Avoidance Vs. Distractions, re: Relationship Guilt

[paco5959]

This morning I'm driving to work with a gut reaction to a thought tucked away.

 

This though then manifested into.. if I don't remember then (before a relationship), what don't I remember now? (in a relationship) In relation to my OCD and relationship guilt. Related to specific events in my head.

 

I am distracting, distracting, distracting and totally free from OCD for some time. Then, when life is anxious for me, BAM! and I am confessing and feel the guilt as if I committed horrible cheating crime the night before. What is the difference between distractions and avoidance? I thought I'm supposed to distract when a thought comes on. But then I hear avoidance is bad also.

 

 

[PolarBear]

Hey paco.

If your obsessions are about kids, you don't want to avoid kids. You want to be okay with the anxiety and get on with your day.

I don't like the idea of distraction, which to me means doing a specific thing when you get an obsession. I prefer the concept of you getting an intrusive thought, recognizing it as such and refocusing back onto whatever you were doing at the time.