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  1. Thanks for the replies. Purposefully imagining positive scenarios seems to be a good technique. Rather like if you are hindered by bad memories then substitute them with good memories. I think that we cannot inhabit the here and now forever; though it can be a good technique to restore calm. We need to envisage the future to make plans to make our future secure. The famous John Lennon quote of past decades goes something like life is going on when we are busy making other plans. But he employed accountants, had managers book events and sued people for taking his money. He had a team of people planning for him that only needed his authorisation. Memories can be treasure troves, people value photographs, for example, that lead to fond memories. It is the obsessional quality of OCD thought which is the problem. The need to detach from obsessional thought by envisioning positive scenarios, switching your attention by mindfulness or taking a walk in nature and of course keeping busy. As always, doing it is the difficult part as we tend to resort to habit.
  2. Thanks for the responses guys. My problem is selling my property and moving into supported housing. I intend to move into supported housing but as I own my property I need to sell it and have been engaged in this process since January. If I was in social housing it would be arranged for me. My main carer has been very supportive but has been away for the past week. Supportive housing in the private sector is a minefield with horrendously high service charges and high ground rents so I have to tread carefully especially if I have to move into a nursing home in future years as I need to move into a saleable property that will achieve a good price in the future. Good nursing homes are expensive. Properties in supportive housing can literally be on the market for years. I have been checking the fabric of the building for months in case a rather wreck less neighbour in my apartment block causes damage in the communal areas this has already affected market value of my current property. I have found a suitable supportive property to move into and engaging surveyors to survey the property and engaged solicitors. It depends on the results of the survey on my current property whether I can move. It is costing a lot of money. Distraction is a good thing and certainty being active is better than being passive. And certainty I cannot affect anything in the next two weeks. But I do feel like a holiday. It is major decision for me. Who would be a older disabled home owner?
  3. I wonder if anybody has any tips to deal with the pessimistic aspects of OCD. We tend to believe that bad things will happen. This affects mood. I am waiting for the results of a building survey on my property and my imaginings are expecting the worse. I have to wait for two weeks. Most people have an optimistic bias always looking on the bright side of life - this can lead to problems as well as you discount negative information that can also lead to bad decisions. In my current situation I am waiting for a piece of information. How do you reach a neutral position calmly waiting. We with OCD dislike uncertainty. How do you deal with a time limited period of uncertainty?
  4. It seems that your very anxious as to whether you can trust other people and there does seem to be a compulsive element when you keep notes and evidence to support your theory and ruminate. What about evidence that disconfirms your theory? Cognitive Behavioural Therapy rests on the notion that patients/clients have a bias in the way that they process information and therapy revolves around thinking in a different way. So therapy would involve thinking in a different way as to how people might be behaving towards you. Rumination is what is termed a ‘trans diagnostic’ thing in that it is something people do who have a variety of diagnoses. I think talking over your anxiety with a mental health practitioner would be a good idea in order to formulate a plan to become less suspicious about people. I am sure that not everybody you know or meet has ulterior motives in deceiving or abusing you. Your past experiences could be clouding your judgement.
  5. Your previous examples are about something that might occur in the future. Your current issue is about something that might have happened in the past. The same principle applies on not dwelling on the thought/memory, recognising that it is an intrusive thought and moving on. If you do not do this then you will engage in mental compulsions trying to work out whether something happened or not.
  6. I agree with the others. It is how we react to intrusive thoughts that matters. Such thoughts I label as intrusive and move on. My intrusive thoughts are upsetting and make me feel the need to do something. The secret is to do nothing - do not engage in a compulsion be they mental or physical.
  7. One thing that I found useful is doing a challenge in stages. So for example you could take the dog for a walk on a lead around the block. Then for a longer walk with the dog on a lead. Then go to a green space and let the dog off the lead for a run around. As for all anxiety conditions including OCD you are anticipating a worst case scenario. Do you think with all the changes that you have faced in the past few months that your OCD has got worse? My advice like JamesM is to break down the task. In my version with timings and degrees of control.
  8. Therapy will teach you that your OCD sufferings are within your control. Have you arranged therapy?
  9. I personally do not see OCD as a thing separate from me. My OCD thoughts, obsessions, worries I see are messages from the anxious part of my mind. Though many people see OCD as a thing and describe it as a bully. I say to myself when a worry or an obsession begins to arise in my mind - here’s my OCD again. An obsession or worrying too much serves no purpose so I try to get on with the ordinary things of life. I put the worry to one side.
  10. Hi Phild There is evidence that Covid can aggravate mental conditions including anxiety conditions such as OCD. The reasons why this is so are opaque at the moment so it might well be that increasing medication might indeed help. Pure OCD is a term where the compulsions are mental so not observable to other person. There is an account of it on this web site. I think substituting good memories for bad or false memories is a good technique and something that I try to engage in. Have you had any therapy such as CBT?
  11. It might mean that the quetiapine might need more time to act as a supplement to the fluoxetine. In severe cases of OCD a dopamine affecting drug can be used alongside a SSRI. Have you had CBT?
  12. Eating disorders have a considerably higher death rate than OCD. Anorexia nervosa has the highest death rate of any mental illness. Real people with real problems need recognised treatments.
  13. The diagnostic label indicates via NICE recommendations the correct form of therapy.
  14. BMJ 2022, 376 ‘Risk of mental health outcomes of people with Covid 19’ shows increase of mental heath problems after infection. The highest being amongst those with anxiety disorders. BMJ = British Medical Journal. Incidence higher for those with the infection than without the infection in the research period. Important to note as generally the mental health of the population overall has fallen in US and UK. These countries have measured these things. Managed not to get it yet. But the cited article indicates that you are not alone. Pleased you have recovered.
  15. I don’t think, as you describe the issue, that it is anything to do with OCD. It sounds as if you are used to skim reading where you focus on four to five words on each eye fixation. So I reckon that your reading speed has decreased. Perhaps you should check it out if it lasts a while. Or perhaps you need to give your eyes a rest.
  16. It is difficult to look at wider mental health issues on an OCD forum. We do not have access to records or people might not volunteer complete information and even if we did how would that help? Would we ask do you have depression, schizophrenia, bipolar disorder etc. Would bulletin board users be competent? Also in CBT therapy diagnostic categories are bracketed off. They were in my therapy.
  17. In terms of OCD forums my take is that reassurance seeking is okay at the beginning on a person’s journey but later it can become a compulsion and so unhelpful and repetitive. In terms of my checking OCD in the real world then reassurance or avoidance becomes a blame allocation issue. If, for example, I get another person to check that the front door is locked or the gas is turned off then I shift responsibility to another person. I do not want to be blamed for a break in or gas explosion. It is to do with the lack of belief in our own judgement and reassurance that we are not to be trusted. So in the real world also it is not a good technique.
  18. The brain is a thinking machine. It has to think about something. So try and leave no room for the brain to think OCD thoughts. Keep busy. Do things. Go for walks. Do hobbies. Set goals and accomplish things. Learn a skill involving the coordination of the eyes and hands like painting. You could do pottery, carpentry, decorate, cook.
  19. What I found helpful was reading about OCD. At the moment the book which seems to be recommended the most is Break Free From OCD. You could also visit your GP. It could be that some medication could help.
  20. There are retreats that do mindfulness, yoga, creative stuff and therapy if you want. I went to one on a Greek island a while ago now. It is very relaxing. I never heard of one doing CBT. There are weekend courses on Mindfulness CBT. I would look carefully at the qualifications of the people running the enterprise and their staff.
  21. Difficult to comment without the context. For me, you can have exaggerated anxiety involving compulsions in reaction to a real threat. I suppose compulsions can be defined as unnecessary behaviours in response to a perceived or actual threat. Also being obsessional or excessively preoccupied with a perceived or real threat crowds out the enjoyable features of life.
  22. Great question - it’s happening to me. My compulsions are to do with prevention. I had a fear of a house buyer pulling out. It happened. For me, checking is my compulsion. My upstairs neighbour created yet more damage in the communal area of the building yesterday which I felt the need to rectify as much as possible. I feel that I need to check before before potential flat buyers view the property. For example I cover up holes made in the communal carpeting by the upstairs neighbour. The neighbour accidentally tipped hair chemicals in the communal area which caused staining. She is a ‘hair therapist’. My anxiety is not being able to sell my property because of the bad state of repair of the communal area. I do need to sell. I hoover the communal area. Take non recyclables out of the recycle bin as the bin men will not empty the bin. I fear a load of rubbish at in the front garden putting off potential buyers. Last week I had to get rid of a TV set and a large steel bin. My compulsions make me into a janitor.
  23. I can identify with having a long commute, fatigue and being preoccupied with an event in the future. The preoccupation with a future event is one of the essences of anxiety with the what ifs flowing through your mind. It is difficult to advise, as we don’t know the work context and the power dynamics. But you could put you foot down and say that you need to start later. Say you are sick and not go -would this be avoidance? Text nicely and say these are my terms - your suggestion. I think your suggestion is the best. As it probably the best tactic to achieve your goal. You also appear to be perfectly reasonable in the context of your recovery from your illness. That is how I would word it. At work appearing to be perfectly reasonable is generally the best approach.
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