to that area feeling like it’s out of place or misaligned and thinking it feels Like that despite no pain. And I’m wondering if it’s real or not that it feels out of place and misaligned. Or is a lot of this just in my own mind creating feelings like the small crack is out of place or misaligned

I will keep at it, and I’ll continue to remind myself yes I can get it checked out in time, but no matter how much I felt it, or how much I was worried the crack would worsen, in the end, it doesn’t hurt at all and I can relax on it for now

I meant the right side of it by the tooth but it’s the same concept of what your saying that I’m turning a small potential issue into a huge ordeal. I am now blowing off the compulsions to continue to roll my tongue over my tooth I am starting to focus on other things and relax my mind

@PolarBear I’m having a hard time dealing with not feeling my small non pain crack in my tooth with my tongue. I’m trying to blow off the feelings and worries that my mouth is all messed up apparently suddenly from the small crack in the back tooth, and I’m trying to blow off feelings that if I get any food in it, or if I can’t feel the tooth crack In A certain way that it’ll be damaged and I need to feel it again and again in that certain way, that if I can’t feel it like that. That it’s damaged and ruined and I need to feel it the same way I want for it to be better. Any advice on how to go about that

Medication is important too. Especially at the start of a recovery. But, CBT is important to gain tools to get over the compulsions and the intrusive thoughts to blow them off as nothing but that

Yes, if you remember I used to struggle very heavily with my compulsions regarding things like my health and my car. If like now I focus on a small crack in the back of my back tooth, I focus on the positives, yes I can always look into fixing it with a dentist in the future. My mind may tell me to continue to feel it with my tongue but in reality if it doesn’t hurt or without feeling it I wouldn’t know it’s there. It’s not a issue currently. CBT and meds helps a lot

It’s a question I have asked previously on here a while back I believe. I’ve been learning to stop giving into my compulsions as much and stop ruminating and living in the past or trying to analyze things in the present so much also. But someone like @PolarBear had previously discussed how they became an ex sufferer and what exactly it entails. Like how exactly do you blow off obsessions and just accept it as no big deal or not a immediate worst case issue

Over time the compulsions and worries and stress of it gets easier. As you realize over days and weeks, it hasn’t gotten worse and your still alive or still handling yourself and over time you just fight off the issues you were holding onto and you adjust to it

I noticed myself gradually finding my way overcoming and defeating the negative and aggressive thoughts, which can be like about my health or my car issues or just general issues I latch onto and make worse. But I’m learning how to have patience and figure out ways to let the thoughts just gradually go away. Some tactics I use like through cbt like with a small crack in my upper right tooth since 2018 I began Obsessing over is like “if it doesn’t hurt, it isn’t a big problem, stop feeling it to see if it’s getting larger and if it had gotten larger, it hasn’t gotten much worse at all since 2018”

Does anyone suffer from anxiety jolts when doing the same thing day after days after day like work and home and work and home and trying to enjoy as much as you can, so you try to remember too much and when you can’t and keep doing your same daily routine you get major anexity ?

What exactly created this obsession with her and what created the level your at now when you feel nothing can distract you from wanting to be around her?

It will hurt initially overcoming this issue with her and what she put you through and what you put yourself through. But I’m glad I could help but there is so much paranoia and doubt and history, that it seems as though you just aren’t meant to be with her and best off restarting your life on your own and/or with someone else eventually. She was spiking your compulsions and causing you to act heavily on them. It was poison for you and you couldn’t handle it

There seems to be a lot of baggage on this issue. A lot of scenarios that spike and trigger your ocd. Honestly it doesn’t seem healthy for you to be in this relationship because of paranoia and a bad history of lying and disregard for feelings. And you committed a lot to seeing her (leaving your ex as well) I used to have the same problem and think everyone is turning against me and is looking to use me because I’ve been taken advantage of in the past and lied to by others. My advice is to just stop acting in your compulsions of smelling the hands because your using too many angles with that and by smelling your stuff and trying to figure out if she has the other man’s stuff on her hands is all a compulsion out of paranoia and fear of worst case (all part of ocd) and leave the worst case as acceptable (if she isn’t with you, you can do things on your own for a while and meet new people in time)

I need some ideas of possible hobbies but not sports because I’m into that. Maybe it’s my job and me sitting at a desk all day that makes me like this too

Do you guys think this could be led on from working 50-60 hours a week and maybe needing to up my medication with CBT? Any advice helps

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