Kcbell92

I will admit I do have a lot of black and white thinking, and it is always absolutely worst case. In the sense of I’m used to everyone doing me dirty and I have no patience for something to probably work out somewhat at least. I hope others can understand I’m not purposely or selfishly doing this and I will listen to others who are willing to help with advice, I’m sorry for the way I came off and I wish to have no issues with others in the future here @McW for one. I’m sorry

I’m sorry if I’m upsetting anyone, I just felt like I had to get only support from snow bear and polar bear bc I felt in my mind it’s the only way I’ll feel content with direction to overcome the issues I posted about. I understand it came off as selfish and disrespectful

I do often lean to them bc I feel that I have to get there answers as the only answers that will work for me and your right, it’s ocd

Snowbear said about distracting my mind, but how do I go about it @PolarBear is there any techniques or ways to handle it?

Any advice on ways to practice?

Then what’s the best way of practicing bc I’m willing to get there

It’s so difficult though. It’s so enforcing and aggressive and I feel I have to continue to fight it and it has to be the way I need it and the pattern of thinking detailed exactly as it was and that I have to keep repeating it in my mind. What type of practice will work in terms of catching myself ruminating and just blowing off and Being Able to accept that it isn’t important and I won’t remember it anyway and it’s ok if I end the ruminating in the way I didn’t want it in. Bc of the patterns and rituals that I feel it has to end with me saying the 4 terms connected to something Being bad in the same order I originally said it and as fast and organized as it can be

I can answer it for myself yes and I realized I’m seeking re assurance again, and that isn’t good for ocd. The new mechanic wikl do all he can to fix the issue and have inc go under 2 when he’s done also speaking of which, I noticed too, whether it’s worries of the car or the Mets or peoples comments or conversations with people. I am realizing trying to constantly ruminate on it in my mind won’t do anything for me but I’m trying to blow it off and accept that I can’t remember or it isn’t important to remember every detail and I keep finding myself trying to hold onto what I said and the way I said it, and how it was said like I feel I need to have the patterns remembered in the ways I need them to be in my mind, and as detailed as it was and needs to be and my mind keeps pushing it back to me if you know what I mean, and I wanna be able to get passed it and let it go. Need advice on this and this can also help me with like serious affecting issues in my mind like this car now. @PolarBear @snowbear

So @snowbear the other people are right and I have to just trust my new mechanic based off what he said and how he is and trust he’ll take care of the issue as he said to get it down below 2 incomplete as he also said, and don’t think about what the old mechanic said as I mentioned and take it seriously what he said when he didn’t help me after he said it that what he’s said is why incomplete won’t ever go below 2 despite whatever the nicer more knowledgeable understanding hard working mechanic said

Does anyone have any advice for me mentally to handle this issue

Anyway, update to this whole situation. I started seeing a new mechanic, and the new mechanic told me that he’s going to do work to the engine and under the car, and he’ll get the incomplete below 2, so I can avoid a ticket for expired inspection soon. he’s going to have me bring it Monday and he said he’s going to do alot more for the car, because he said that it isn’t like i thought that I’ll drive the car for as long as it lasts and the incomplete will stay at 2 as long as it lasts and he said something connected to the emissions and o2 (where the 2 incomplete are) is stopping the testing from completing. so I asked him something similar to, “you’ll find all parts connected to 2 incomplete 100 percent and you’ll fix all parts connected to 2 incomplete 100 percent and once all parts connected to 2 incomplete is fixed and good, then incomplete will go below 2 because testing competed?” And he said something like “yes, 100 percent” my friends told me stop thinking how he won’t be able to fix every part connected to incomplete 2, and after he fixed every part connected to incomplete 2, testing won’t complete still and incomplete will stay at 2 especially after what he said to me, and stop thinking worst case just said above, because of the old mechanic who didn’t go out of his way to help you saying how you have a old car that’s going to be run down to the ground and be unusable forever within a year, and because he made it sound he couldn’t fix anything in the car bc he fixed the issue connected with the Check engine light and he can’t fix anything that’s not a code for check engine light and just an incomplete they said at this point trust your new mechanic he’ll fix the car as best he can and when he’s done, incomplete will go below 2. feelings?

I am not eating or sleeping as I said bc this is such a slow process and I’m constantly worse case thinking I can’t take it anymore!!!!!!!

I know you don’t know my mechanic but I feel I can’t handle this waiting. I guess you don’t know codes, maybe it isn’t like that in England but I’m still so nervous, bc I’m worried I’ll drive it forever and with the check engine light off, the incomplete codes will stay at 2 forever and not go below 2 forever. My mechanic said “eventually” when I asked “if I drive it without the light on, eventually will the incomplete codes to below 2” bc I have to get it inspected soon to be Able to drive it through 2025, and I don’t have the money right now just yet for a newer car

Ok if you want me to let it go, can you tell me if I should trust my mechanic then please? That if I drive without the check engine light coming on, that with 3/4 or so gas. Eventually the incomplete codes will go below 2 quickly?

Ok so update. I went to the mechanic today and he told me that his partner who was helping me the last two days, told him that I was driving my car with 1/4 of gas. I was told I have to drive it with 3/4 gas for like 50 miles bc he said something similar to “the car needs gas pressure to be able to have the incomplete codes go down” and “you have to drive the car with like 3/4 of gas because the emissions will be able to work” not exactly worded but close to it. And I’m wondering if at this point with all I’ve said and done and what I’ve told you they said. If I should just trust the mechanic with driving it 3/4 gas and the incomplete codes should go below 2 quicker when driving it with 3/4 gas? So I can stop this ruminating

No sleep, hardly eating bc of this, I need help, And I need to answer to what I just said

Should I trust what my mechanic said and give benefit of the doubt, that based off what he said, most likely it’s not that I’ll drive the car forever and if the check engine light doesn’t come back on, that The incompletes will be at 2 forever and the incompletes wont go below 2 forever

Trying to do just that bc I too am fed up with the stress from the worrying

Being your saying this and yes I am doing just that, but that Should I trust what my mechanic said and give benefit of the doubt, that based off what he said, most likely it’s not that I’ll drive the car forever and if the check engine light doesn’t come back on, that The incompletes will be at 2 forever and the incompletes wont go below 2 forever

I can’t take the stress of feeling that I’ll drive the car forever, and even if the check engine light isn’t on, that the incomplete codes will be at 2 forever and the incomplete codes won’t go below 2 forever

I really need advice. Should I trust what my mechanic said and give benefit of the doubt, that based off what he said, most likely it’s not that I’ll drive the car forever and if the check engine light doesn’t come back on, that The incompletes will be at 2 forever and the incompletes wont go below 2 forever

I just had a serious anxiety attack. My mind can’t stop running. I went Monday and he found it to be a small issue air sensor to maybe have to fix, he shut off the check engine light and he told me to drive. I drove 188 miles since Monday and went to him like 5-6 times, he checked the reader, 0 pending codes and 2 incomplete codes still. (I need 1 at most for inspection) I asked him if he’s ever had a situation where he fixed an issue and shut off the check engine light, and a car never went below 2 incomplete after driving with the light off. And he said “no, but I have had cars that have taken a long while” so now I’m worrying that I’ll drive the car forever bc of how long it’s taken so far for the incomplete to go below 2. And even with the check engine light off, the incompletes will stay at 2 forever and won’t go below 2 forever it’s destroying me mentally, I’m not eating much and sleeping much. People at work said I look extremely fatigued

@PolarBear he fixed an issue he felt was the main issue in why the codes were there and light on as well on Friday. I was going to bring It in Monday for inspection but the Light came back on. So now I’m telling myself “what if he is unable to fix the issues that caused the light to be on from the codes and/or unable to figure out what issue to fix that caused the light on from the codes” “what if the light stays on no matter what he fixes and he fixes every issue and its still on” im fearing this bc he fixed the main issue he felt would keep the light off so I can get it in for inspection to drive it for another year and right before Monday, lights back on and now I hope there isn’t a lot of issues that he won’t be able to fix. people as you saw said, that no matter what the issue, when he checks the codes, he’ll be able to see all the options he has to fix the issue that is causing the light to go on and no matter what he has to fix, to be able to stop all the issues in every way from causing the light to go on, he’ll be able to fix every issue that is connected with the codes that is causing the light to be on. I can’t take these worries and overthinking. I need the car to just ******* have check engine light off long enough without incomplete codes after shutting it off so I can take it for inspection

So just leave it to them doing all they can fix as they can fix all they have the ability to do until they finally fix enough issues which they are able to fix to make sure there are no more issues to fix to cause light to come on, so I can take it in soon for inspection?

Because again, what if the light stays on no matter what he fixes and he fixes every issue and its still on what if he is unable to fix the issues that caused the light to be on from the codes and/or unable to figure out what issue to fix that caused the light on from the codes what if the people saying how he’ll be able to fix every issue eventually to make sure light stays on are wront How will I get to work and save money for a newer car with all my hard earned money after being used for that insane amount of money in 2021