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  1. Eric you need to stop this. The groinal responses keep happening because you ruminate over them and you are telling your brain that it means something so your body has adapted to this and it gives you groinal responses. When you get these, you just need to ignore it. When you look at another man, just ignore the fact that you got one. If you absolutely have to acknowledge it in some way, maybe do what was suggested by somebody else in the thread said, a bit like 'ok, I got a groinal response it means nothing.' and then carry on throughout the day. Eric, please give this video a watch. @Caramoole linked it in another person's thread earlier on and I think it's a good video explaining ruminating and how to stop it.
  2. A fair view point in my eyes. Similar situation to me, and a lot more people most likely. Thank you, I hope your self-diagnosis and self-help goes well too Kinda missed the point there. Of course, if someone breaks their leg but doesn't go to A&E, that doesn't mean they do not have a broken leg. It's just that mental health is a lot more complex and many misunderstand it. For many years, I was doing compulsions and I didn't even realize it. I just assumed I had anxiety and that was it.
  3. Although I've never been diagnosed by a psychologist, I'm sure I have OCD after coming to this forum and reading up about OCD. Especially how I suffer from intrusive thoughts/feelings/whatever else typical OCD does. But before I ever came to this forum, I always disliked self-diagnosing. I thought it was dangerous and obnoxious sometimes- especially when you'd see people on social media sites self-diagnosing themselves with many disorders. Then you would get the people who claim they have OCD which say stuff like 'oh, I definitely have OCD I just need to keep cleaning, I love to have a tidy room' or stuff along those lines. Now I feel like a bit of a hypocrite I guess, since I hated it before but I've done it now.
  4. This is also true. It's a classic example of confirmation bias @Eric Dave. If you go looking for something, you're gonna find it and you'll ignore any other evidence to show this isn't always true.
  5. I think you should go for CBT, work on improving your mental health yourself and then move on with life and enjoy your time with your girlfriend I struggle with groinals, but I learned to apply no meaning to them. So when one comes up, just ignore it. Pay no mind to the groinal response. These groinal responses actually lessened now that I've started doing this. I know I shouldn't have done this, but I even tested myself and I didn't get a groinal response. If you stop paying attention and stop applying meaning to them, they will stop Eric. Somebody who is gay would not be worrying this long, they also wouldn't be worrying about being gay or potentially liking other men. They would enjoy these thoughts and actively seek out gay pornography. They wouldn't even think twice about going to search about it because they are gay. They don't even need to 'know if they are gay' because to them they just are, it's just the way it is for them. Eric my man, you need to move on. You may not like hearing this, but one day you'll get over this and you'll realize how much time you've killed by worrying. You'll wish you sorted out your problem sooner and the time lost will sadden you. Don't kill anymore time thinking about this stuff. I haven't logged on for awhile, but seeing you here still has saddened me. Please help yourself Eric.
  6. It's just completely pathetic. The NHS completely fail on so many aspects to do with mental health. I mean, even trying to see a therapist takes a long time. I've heard stories of people with OCD being falsely diagnosed with another mental illness and being sectioned for it. When you hear stories like this, it's just completely off putting and would make people less likely to seek out help.
  7. In my opinion, here are some reasons why. 1. Like a lot of mental illnesses, OCD is extremely misunderstood. But I'd say OCD is more misunderstood than a majority of them. 2. The Mental health sector in the NHS is absolutely shocking, I've heard some horror stories from people trying to get help and end up in a worse state. I'd say it's improved since then, but because I'm extremely pessimistic I'd still say it's got a long ways to go. Also, don't worry about the what ifs. It doesn't matter if things would have been different if you got diagnosed when you were younger, all that matters is that you've now been diagnosed (still at a young age) and can work on improving yourself to live a happy life
  8. But you recognise there are times where you return from the OCD delusions, and you know it is nonsense right? Perhaps you should try and think about those times more. It's helped me recently. What I've found is when I think about those moments when I'm having episodes, it kinda helps pull me back to reality and know it's all rubbish, because I know when I'm not obsessing I know what my values are and know I wouldn't want those things to happen. I can fully sympathise with you, Cora. Many years ago I suffered with harm OCD for a brief period, but I some how managed to make it go away. I can't remember how I did it but it just disappeared. Now, like yourself I suffer from sexually intrusive thoughts too. It's horrible. What I will say is that OCD can make you feel like you like these things or you want these things to happen. You just need to recognise that it's just another OCD intrusive thought/feeling and just move on. Whenever you get a thought/feeling just disregard it as absolutely nothing and then just carry on with what you are doing. Again, this is nothing. Just ignore it.
  9. Hello @Cora Just letting you know I haven't fully read your past posts, so forgive me if you've already answered a question similar to this. Do you go through cycles with your OCD? So for example once you've gone through a pretty bad episode, you calm down and realize all of your obsessions/intrusive thoughts are a load of nonsense? Also just out of curiosity, when you say you had a massive urge to hurt him, do you mean you were getting so angry you felt you were going to hit him? I know I shouldn't say this as it is reassurance but that's pretty normal, many years ago I remember my friend was winding me up and I felt like I wanted to punch his head off I don't sit here ruminating over that because I know I would never actually do that. The mind is weird sometimes and you just have to ignore it.
  10. I'm not saying this isn't a possibility, a therapist could indeed interpret your or her thoughts as a sexual identity crisis but I don't believe this is the case. If you go and seek help, you might just turn your life around Eric. Wouldn't you want that? Wouldn't you want to be happy and not worrying 24/7? Listen, if you go to a therapist two things could happen. 1. you go to them, you start working on your OCD and your life gets better. Fantastic. 2. you could go to them, they completely misunderstand your obsessions and suggest something that you fear happening (that you might be gay). All you have to do is just not go to this therapist anymore and look for a new one. That's it. Also, I know this isn't going to help, you've been here for years but just to know you aren't alone; I went through the same exact thing as you Eric, I was going through a time where I would look at women who I previously thought looked cute and I would feel absolutely nothing. I feared I was actually gay, but this passed because I clearly don't find it as fearful as you do. The more you fear the obsession and the more you feed it the more power it has over you.
  11. Hello Gemma, Thank you for your response. Yes, I was actually thinking it may have been something like this too. The handwashing has been something I've done since I was very little, so it could have once been a compulsion and now it's turned into a very unhealthy habit. I will say, whenever I touch things like the door handle or anything I will wash my hands to get rid of anything that could be on my hand at that moment, especially before going to bed. So I think that is definitely a compulsion.
  12. I'm just thinking back to when I was younger, the more I look back the more I start piecing things together and it makes sense that I have OCD. For example, I would have a thought along the lines of someone would die in my family if I didn't flick the light switch in my house enough times. But OCD lost it's grip with me on these because I soon realized they were silly and the act of switching a lightswitch would not hold any significance and would not dictate what happens to another person. That's where I stopped doing physical compulsions in response to intrusive thoughts. Now my compulsions mainly consist of mental rumination, reassurance seeking (which I suppose could be considered a physical compulsion now that I think about it) but that's about it. But one thing that I have always done since I was little was wash my hands a lot- a bit too much. It gets to the point where my hands become dry and damaged because I wash them too much. I'm just wondering if this is OCD, because I thought you would have to have an intrusive thought to do a compulsion. I know for definite I have OCD, but I'm just curious about my handwashing, I'm not quite sure what that could be. Since it's not a compulsion in a response to a horrible thought, I can't see that being related to OCD but perhaps something else? Anybody have any ideas on what it could be? This is just pure curiosity by the way, this isn't a reassurance seeking post I'm just genuinely curious.
  13. It wasn't my intention to make it sound like that- I just meant people who had therapy, and therapy assisted them in getting to a stage where they would consider themselves an 'Ex-Sufferer'. I know of some people who didn't go to therapy too, and just did self-help, but from my understanding therapy is the more favourable choice. With all due respect, could you have even considered yourself an 'Ex-Sufferer'? The fact that you still had obsessions would suggest otherwise to me. Perhaps I'm wrong.
  14. What is the endgame of someone who has gone through therapy with OCD like? Do you still get intrusive thoughts? Do you still relapse and have horrible 'episodes' of OCD where you start obsessing and worrying?
  15. Yes this is true, the physical sexual reaction has just completely turned my world upside down and I was under the impression that means I liked said thing. I've been going through hell these past few months, it's been horrible. Thank you @Caramoole And thank you as well @Tamagochi for your response. It's opened my eyes on things.
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