AnxiousAnnie

Well yes, because generally speaking I would think those that are managing it well probably don't feel the need to post?

It sounds like you may benefit from referral to perinatal services, I know at least some will do preconception consultations to discuss all these things.

I'm not saying this isn't ocd related, however, I have found @McW answers helpful and don't think I googled at all yesterday.

Thank you. It's good to know that some professionals do do their due diligence etc. Do you know anything about how likely it is that there will have been loose asbestos insulation in my old property?

May I ask how you know these details about asbestos etc?

Not even if it was loose asbestos insulation which I've been told "contaminates everything" if disturbed. Ive no idea how commonly this is used in domestic properties. I also don't think mesothelioma is as dose dependent.

I genuinely think that it is potentially more significant than you realise, as if there was loose asbestos in the loft it does contaminate everything and can't be removed by simple washing / vacuuming. It is the most dangerous type.

I do accept that except when it comes to potential risk to kids. Surely it's not worth it in that case?!

I could get rid of anything that was ever in that house. Or arrange some sort of testing on it potentially.

To be honest from what I've read I genuinely think the risk, if there was loose asbestos is high. Like I say I accept there may not have been.

Hi This was work on an old house in which structures were broken up as you can see in the original post. I knew nothing about asbestos risk then and it's only since becoming aware that I've begun to worry. No I don't know for certain it was there but there is a good liklihood it was in the artex. I accept I have no evidence for or against in being in the loft but the risks if it was are huge. I can't do anything reasonably to confirm or deny this now without contacting the new homeowner there and appearing insane. I accept there is nothing I can do about what I may have beeb exposed to tho it does still terrify me. But I'm concerned about ongoing risk particularly to the kids from soft furnishings that were in the house at the time as any asbestos present can't just b cleaned off by bunging it in the washer or hoovering etc

Thank you @determination987, sadly its the least of my worries right now

Yes this is part of how I am as well sadly

The problem is that the risk is either minimal/none (I.e. there was no asbestos insulation so no ongoing contamination risk), or it is high (it was present, it contaminated everything and we are continuing to expose ourselves daily). I don't feel I can just sit by and hope it's the former!

But how can I ignore it when it is a genuine risk?

I feel like by not acting to rule out any ongoing asbestos risk from our possessions I am not keeping my kids safe. Its the first thing I think about every morning and am unable to think about much else all day. Am wondering if a conversation with asbestos survey company might be helpful as if my concerns about stuff in this house being contaminated after all this time are unwarranted then I can stop worrying about this aspect. If it is a thing then maybe they could suggest something. I don't know. I just feel like we are unsafe in our own home. It's bad enough that I've been likely exposed but to think my kids have been as a result is intolerable.

Best of luck to you

So this topic has reared its ugly head again with ruminations and concern over things feeling contaminated in the house if they were ever in my old house. Obviously concerned for my own health but mainly for that of my kids who use things that were once in that house. Any additional guidance?

Hi yes I am also doing some therapy. Just slow progress.

My ocd has got worse since having a baby recently and one of the main themes is contamination. I have started on medication and waiting for this to kick in but in the mean time my symptoms are increasing, causing stress to myself and my partner. How can I stop the situation from continuing to worsen? Latest in a long line of triggers is panicking about dishwashing things that weren't dishwasher safe and letting kids reuse them even tho in case of one cup the plastic has warped and therefore concerns they have been exposed to chemicals leaching from the plastic over prolonged period.

Also I'm not dire what you mean about things being bagged up. The nappy wasn't bagged up and neither was other waste I saw in the bin

The reason it wasn't allowed im led to believe was due to the potential smell in his room, not due to not using the bin for other clinical waste.

But there could have been all sorts of bodily fluids and infectious material in the bin

When I fished it back out I just chucked it next to nappy bag till I could chuck it in the bin. I've since empted the bag and partner has put it through the wash without mentioning it. He only did it at 40 and now there's more stuff in there. I feel like that wasn't hot enough and I should rewash all the things but can't tell if that's the ocd or reasonable

At docs today he told me off for putting nappy in his bin as its clinical waste. I was so embarrassed i just fished it back out without thinking. But now feeling really gross about it as God knows what else it touched in there, had to put my arm all the way in. My hands are really chapped too. Gave them a quick wash after but then picked up baby to feed. Can't stop ruminating that may have got all sorts of infections and passed them on to her. Can't believe I did that without gloves and can't decide on a proportional response. Nothing feels clean now.