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It’s just when you feel like they are burning a hole in your brain, until you say it/confess it it doesn’t go away, but I know that something else just comes up after confessing so it’s a vicious cycle. Ocd makes you think it’s so important you confess this again and again the same thing or will never go away.

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Iv had quite a bit of therapy in the past and ERP has been amazing for ocd, I rarely had symptoms after that for a year or two and since being diagnosed with bipolar and probably through stress It’s reared it’s ugly head again, I’m just going to keep reminding myself it’s OCD.

Thanks very much that helps a lot, I know if I ignore them they will stop, as Iv done ERP before and I know it works, I think Iv just fell out of the pattern of doing it for a while. It seems you always have to be on your guard against ocd. I know if I confess, it’s just to get relief, but I understand it just keeps the cycle going. I will take your advice thank you ?

I haven’t been on here for a little while as Iv been dealing with bipolar and low mood but I really need some advice, Iv always had a confessing problem, and I have a habit of telling my boyfriend everything that was said in a conversation and my brain will pick out a particular part (what was said) and obsess about it, I have already told him all these things but my brain is obsessing over the same thing again, even though Iv already confessed it before it’s like I need to do it again, I’m finding it really hard to ignore. It seems like you always have to be on your guard with ocd, I don’t need to confess these things again do I? Thanks for any advice

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Thank you Can they stick for a while like a couple of days Before going away if you don’t do the compulsion of repeating it? I try telling myself it’s ocd but it still sticks for a while like a urge to repeat it.

I wondered if this is an ocd thing or not? Iv always obsessed over things people say, for example if one of my friends tells a rude joke I will repeat to my other half as I feel guilty for some reason having heard something rude, and sometimes if Iv got really bad anxiety and im panicking and someone tells me to try and stay calm il obsess over that too, especially if it’s said by another male. It will stick in my head thinking Iv done something wrong and il want to repeat what was said to my partner, it drives me crazy I know these things are harmless in my rational mind but can anyone help with this? Why would I obsess over simple things people have said? It’s like I feel like I’ve done something.

Ok thank you I see what you mean I will try the notebook thing first. ?I’m sure i will get to grips with it like I did before. ?

Because I have so many compulsions would you recommend cutting one out at a time? Like the compulsion to confess everything even my thoughts? I think that is one of the worst compulsions I have to be honest it’s excruciating at times it just feels like it’s never going to go away.

I have a compulsion to confess all the time to my partner about things Iv said in the past (conversations or actions Iv done) so I confess these to him and feel relief but then I start thinking have I explained everything in detail properly? So I end up confessing the same thing again but in a different way so I don’t miss out any details. And then I think I should of said it this way or that way or i missed this out, and the cycle starts again. I just need a break from my mind I’m so upset lately it’s driving me insane. I can’t cope with it It just sticks in my mind until I confess things. Why do I keep thinking I have missed details out? Thanks

It’s like I need to know for some reason otherwise it will stick in my head like an obsession that I’m missing important information. And I don’t know where to start on how to not repeat the same obsessional thoughts and not seek reassurance for them again. It’s the same ones coming back.

My ocd feels like it’s back full force now, I feel like I’m back to square one again, I’m waiting for a new cpn to ask if I can be referred for therapy, it’s taking over my life, I find myself constantly saying “what” to people who can repeat what they said just Incase I didn’t hear it properly which is a new one for me. Im not sure if this next one is ruminating but I keep thinking over and over about what people have said and (analysing it, figuring it out) these are things Iv already asked reassurance about or confessed about before but I feel like I want to confess them again just Incase. How do I stop doing it? I’m at my wits end, I don’t want to have to constantly repeat the same obsessions over and over to get reassurance again over the same things. I’m finding it hard also to not do things more than once as I’m afraid things will happen to family members. I was recently diagnosed with Bipolar but have ocd to which has been my main issue, I don’t think I’m mentally prepared to do it all over again.

I suffer from guilt a lot for the slightest things, even sometimes feel guilty for thinking something, the way I try to cope with it is we can’t be perfect humans, everyone has thoughts, feelings, I sometimes feel like Iv done something wrong, and feel the need to confess, ocd does make you feel like a liar and a cheater but it’s just the ocd talking that’s what I try and tell myself. It’s difficult I know exactly how it feels but the more we practise not confessing minor things the easier it gets, not nice sitting with the anxiety either but it does fade eventually. We’re only human remember ?

Thank you I’ve found it really difficult since Covid and lockdown to deal with my ocd, I got on top of it before and I know I can do it again, I just sometimes feel defeated. It took me 10 times to put some clothes away of my sons yesterday and if I didn’t do it a number of times my ocd made me believe I was going to be stuck on an obsession forever. I felt like I was stuck in this loop of putting clothes away and taking them back out again. And I’m finding that I can’t put things away properly as I’m scared I will have to do it a number of times and il be stuck there for ages. Iv never done this sort of thing for a long time. I’m on clomipramine and fluoxetine and now a mood stabiliser so my bipolar is under control now but the ocd has resurfaced again.