Loneliness

[Veryblue]

This is a very lonely existence. Hard to believe it’s been almost 28 years since that one thought popped into my head leading to a lifetime of horror.

[Nolightleft]

You are not alone

[Handy]

It makes your world smaller.

I often chat with those that have OCD too. That makes my world bigger. 

[BRG]

Agree with Nolightleft - you're not alone here.

[snowbear]

On 26/05/2023 at 17:56, Veryblue said:

This is a very lonely existence. Hard to believe it’s been almost 28 years

Hmm    Lloneliness is not an automatic consequence of mental illness.

Why are you lonely? Have you cut yourself off from people?

I had to give up work because of my OCD and after an assault became completely housebound. Back then there was no internet, no smartphones, no easily 'entertainment at your fingertips.' I didn't even have a TV for a long time as there's no signal here. I saw only one close friend from one year's end to the next, cutting off all contact with other people. Was I lonely?

Sometimes, maybe. But the experience taught me that loneliness is a state of mind.  It taught me that we're free to change our state of mind on a whim, any time we choose. So staying lonely is a choice.

28 years ago you were probably in a similar situation to me. But these days you have the internet! You have the world and everybody in it at your fingertips! Why don't you make some new connections and socialise online? Work online, talk online, entertain yourself online.

I find there aren't enough hours in the day for me to feel lonely any more. And I've been housebound and living alone for over 19 years. It's just a matter of reaching out and making new connections. Refuse to wallow in that lonely state of mind.

[Veryblue]

13 hours ago, snowbear said:

Hmm    Lloneliness is not an automatic consequence of mental illness.

Why are you lonely? Have you cut yourself off from people?

I had to give up work because of my OCD and after an assault became completely housebound. Back then there was no internet, no smartphones, no easily 'entertainment at your fingertips.' I didn't even have a TV for a long time as there's no signal here. I saw only one close friend from one year's end to the next, cutting off all contact with other people. Was I lonely?

Sometimes, maybe. But the experience taught me that loneliness is a state of mind.  It taught me that we're free to change our state of mind on a whim, any time we choose. So staying lonely is a choice.

28 years ago you were probably in a similar situation to me. But these days you have the internet! You have the world and everybody in it at your fingertips! Why don't you make some new connections and socialise online? Work online, talk online, entertain yourself online.

I find there aren't enough hours in the day for me to feel lonely any more. And I've been housebound and living alone for over 19 years. It's just a matter of reaching out and making new connections. Refuse to wallow in that lonely state of mind.

You don’t know enough about me to compare yourself to me or anything I’ve tried or even why I’m lonely at times. You assumed a lot based on a 28 word post! I will say though I’ve posted or written in the past about having liver cirrhosis as well as OCD.

Edited May 28 by Veryblue
Grammar

[snowbear]

7 hours ago, Veryblue said:

You assumed a lot based on a 28 word post!

Yes, I did. Sorry. And you're right I can't compare my life to yours. But then I wasn't actually trying to! I was only saying that I've learned loneliness is a state of mind rather than a situation you find yourself in and as such it can be overcome.

Anyway, I hope you don't remain lonely, however you choose to deal with it.

[Nolightleft]

With you,I feel lonely around a table of people who love and care for me,

[bendylouise]

Sorry u r lonely Veryblue. I am too, and very unhappy. I'm sending you warm thoughts and wonder i f there is just one thing we can both do to feel less lonely, like somehow connecting with others (though I know that is always a risk too)?

[Veryblue]

On 01/06/2023 at 00:14, bendylouise said:

Sorry u r lonely Veryblue. I am too, and very unhappy. I'm sending you warm thoughts and wonder i f there is just one thing we can both do to feel less lonely, like somehow connecting with others (though I know that is always a risk too)?

I don’t know. I don’t feel connected to many OCD sufferers and I’m put off posting here by someone I wish wouldn’t respond when I do post - rarely - who seems to misunderstand or misinterpret pretty much everything I write

Edited 17 hours ago by Veryblue

[bluegas]

Completely agree there are 1 or 2 people on here who should be more mindful and less patronising with there reply’s !! Ocd is a very delilibating   Illness that’s stolen lots of time and makes us feel scared traumatised and a whole lot more and when they constantly undermine how we are feeling and how we just make the wrong choices and we just need to change this do that ! It just makes us feel even worse even more lonely and even more lost ! I do strongly believe these people are well meaning souls but they need to actually listen instead of constantly over talking and listen more over their personal desires to be right all the time ! But please always feel free to post it’s important to feel part of a community! Even nobody can help it’s important to feel this is a safe space ! All the best my mate !!