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  1. Are you able to expand on what you did last night GBG and how it differed to what you did previously?
  2. This is where having an understanding of OCD can be helpful for both therapists and dare I say it, on here. Saying this to someone with OCD is, possibly well-intended, but it's missing the really important point.... to the person with OCD the thoughts 'feel' real. So if something 'feels' real, most people will react to that. So when trying to help someone move on from their OCD we must always remember,. what is none-important to you and me, 'feels' so very real to that person.
  3. OCD itself wouldn't exempt you, but when I looked at this a few years ago for someone, if they can show serving at this time would considerable anxiety then they were able to defer. But they were warned they could be called again in the future if memory serves me. Is there a number on the summons notice? I am happy to make a generic enquiry without giving them your name if you need me to.
  4. Don't worry, even the most well-meaning of people need a reminder to not forget the compassion sometimes
  5. No he's not. Again, with the second part of your post I am not actually clear what you are trying to say?
  6. No Handy. That's the problem with OCD, we can't let go of the thoughts and they bombard us. It's more complicated than that when you add emotions and interpretations into the mix. But ultimately we can't always choose what thoughts pop into our head. Often intrusive thoughts will pop into our head which are pleasant and nice so we usually smile and move on very quickly. But if the thought is a little more anxiety provoking we fixate and start to ask ourselves why we had that thought and at that point, BOOM, a deluge of questions and thoughts appear against our will. Think of the pink elephant (sometimes people do it with a pink bunny rabbit). Get that pink elephant in your mind, focus on it for 60 seconds. Now when we ask people to wipe that image from their mind, insist they do not think about the pink elephant most people suddenly start seeing the pink elephant in their thoughts. So, if somebody can suddenly switch their thoughts away I would suggest they don't have OCD. Do you have a formal diagnosis of OCD yourself Handy?
  7. In this country we do. It's called The National Institute for Health and Care Excellence (NICE) which evaluates all the evidence and makes recommendations for the treatment of mental health problems based on that global evidence. And for the most part, NICE generally get it right. Handy is right though, in the past pharmaceutical companies didn’t always publish unsuccessful trials and I have heard that too about DBS trials for depression, some disturbing things happening there, but this is not the place to debate that. Hopefully NICE will remain independent and focus on the evidence.
  8. I might find it offensive, but if I am honest I have no idea what you're talking about?
  9. I wouldn't say there's been a shift. Sometimes we have all been guilty of treading water and letting others keep inflating the life jacket with reassurance, rather than trying to swim to OCD safety ourselves, even if that sometimes leads to us needing a lifejacket throwing, that's ok to struggle, if we're at least trying to swim to safety on our own. Sometimes we lose sight of that and need it pointing out. I don't think that will change, we're a forum that is recovery focussed, not for reassurance. But the purpose of the thread is more about users not assuming motives for other users posts. But also rather than telling a person they need to swim more, which is too blunt and not always helpful if the person knows that, actually trying to help them understand why they need to swim more on their own and offering ideas on how they can learn to swim against the tide. * Disclaimer: This post is not really about swimming.
  10. There's one word there that is key and important and you need to focus on William. Not the paedophile word or the pervert word, but 'feel'... its making me 'feel' like I'm a paedophile. This is actually a point for everyone with all types of OCD. OCD makes us 'feel' we're a paedophile, makes us 'feel' we are contaminated, makes us feel we are a bad person etc, etc. But if there is one lesson I would teach everyone, that is that OCD is one big lying *******. Just because we feel something, doesn't make it reality, true, a desire, an intent, it's just a feeling, it really is nothing else. But the problem is, OCD doesn't like uncertainty or doubt so it convinces us that our feelings are true and we are, in this case, a paedophile. But it's not true, it goes back to my point above, OCD is one big fat lying *******. Just on the use of the acronyms, this is exactly why I despise them because it gives people the wrong impression which could lead to a failure to correctly address the real problem, OCD. So what I mean is William, you don't suffer from ROCD, HOCD or POCD. You have suffered with OCD, that's the common denominator, OCD and partly I guess your inability (which we all have) to accept the uncertainty from the particular thought of the day/week/month. By using the acronyms people often get sucked into treating the 'flavour' not the problem itself, OCD. Are you getting any therapeutic support for your OCD William?
  11. I get the analogy but I would suggest we need to go further, and say we don't want to even give OCD an inch, because it will eventually try and take that mile again eventually... So I would suggest we need to give it 0.00mm... i.e. not anything.
  12. On our website.... a great big list of them... https://www.ocduk.org/overcoming-ocd/medication/medication-side-effects/
  13. Especially women on the pill, I once read (years ago, so may need checking) St Johns Wort can make the contraceptive pill ineffective!
  14. I'm expecting a Gemma shaped visitor to the OCD-UK office later. 

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    2. lostinme


      Bless, i miss our Friday night chats. Give her my best wishes please :)

    3. Avo


      Send her my best wishes too, she has been a bit quiet on the forum of late. 

    4. taurean


      That will no doubt be an hour glass shape :)

      She has been excellent helping you with the magazine, and hopefully she will be up for more chat in the member's area soon. 

      Bless you Gemma enjoy the visit. 


  15. I think you may have missed my question @OCDhavenobrain My question of yesterday in case I am misunderstanding what I think you're saying was..
  16. Exactly, so I would certainly not call the advert 'disgusting'. Lazy is a good word that a few of you have used, but it doesn't imply OCD at all, unless you're looking for OCD. There are more obvious failures to apply disgusting to. Obsessive Compulsive Cleaners is one example. Some of the OCD Christmas jumpers another. Mind giving Corrie a media award for episodes where OCD was being joked about. They're all in the disgusting category, the advert I don't believe is.... in my opinion.
  17. This is one of the best common sense posts about medication I have seen a long time. Thank you for posting this dksea. I am not sure where in the world you are Happysmile, but I thought it may be helpful to list which medications we use here in the UK. The NICE guidelines which are based on evidence are recommendations for our NHS. As dksea points out we are all different, so these are just general guides. Selective Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitors (SSRI) SSRI medications are usually tried first. The SSRIs usually recommended for the treatment of OCD in the UK are: Generic Name / (Brand Names) Citalopram (Celexa, Cipramil) Escitalopram (Cipralex, Lexapro) Fluoxetine (Prozac) Fluvaxamine (Faverin, Luvox) Paroxetine (Paxil, Seroxat) Sertraline (Lustral, Zoloft) If these medications fail to work, a non-selective SRI may be prescribed. The non-selective SRI most commonly used for treating OCD is: Tricyclic Antidepressant (TCA) Clomipramine (Anafranil) Whilst people do report good results from Clomipramine, because of the strong side effects not everybody can tolerate and so it's only recommended to try after an adequate trial of at least one SSRI (I would actually suggest trying two SSRI's first) has been ineffective or poorly tolerated, or if the patient prefers Clomipramine or has had success in using the medication before. Beyond that some Dr's try augmenting anti-psychotic medications alongside an SSRI, however that is controversial in that some evidence suggests anti-psychotics are no better than placebo. Another Dr we work with sometimes did suggest he finds anti-psychotics can help, but usually there is a 4 week window in that if the medication is not helping by week 4 it's unlikely to help. So that's the medications generally used for OCD. That's not to say other medications can not help, but just what we generally start with here. If you do take medication, regardless of the medication you take refer back to dksea bullet list for the common sense usage of chosen medication.
  18. Sorry, would you care to elaborate on what you mean by a certain donation being made?
  19. Hiya Leif, I think the build up exposures did help. Remember, this was at the very top of my hierarchy, so any little exposures can only help and even if they only make the ultimate exposure 1% easier, every 1% helps.. marginal gains as Dave Brailsford would say. I think acceptance of the fact I needed to do the exercise and what it meant for me did help too, so another 1-2% there. Certainly a therapist doing it first helped take the edge of the anxiety, so that was another 1-2%. So you're right, having a support team behind us can help for sure, but ultimately it's down to us.... what allowed me to make that leap of faith then I am not quite sure, I guess all those factors combined helped.
  20. It did impact on my other OCD problems in a positive way, in that little things which would have previously bothered me and forced a hand wash were no longer doing that. For example I dropped my phone at the support group in a bathroom near the loo. At one time chances are that would have been thrown away, or at least cleaned to the point of destroying. I just picked it up, blew away any dust from the floor and popped it back in my pocket. I must admit at one time I could not imagine ever doing it either, but over time and the more I understand OCD/CBT I realised I needed to do it... actually doing it took a lot longer to put into practice, which is fine, but I do think the important part is acknowledging to ourselves when we need to do such an exercise. Once we accept the fact we need to do it, we can then set about trying to make it a reality.
  21. There's a lot of media misuse of OCD and I am the first to call it out, but this one wasn't specifically suggesting the person had OCD from what I could tell. So whilst clumsy as DC82 suggests I didn't think it was specifically saying this gentleman has OCD?
  22. Open to what a user brings, and treat users fairly, but not necessarily accepting of the content they bring if it's not accurate or misleading. Then it is fair to question, challenge or dismiss that content.
  23. No, not necessarily, as mentioned above, some of what you're seeing could in fact be symptomatic of something else. I will repeat again, lets please give each other the benefit of the doubt and refrain from public judgemental assumptions. Remember, I have done this for nearly 20 years and I can spot a mischief maker a mile off, even the subtle ones who like to stir the pot occasionally.
  24. True, to an extent. I,e critique the content not the motive for posting. We don't know what is going on in somebody else's shoes. For example some people may come across very 'to the point' seemingly without emotion when they post, in their head they are posting content intended to help, but to others it's seemingly nonsense. So as Wren points out we don't know if that person might be suffering co-morbidly with other conditions. So as mentioned we should be careful of accusing others of malicious intent unless there is very clear evidence they are deliberately trying to be malicious... For what it's worth, right now on the forum I don't think we have any users that are deliberately being malicious. So critique the content in terms of correcting it, but I don't think we should critique the motive for posting, so until there is clear evidence to the contrary I would like the forum to give each other the benefit of the doubt in terms of motive for posting.
  25. I think we all think like that about arguments mate, but if we assume that this is 99% OCD related, if it was not this argument then I guess it would have been something else the OCD was fixated on. What do you think? A x
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