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OB1

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About OB1

  • Birthday 15/04/1974

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    Devon
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    Running, cycling, walking, photography, films, sailing, reading..

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  1. Happy Birthday! It's very knackering indeed. Well worth trying the over 50's club, just being with likeminded folk can help a lot Have you tried asking the charity for help accessing treatment?
  2. I remember it well, @Ashley. This forum provided a very much needed lifeline for me when I had no one else to talk to following a chance diagnosis from a recently qualified community mental health nurse who had been on a training course with Paul S. This forum has continued to provide support for me when I needed it over the last 20 years and I'm very thankful to all those who moderate and take part. Here's to another 20 years!
  3. Well done Bens. I've been there too and it is a very scary thing to share your darkest thoughts with someone you've never met. A corner turned in the right direction and you can be proud of yourself.
  4. Hi, I can't seem to register for the above, is there an issue? It says this is for authorised registrants only when I press the register button. Thanks
  5. OB1

    Photography

    Please explain more as I can't say I get that part
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    Photography

    I took this on my phone on a recent cycling trip to France which is full of amazing urban artwork.
  7. I've had EMDR for PTSD whilst having CBT. I was really worried about it like you, but it really isn't anything to worry about at all. I had all sorts of crazy ideas about what it would be like, all were wrong, you're just in a more relaxed state. If you've ever done something called stream of consciousness, which is just writing down whatever comes into your head, it's like that in a way. You follow whatever pops up in your head, verbalise it and go from there. For me it's hard to say if it worked or not, but I'd like to think it allowed me to look at things in a different light. Seriously, you have nothing at all to worry about. Let us know how it goes
  8. Please don't worry about that @snowbear and thanks for the apology. I think bluegas has summed things up pretty well in what he says especially about you being a lovely caring person. I also thought you might have worked for the NHS at some point so understand you want to defend them. The NHS are amazing in many aspects and I have huge respect for those on the front line, we'd be lost without them but mental health care seems to have always been neglected. Why can it be fantastic in some areas of the country and utterly appalling in others? That's not right. I haven't really thought about this much but now I do, I've had quite a lot of interaction with the NHS because of my own mental health issues and also my Dad's, he's been through the mill somewhat too. I suppose in an ideal world where there are enough GP's, doctors, therapists, psychologists and nurses who aren't overstretched, they could allocate those with a more sensitive approach to do the initial triaging when it comes to mental health. I'm not saying I haven't encountered some very caring and sensitive GP's because I have. I fully understand there is no one size fits all so they have to ask something, but I do think there's an opportunity to fine tune what GP's or any specialists ask a person. When you're in a state of constant anxiety or are depressed, the world can be a really a frightening place.
  9. Hi @snowbear I was merely responding to the request from Ashley about 'The experience of patients trying to access help for OCD', and I would very much welcome your input into problems you've faced in accessing NHS treatment (either medication and/or therapy). I was just expressing my own feeling and experiences. I'll add that I have also felt suicidal in the past so have some understanding of how that feels. I know you mean well but your reply does seem like a bit of a lecture. Yes the evidence may indicate asking these questions saves lives, but is anyone measuring the impact it has on people like me all those years ago who at that time was so shocked by that question that I didn't feel comfortable telling them about my OCD thoughts. I've just given my experience and don't need a lecture in return.
  10. Hi @Ashley Coincidentally I was talking to a friend yesterday about the same thing @bluegas said about having suicidal thoughts. I completely understand the thinking behind asking a person if they are feeling suicidal however, personal experience of being asked that by a GP for the first time was really frightening (I'm going way back in my first mental health NHS experiences now pre OCD diagnosis). It was frightening to me because I already felt terrified of my own awful thoughts as well as feeling completely alone and constantly anxious. So, to be asked if I wanted to kill myself (or harm anyone else for that matter) was not what I wanted to hear and just made me feel even more like something was wrong with me and just made things worse. So, one bit of feedback I would like to point out is that asking an already vulnerable person to rate how suicidal they are and if they have made any plans to kill themselves, is not the best starting point. Quite frankly they need to come up with something a little more nuanced and caring. Hope that's of some help.
  11. Hi Welterwhite I've been there many times, wanting the suffering to end and thinking about 'opting out' but as others have said, we don't really want to die, we only want the suffering to stop, it's completely understandable, we become desperate for anything to take away the torment. The good news is you can find a way to live without constant suffering, I'm proof of that and there are lot's of other people doing the same on here and out in the world. Focus on finding yourself some help, support, talk to someone. I was too scared to talk about my thoughts for years which prevented me getting the help I needed but when I finally did, it was a massive relief and it opened the way to getting the help and support I so needed. It's perfectly ok to feel how you do, but it's not ok to give up on yourself completely, I know you may not think it but you deserve better
  12. Great post Ashley, You've reminded me of Socratic questioning or the importance of giving ourselves a good question to frame our problem with. Sometimes in the past and present, I struggle to understand what is actually causing me so much anguish, but if I focus on finding the right question, such as, what am I actually afraid of, trying to prevent or avoid? The answers I need to help myself move forward are easier to discover. Sorry to hear about the current OCD situation.
  13. Hi Ashley, I was away over much of xmas but would love to do something in January if poss! Hope you had a nice one.
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