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Ashley

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    Sufferer
  • Type of OCD
    Contamination

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    Derbyshire

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  1. Hello there, Is your trigger you are worried how your flatmate is and if he is ok? You worry that not checking on him would alienate him? I don't think I would ever expect a flatmate to be looking after me anyway, so yes I think trust him to look after himself. This always comes across harsh , but important (OCD wise) to remember, he's not your responsibility. I hope you can find a way to resist the checking compulsions and face your OCD Ashley.
  2. I am with GBG, this feels worse because they are clearly suggesting this is an OCD issue, without using those words. They then made a point to suggest will need time off work, so it's almost like they're joking about it, but know that for many with OCD they do need time off work. Then they have gone to great lengths to tag the OCD charities. This feels partially researched, rather than off the cuff remark though misunderstanding.
  3. With so much misuse of OCD It's hard to keep track of all. I generally adopt the thought that people/organisations generally get it wrong through a lack of understanding, rather than deliberate misuse. So where possible I try and engage away from the public spotlight and in most cases they hold hands up and apologise or promise not to make the same error again. This was tweeted to the charity today and there's something about this one that I find really distasteful. I just wonder what other think? It's been deleted before I could take a screenshot, so luckily was on my PC still so took a photo the old fashioned way.
  4. Hello All, Can I please remind the forum ALL posts must be made in English. We are unable to provide multi lingual services at this time. The two main reasons we require posts to be made in English, beyond what Caramoole's already explained. 1. Posts in English are more likely to get higher number of responses. 2. We have to be able to review and moderate all posts. As a general rule we will have to remove posts I'm afraid. Thank you for understanding.
  5. Thank you both for coming. I really hope you found the day helpful and/or positive for your OCD journey
  6. As Gemma mentions, if you would like to attend the conference (I realise it's a long way from your location), but if we can help by slightly reduced tickets then please email myself at ashley@ocduk.org
  7. Once was enough.... I suspect this in itself is a compulsion (well the second and third time). Could it be that they find nothing wrong with the images, and much of this is OCD making more out of the problem than is actual reality? Equally the images may be dodgy, but you have reported now and your job is done. No more checking for them, no more reporting, both of which would be compulsions. From an OCD perspective seeing the images, feeling arousal means nothing. Do I feel attracted to young girls when they are dressed up ready for a night out? Of course I do. Would I still feel the same if they were aged 14,15,16,17, possibly and probably still yes. I might even feel some arousal in a brief moment, but that doesn't mean I am a paedophile it just means I briefly liked a pretty girl. Would I feel arousal if I absolutely knew they were under age? If I was deliberately trying not to be aroused, then I almost certainly would, yes. It's what OCD does, it's what our mind and body can do sometimes (against our will), that doesn't mean I am a paedophile either. For example, how is your left foot right now, think of your left foot, just your left foot.. feel a little tingly sensation in your left foot? I do as I write that line. It's my mind focussing on a part of my body. Same applies here, by trying not to feel arousal, most people will feel something. That is OCD, it's nothing more.
  8. Thanks for asking BelAnna. Isn't this the way. With the office stuff, I felt great no problem.... until I tried to do a nice thing (again this this issue).... I offered to take my new colleague for a lunchtime sandwich in Belper to show her the local area. As she went to get into my car, I saw her bag and I nearly said, "don't put it on the floor", but I held off (trying to not give in to OCD) and of course it went on the floor. I tried not to focus too much on that. Anyway, I didn't look to see where she put the bag when we got back and later in the afternoon I had a look to see which part of the floor it was (on purpose). I won't lie my anxiety was back up, at least 4 maybe 5 on my scale of 10. But, I did the right things... I think. I didn't ask her to avoid the floor I didn't 'track' the bag After she left I did go and touch that part of the office floor where she had put the bag Because I 'chose' to do the exercise my anxiety did come down (rather than a forced exposure which leads to anxiety going up). So as I left the office maybe a 3. Less so since I got home, perhaps a 2, so tomorrow morning I need to touch that part of the floor again, and I guess the bag bottom itself. At some point I need to touch the car floor but that's definitely a 6 at the moment.
  9. Because you went looking for it! Not the specific images as such, but you went looking for reassurance and when it comes to OCD if you look for anything (i.e. dog mess), in the hope of not finding it, you will find it! All OCD does when it comes to testing for reassurance is set more doubts, uncertainty and triggers. I am sure people will reply when they are on later or over the next few days and feel they have something they can say to help. It's a difficult subject and not everybody feels comfortable to respond. In all honestly this is very much a conversation that needs to be had with a trained therapist to help you see the wood for the trees. If I am honest, maybe it's just me, but I am struggling to understand some of your posts, of course I understand OCD itself is clouding your clarity too and it may be that which is coming out in the posts. It may be this is another reason other users are struggling to respond (plus it's the weekend and people are perhaps out and about). I am sure more replies will come over next few days. But one thing I am not actually clear from your posts what you were googling beyond the initial search for naked wives? When you say you google a victim of child porn what do you mean by that?
  10. I did it! Felt great sitting on the floor putting the desk together. Thank you for all your encouragement guys.
  11. Thank you again guys. Easy to forget that just 10 days ago this would have been impossible, I was absolutely dreading having to build the new work desk for Nicola. But here I am kneeling with the brand new desk/chair ready to build up over the weekend. Zero anxiety.
  12. Hope it went well Tez? I am afraid my OCD got the better of me this evening so I didn't get chance to tune in. Is there a replay feature do you know? I am sure you nailed it thought!
  13. Thank you guys, you are right, a week ago I could not have done some of those things in the office I had lost perspective there. It feels great actually being able to put boxes on the floor and take boxes from under the workbench. We have a new team member starting on Monday, Nicola and for weeks I had been dreading having to get a desk in for her. But tomorrow morning I am nipping to Ikea to get the work desk and instead of looking to the weekend with dread when I build it up, I am actually ok about it. But today did suck, I actually posted about it in a series of tweets earlier... This week is OCD awareness week, and today, following a few good days of progress, I got slapped down by the OCD which made me realise the importance of honesty with myself, and the people I work with with about the failures, as much as my achievements. 1/13 So I want to explain how OCD impacted on me today. This is not comfortable for me, it's embarrassing, and leaves me open to ridicule, but I know I am not alone, so I hope somebody reading will take comfort in knowing they're not alone either. 2/13 Using CBT techniques I've overcome the majority of my OCD problems, but the one area I still have problems with is fear of sexual body fluids. This obsessive fear remains because I was STUPID, allowed embarrassment prevent me talking about this, I buried my head in the sand 3/13 So because of this obsessive fear, I've avoided any kind of sexual interaction (even on own), that in itself allowed fear to grow I suspect. But sometimes my body takes over when asleep , that's what happened this morning. So I want to explain what that means in real terms.4/13 The only way I can rid anxiety (that word not doing do the anguish justice) in that moment is to 'feel' clean. That involves four step set of rituals, added together take three hours. I will go through that to help casual readers understand that OCD is not just hand washing.5/13 Step 1. Get out of bed, careful not to let body touch walks/door. Use loo, run bath to clean contaminated body, shower off. I am now clean. The problem here is, the loo and bath taps are now contaminated. 6/13 Step 2. Bedclothes also contaminated so need to go in wash. First, open washing machine door, turn it on, powder in and press start. Strip bed, careful not to let bedclothes touch walls, into machine. But hands and body now re-contaminted so use foot to close WM door. 7/13 Back into bathroom. Before showering to feel clean again I use dosmestos bleach spray to first clean bath, especially taps wiping with cleaning cloth. Then spray and wipe every aspect of the toilet, trying not to retch at strong chemical. Finally into shower (shower 5-10 min)8/13 Step 3. Using dettol kitchen spray and cleaning clothes I now have to clean the bed frame, phone (as next to bed) and walls and door handles all way to kitchen. Finally, back into bathroom for final shower. At this point, I am now clean and can get on with my day... sort of! 9/13 Step 4. When I return home after work, I have one final step... cleaning the now contaminated washing machine. So firstly I need bin liner, then using dettol spray and kitchen towel I spray the outside of washing machine, then inside (bed clothes still inside). 10/13 Then I spray floor around WM and wipe clean. All days used cleaning clothes and empty dettol/bleach bottles into bin liner and then out to rubbish bin. Back in to shower and almost job done, almost! Once out shower, WM gets two wash cycles to get bedclothes clean. 11/13 At this point the entire set of rituals is complete... until next time. I use 2 bleach bottles, 3 dettol bottles all taking three hours. I do use latex gloves for bleach part. One time I forgot to take them in, and bleach destroyed hands, red sore for few days. 12/13 If you found my story exhausting reading, trust me, it's 1000 times more exhausting living through that! That's #OCD, that was my day today. Despite this, I believe in recovery, I will 100% recover. 13/13
  14. Thank you Andrea and everyone for your kind words. Today kind of sucked. I was triggered at home first thing and I ended up with 2.5 hours of rituals this morning before I could leave the house. I made such progress last week, but today the main fear was triggered and I just struggle to move, when it strikes I am totally lost and unable to challenge and end up in 2.5 hours of rituals. Just feel so frustrated, I know I have work to day which is what today's shown me, I have to confront but I believe I need to understand why this matters so much, in order to confront and move forward. But on a positive once I let the house and got into the office I placed my phone on the once contaminated piece of floor and touched it, so a big failure today and a little repeat success.
  15. WTG Tez, you are a brilliant OCD-UK Ambassador! I guess (if not already done it) is explain that OCD is not just about hand washing or cleaning (but make the point that when it is, it's driven by anguish and anxiety) and perhaps explain that OCD can be about horrible intrusive thoughts about harm for example.
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