iamwesker

Hi all, bit of a weird one... I'm suffering from False memory OCD and I can't stop thinking 'what if I've done something wrong in the past?' and this thing comes to light and my boyfriend breaks up with me? Now, I'm not worried about my own happiness - I'm worried about his. So I keep visualising him going on first dates with new people, writing timelines - he can meet someone new in April, second date in May, happy again by June... He will go to all the places we went together with a new partner and he will be happy to erase thoughts of us together. He will be happy with a new partner and his life will not be ruined. (Which is all what i want so i keep visualising for hours with my eyes closed, wondering if this is possible) I keep looking on dating sites around his area to find new partners who might treat him well and who can be happy with. All so I can be reassured he will be okay if this "bad thing" comes to light and he has to leave me. Anyone else experience anything like this? Sorry for the long post..

understood. thanks every one for the advice!

Hi all just wondering what people think. Most of my compulsions are mental. I remember when I did cbt before my therapist said self talk and changing what we tell ourselves is important. Just wondering how much telling myself ‘I did nothing wrong’ in terms of false memory ocd would be a compulsion of change of mindset Does that make sense? Thanks

Hi all , feeling very low right now. I am a gay male who had protected intercourse with a friend of mine. A few weeks after the inter course I developed a fever which convinced me I have HIV. I scoured all the websites that said protected sex the chances a low. I did an HIV test which came back negative. However, lots of websites say you should do the HIV test 3 months after exposure, mine has been 2 and a half months. Which came back negative I’m just not sure if this OCD or a real concern but I’m going out of my mind.

So I'm a little upset about something and needed some advice I was talking to a friend recently and made a joke "I'd be safer to get the bus, its safer" when they mentioned driving And today they had a car crash (theyre okay) So of course i worry it's either 1. My fault because of the joke 2. I had a psychic prediction which means my other fears could happen too Just wondering what people think Thank you Wesker

Wow that's a great attitude to have and very inspiring to see. Good luck today and I hope all goes well. I look forward to hearing how it goes!

good luck with the exams Cora. I just finished studying for a very difficult qualification. I had no choice but to tell my OCD 'I'll deal with you later.' because otherwise it was too much. Although the ideal thing is no compulsions at all, I think it could help to say 'I'll deal with you compulsions after my exams' and see how you feel once you reach that check point

Thanks polarbear. May I ask why you think this? (last question I promise)

As a lot of you know, my OCD focuses on Magical Thinking and that if I take part in my hobby (learning Korean) something bad will happen. God will punish me if I do it. I've been working with a therapist - but finished the course of CBT now. I have finally plucked up the courage to start learning Korean again. When I was learning the other night I thought 'What if I learn this and my abusive ex contacts me again' My ex hasn't contacted me for 6 months and BAM contacted me after I did some studying. Did my thoughts cause this to happen? Did doing my hobby cause this to happen? It's really a knock back because something I feared happened. I wonder if anyone has advice? thank you so much

Good analogy with the diet Caramoole I like it!

Just remember what your therapist has told you to do Cora

it wouldn't affect my day or it would not stop me using the clothes at all in fact i would wear them immediately because i love ordering new clothes! i wouldn't even think about it just your OCD

thanks so much for the swift response Snowbear, I really appreciate and will put it into action. Thank you for the advice! I guess we always try to link everything to what we fear most when we suffer from magical thinking. I hope you are getting on well and enjoying the sunshine ~ Getting my textbooks out tonight! ?

Hello, everyone, been a while since I posted on here. I've been doing well and undergoing CBT. I've had something come up which I'm not so sure about. Long story short; my OCD focuses on that God will punish me if I do my hobbies. My hobby is learning Korean and my OCD tells me God will punish me if I study it. Anyway, I wanted to sign up for a Korean proficiency test in London and I was convinced the date to enrol was in August. So I entered the website in July and I missed the date because the website said July. Okay I missed it, no big deal. But the part niggling me is 'Did god make me read the date or remember the date wrong on purpose so I couldn't do the exam? Was it a warning sign? Did he change it on the website what I saw to warn me off? ' those are the thoughts I am having and I'm not so sure what's going on. If any one could shed some light that would be great, thank you Mark

same old Cora you know what to do