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Could it be magical thinking and/or superstitious OCD?

So I have OCD but I wanted to ask if this was OCD or something else. I see a certain 2 digit number, and I think if those 2 digits are swapped then that is the number of the bus which goes down a certain road. So anything to do with that road is 'bad.' The shops on it are bad, anyone who lives on that road is bad, anyone who uses any of the shops on that road is bad and the list goes on and on and on If it is OCD how can I 'stop' it? Just seeing that 2 digit number and suddenly the whole of the city is bad? If it is not OCD then does anyone have any idea what it could be? I didn't think I'd ever say this but I do hope it is OCD. Thank you

I can understand why a therapist might have made those recommendations. Firstly, they are more likely to suggest positive solutions rather than negative, so the therapist is not likely to tell you straightaway that you should quit your job but rather they would encourage you to stick it out first to see if the situation gets better, as doing so could help you build confidence and resilience. Obviously you then decided that this wasn't the right decision and so you then left of your own accord which was the right thing to do. Secondly, with your sister a therapist would be reluctant to tell you straightaway to confront your sister as that might have made you feel worse and caused tension within your family. Therapists are only human at the end of the day and are only going by what information you are providing them and don't have the full picture. They are also not oracles or fortune tellers and can't predict the future, so when they (or anyone) gives advice there is a chance that it might be the wrong call. Only you can decide if you want to see your therapist again or not. If she has helped you a lot in other areas then I would suggest sticking with her might be the right thing to do. If you do make another appointment then you could say that you want to update her on your work situation and that of your sister, say what you decided to do (leave your job and confront your sister), and why, say how it has had a positive impact on you and maybe suggest that going forward you would appreciate discussing all options when faced with a problem so that you can be guided to make the best choice for you.

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But what about the system that i defined in me?.. İ keep thinking that the system in me could somehow act on its own and target my loved ones and let them burn afterlife.. İ keep thinking that it could somehow act in a devil way and act like a god.. unless i would add the missing rules to my compulsion and destroy the system.

Nice art Taurean. I hope your lunch was tasty.

Moving is really stressful. I'm in the process of moving too and a mixture of wonderful and terrible things are happening to me every day. I just brought with me what I could carry in a big suitcase and that was about as much as I could manage. Completely clearing a house you've been living in for some time sounds like a real challenge, but maybe also an opportunity to consciously choose what possessions you want to keep and how you want to live.

Hope you have a nice holiday with your grandchildren.

When we become parents we are about as well equipped to fly a space shuttle. Most haven't clue... We just do the best we can with what we have. Some so-called 'experts' don't have children of their own!!! We blunder through, hoping for the best and, guess what, Our kids turn out fantastic! They do... The things we most dreaded quite simply didn't happen. Hindsight is a terrible thing, cos we dwell on the negative... What could have happened. sort of thing. We learnt as we went along. No parent is perfect... Celebrities tend to have childcare and boarding school and don't personally look after their kids at all. Let's be proud that through it all we got through, and our kids still love us... Terry 123

Time to just let it all go... Thoughts go through our minds constantly, sometimes slightly willingly, sometimes not. They just do. They are just thoughts, until we act on them. Acting on them gives them substance and power. Deal with one issue, fine for five minutes until click! Another compulsion takes its place, something from even further back in time... I got back to my childhood... Thought long forgotten came back in full colour... I stop right now... I stop right now. Let the thoughts exist, let them be there until they die away on their own Given time, They actually do you know! Terry 123

Thing is with every decision including your question about 'should I get a new therapist', it's really up to you, it's your responsibility if you like. The only person who knew how you really felt in your job with relation to your colleagues is you. From a therapist's perspective she was encouraging you to stick with it as it takes time to make new friends and it would make you stronger if it happened. But you took responsibility and it worked out. She is limited by a limited perspective, whereas you are living it and feeling it. From a therapist's perspective she may have thought non confrontation with your sister was probably healthier for you after hearing your description of your sister, but again she only has a limited perspective. But if you want to discuss those issues you should, you will both learn from discussing it and moving forward with a better understanding of roles and limitations. Honesty and communication will strengthen your relationship but any personal life decisions are ultimately down to you.

It takes a lot to trust a therapist anyway... But, whatever you do is your decision and right to follow your heart. They are there to advise, but they don't know you as well as you od. There were things my contamination ocd therapist suggested, that I would never do. You are the client, you can do as much or as little as you like. My therapist could have had me licking the underside of my shoes!!! No way!!! It must be okay if it hasn't killed him, but I'll take that on trust, I don't have to do it!!! You can take the same approach. They cannot demand of you something they wouldn't do themselves... Terry 123

Your situation with the bottle sounds very familiar. My latest unwanted discovery is lead used to set ironwork into stone. You can't avoid stepping on it sometimes in places where railings have been removed. Like you with the mystery orange stuff, I worry about it getting onto my shoes and trousers. The world turns out to be full of chemical hazards once you start noticing them. Ideally they would all be safely dropped into a volcano or something, but it's far too late in human history for that so we just have to tolerate them. Serious accidental poisonings seem to be quite rare so encountering things which are seriously toxic must be rare too. We just have to put up with a general background of things which are unhealthy but can't really be avoided. I won't try to advise you what to do with the bottle because it's too similar to my own obsessions, but I would try not to spend any time speculating about what might be in it.

I'm doing something similar... Moving house, emptying the garage. Is any of that stuff 'clean'. I aim to keep all bottles and cans upright in boxes, then throw the stuff in the non recyclables skip. They told me to do it that way last time... I don't know what it all is, it is all labelled, but ordinary domestic stuff. I just don't want to get any of it spilt in the car... It might spoil the seat fabric... Nothing else... The intact stuff will either go in a skip or on a shelf, but only if I ever have a use for it. My new home is fully carpeted so no chemicals of any kind are needed. We have a charity shop collecting furniture so I'll watch and see how they do stuff, they do it everyday after all... There cannot be enought to do any harm... Dispose of it yourself if no one else will. Once it has gone, it's gone and that is the end of it... Terry 123

Mmmm... I've thrown a lot of stuff into the recycling centre... Let them deal with it. It is therapeutic giving stuff away... I no longer have a place for it in my home... My new place is a little smaller, so an ideal opportunity to get rid of stuff. We do have the use of a garage. So all the stuff that is worth keeping is going in there. I like going to the recycling centre. I didn't used to, I would see stuff thrown away that was better than the stuff I had at home!!! I'll be done shortly, then we go away on holiday to see grandchildren... Always good that. A nice change... A chance to put stuff behind us... All ready for new plans ahead. I wired up the washing machine today... It just needs extension hoses now. I'll sort those in a couple of days... All is going reasonably well... Terry 123

Iron

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Yes, absolutely. For example if I feel misunderstood and angry it can increase my tendency to compulse.

I was meeting up with friends from London for lunch today. So before going into the restaurant, I visited the museum and art gallery One art gallery was full of creations of life forms including ex tinct ones, all made from recycled materials. The artist is Val Hunt. Aren't they beautiful?

True! Thanks for your understanding.

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A client/therapist dynamic can absolutely just not be quite right. For me, I've always considered it a red flag if a therapist strays into giving advice - I don't know of any accepted modalities which recommend practitioners do this. It has happened on occasion, and if it's a one off, I've accepted it as the therapist having a 'human' moment. However, for me it is SUPER important that a therapist doesn't engage in giving me reassurance of any kind, and I can tend to take advice as a 'steer' from an authority figure, feeling reassured by their guidance, so if a pattern emerges, I tend to look elsewhere. Whether it's a healthy therapeutic relationship is impossible to say from the outside. If you feel you are being advised to do things that don't align with your preferences and values, it certainly seems it could be important to speak with the therapist about that.

It was a bad thing I did when I was younger , I apologised to the person a long time ago , but it didn’t give me any relief. I’ve done a lot of bad things to try and reconcile , to make me suffer to the extent I could be a ‘good’ person again. I’ve managed to keep it under control a lot more this year but I have this new worry I latch onto based on it . The thought of if people would hate me if they found out - the thought of keeping it from a future partner . Like I was forgiven by the person and I suppose that should be enough but it’s not , if it would affect the way people VEIW me and it’s something actually bad I did , don’t they deserve to know. I try and watch tv to more healthily distract myself but the obsession furthers itself to this . It’s like if I feel any happiness relating to a character I extend the thought to them “would they hate me if they knew” . I further think of how if the person I affected was their friend and they told them what I did , how they would probably hate me . I don’t know what to do