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Same as above mate ! It definitely has a place and definitely helped me at times but not a long time solution! I always found propanlol and diazepam definitely gave me a bit of a brain brake but I used to hate the feeling of it all creeping back in once it wore off almost felt worse! Every one’s experience is different you can but try

I think there is ! I think someone with a perfectionist personality trait wouldn’t let the imperfections ruin holidays or Christmas’s like it has done with me many times !

Funny enough I was to ! And I really struggle with this ! I’m a builder and pretty much struggle to work because of perfectionism ! only thing I got on my side is I know it’s ocd and I really try and fight back ! I really feel for Phil because he still can’t except these problems are ocd! Which probably is the first step!

I always wondered why my fish keep washing there hands so much

A fresh understanding of OCD is opening routes to new treatments We're finally pinning down the mechanisms that drive obsessive-compulsive disorder, revealing a complex combination of imbalanced brain networks, the immune system and even gut microbes !! Another quote great news

Thanks to decades of research into the underlying mechanisms behind the condition, we now know that entire brain networks are affected, with significant imbalances in the neurotransmitters that drive the transmission of signals around them. We are also learning that it is a more complex condition than we thought, with the immune system and perhaps even microbes in the gut playing a part. These insights into the drivers of OCD in the body and brain are opening the way to new treatments, which are sorely needed for those who don’t respond to the current first-line therapies. What is abundantly clear, however, is that OCD is a profoundly distressing condition that we are just beginning to get to grips with. It is past time we stopped with the quips ! This is a quote from the magazine! I find things like this really encouraging and gives me hope if not for me then for my kids ! There has to be more help out there for us

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Probably get told off for reassurance and I do apologise if this is not help full but I literally stare at photos of my 16 and 18 year old son’s thinking how handsome they both are and they really both are! And I feel no guilt thinking it ! and obviously I’m a man yet when they were toddlers the most vile horrible sexual thoughts used to pass through my mind to the point it broke me and I still feel the guilt now ! Struggled having them on my lap in case I got a boner. All my point is ocd is a **** ! Don’t let it beat you

I feel just like you I’m really struggling myself nothing seems to work I’m constantly busy! ocd just eats away at your soul! As unhelpful as I am and as much as I think you should try take the advice of others ! I can’t help but think this forum can be unnecessary harsh at Times ! And I just want to send you a bit of love and let ya know you’re not alone ! Good luck !

Once again thanks for your reply and sorry you are so isolated ! I mean im lucky in so many ways that I’m still married god knows how the amount of Stuff I’ve put my missus through she’s great with me but there’s only so much she can take! I think you are right it’s best to rely on your self at the end of the day we are the only ones who can really help our selfs but sometimes just having someone who’s in the same boat to talk to really dose help it dose not always have to be all deep and scientific or someone saying you must do this don’t do that ! Just a listening ear ! And funny enough I’ve already got that book maybe I’ll give it another read!! Many thanks mate !

Thanks everyone really appreciate it !! This forum needs a button or a like on Facebook so you can acknowledge peoples kind words with out taking up space on someone’s thread like I’m doing now bu ya know what I mean

Thank you Mcw that’s a lovely thing to write and I really appreciate it ! It is hard for me at times because I’ve always been surrounded by a men’s men culture either other builders! football and such like . And we do communicate in different ways ! But no one I know friends wise understand or know I suffer with ocd if I told them the best advice I’d get would be pull urself together! So this is the only community I got and half the time I feel I don’t belong here either! And I get that because at times I have been my own worst enemy! I try not to post too much because I always end upseting someone! But at the end of the day just because I don’t use or understand long words or can’t get my head around how cbt works, I still suffer with chronic ocd and when I see posts like this from @Emmalou1976 I just feel the need to tell her she’s not alone she’s not this monster or even if she is I’m a bigger one ! Also @Garfield like I said mate I appreciated your post I think it’s good people tell me if I’m coming across abrupt ! I’ve been told in the past on here quite abruptly that I’m abrupt ! And you worded it in a helpful way mate

I know we’re not meant to reassure ! And all that ! But it’s posts like yours and similar is why I use the forum and admittedly I know that’s the wrong reason but 1 need to know I’m not the only one and 2 it dose reassure me that I suffer with a illness ! I constantly find my self not just getting intrusive thoughts but thinking really weird seneros and yes even more so when having sex! Confession is just another compulsion and leads to know good ! Somebody’s son we know recently got killed and I can’t get him out my head when being intimate even writing this is freaking me out ! But I’m desperate for you to know you not alone this illness will take you to hell and half the time I’m waiting for it to bring me back ! There’s one poster who constantly says intrusive thoughts are ones we don’t put there ourselves ! And I want to scream at him because I’m constantly putting and playing senerios in my head sometimes I’m not even aware I’m doing them until it’s to late then I suddenly realise what I’ve allowed my self to think then I’m left with unbearable guilt ! But ocd is a vile disorder please hang on to that at least !! Disclamer I’m a 45 year old builder ( not the brightest) so please excuse my bad grammar and any punctuation I’ve put in the wrong place

Not at all Garfield diplomacy is not my strong point and something I try and work on and I’m happy when someone diplomatically puts me back in my lane ! I should have added I know Howard is coming from a good place I just think he can be a little confusing at times ! But can’t we all I guess ! But I very much appreciate your input my mate