My wife and I are doing OK, obeying the government rules on the Covid-19 pandemic, and hoping others are too.
Because only if we keep infections down will the government be able to make further lockdown easures.
We are both good spiritually and, generally, physically - though we have conditions that we have to manage.
Being able to go fishing - as you see I have enjoyed such a trip - and go to the Garden centre is perfect for us.
We are concerned about everyone affected b
I am very relieved that, thanks to tremendous guidance advice and support from the members of OCD-UK and an excellent clinical psychologist, I was back in good shape physically and mentally in time to prepare for lockdown.
As chief procurement officer and logistics manager for our household, this has helped enormously.
Julie and I are both touching 70, and are being extra vigilant and obeying government rules.
At least this is happening after we have trimmed right down to repre
This picture shows the lovely aspect of our garden from our kitchen diner French windows.
The lawn needs mowing even though it is still February.
The strip on the left, is actually AstroTurf and will be replaced with a rockery and shrubbery in due course.
From the left hand side of the garden more conifers are in view.
The rather scrappy area to bottom left will get tidied up in due course, there is a lot of wood and people's there at the moment.
Just by having an electrician in we have transformed the lighting and sockets, swapped around furniture and made much more space and light in our dining area.
If we can do that with physical things, we can surely do it with mental things.
It is only too easy to slip into a Slough of Despond - see the negative in everything, but often just a little tweaking, as we did with the dining room, can make a really big difference.
It's been a bad time for me recently and there has been
We are taking some time out to enjoy this lovely garden, and to get out and about our new hometown of Northampton.
Plenty of places to go, such as Althorp House and grounds, various other country houses and gardens, the canals and the canal museum, country parks.
Mentally we are both good and looking forward to this period of time.
This is the current state of our garden re-landscape project, with a few days work in decent weather needed to lay the perimeter paving, and the central new lawn.
We are hoping this will prove to be the last major building works project here for the reasonable future.
We have been through a challenging time since moving to this, our downsize bungalow retirement home in Northampton.
Illness, far too much stuff and having to reduce that, changing furniture to fit the property, fin
I have been pretty active on the boards recently, seeking to encourage others to follow a CBT path, learning how the illness works, stop believing and connecting with it, stare it out in ERP, and wean themselves off compulsions.
This can be a very hard slog; our brains are seemingly wired so that we believe the erroneous thoughts and feelings that are fed into them by OCD - and we sink deeper into the depths of subservience.
I would love to see a higher proportion of our bulletin boa
Wow, what awful weather we have been having Since storm Gareth, have they even bothered naming it?
The bottom fence of my garden is for replacing shortly as part of a complete re-landscaping and is hanging on in there thanks to support from some long round metal bird feeder stakes in the shape of shepherd's crooks.
So the weather is wet and windy - and arthritis has been playing up in my right knee - but in my head and my heart all is fine.
How come I feel like that? Well I wo
We like September, with often-clear blue skies and mellow sun.
And it has been a busy, mostly enjoyable month for us.
Some ongoing medical issues: but we made progress on lots of fronts - and are now seeking someone to lay some paving and a base for, then erect, a new shed in the garden.
Our last surviving aunt is 94 and we visited her, my father's sister, last Wednesday in my hometown of Rugby. She is very frail, but her mind is still sharp and clear and she told me some infor
Wow this weather is amazing.
It's been a challenge working in the garden but I have chosen times carefully, and made lots of progress.
Julie my wife is really into her nesting in our new home, and I am pretty familmm iar now with the local area.
OCD-wise all is well, hasn't bothered me since last July, when it seems - from a topic I posted then, and provided a link to help a sufferer this week - that I had a blip.
I am more than ever convinced that, whilst a standard CBT
Spring is on the way, and the roads in our lovely village are lined with daffodils and decorative trees and shrubs in bloom.
In the garden of our bungalow, a squirrel is competing with the birds on our peanut feeder, and the wet weather is still preventing me from erecting my second UPVC garden store. The grass length is also demanding attention.
Inside the bungalow more homemaking is scheduled this week, with the erection of two wardrobes.
Julie will likely still need a hig
Wow what a last 10 months it has been!
As soon as I was able to close down my last episode of OCD - thanks to brilliant help from other members - we threw ourselves into the necessary remedial works to bring our house up to a sufficient standard to sell it.
It involved various disciplines, and quite a few different people - but the renovated house was put up for sale by our agents in early October there was a mad scramble of viewings and it sold within a day.
Then several days
I wish to thank my forum friends, but especially Snowbear and Caramoole for their specific vital insight, as I am feeling a lot better.
The stomach issues have eased away as too the tension in my muscles and the anxiety ; and as a result the Citalopram SSRI has kicked in again and I am feeling much happier.
We've had some fun together in the chatroom and it's been awash with love and kindness. And when snowy has dropped in my comic muse seems to take off!
We are moving on with
Well a combination of being really busy, better weather, and getting out and about has been helpful.
The bed project continues - we have a new double bed and mattress, plus a new mattress on our spare double bed.
This means overhauling the bedding scrapping old stuff, buying new.
And has started a new project of sorting and clearing what was dumped under the old bed.
The garden renovation project has re-opened, with tree surgery work on Friday and power-washing scheduled
Keeping busy and knowing things will get busier soon. We had a meeting with a neighbour today, and filled in a form together. I got out to the pub for a burger pint and a coffee, and i measured up ready to go and order a new bed.
I am still making negative interpretations of things - very negative bias. So , as I simply look to not respond to intrusions, do some happy emotion things each day, I am also very gently looking for the positive in situations and observations - very very subtly a
Am getting into other things and moving away from too much activity here, especially in the main support forum . Too much time thinking about the disorder hinders recovery I do agree with Caramoole. Also my negative bias has been throwing up other negative connections.
So am getting ready for more home improvements, and hobbies.
Am not planning to join other forums or social media, because they become commitments - i have plenty of local friends we can activate as wanted. Meanwhile
Not been a great time for me over the last few weeks, as the disorder has been dragging me down mentally and physically.
But with help in particular from my OCD-UK member friends Snowbear and Caramoole, and support from friends and wife, we have a better understanding and a sensible strategy I am now working.
I hope to make some more Autumn photo entries to the gallery, if the weather is favourable this coming week - and also plan to do a little work on my music and writing activities
It has been a busy year to date, but a beneficial one.
Lots of family liaison, with some falling outs and then reconciliation, plenty of travel and - thanks to the good weather - plenty of gardening and sitting outside.
Those family issues damage me - I tend to do well at the problem- solving then, when things are resolving, the aftermath of the stress hits me and my mental equilibrium gets challenged and I experience intense, upsetting, vivid dreams, and loose stools and headaches.
Well the garden is blooming and we have been incredibly busy, leading to some stress in the last week,and me having to temporarily defer further ERP on a high hierarchy, the news, as I am not in a strong enough mental and emotional state.
But I have been making progress, and I have been keeping busy. I have lots of new roles to carry out, plus sufficient time for my hobbies which is nice; I am currently at my leisure club, and the bluebells wood is next door, so I will pop in for a walk.
Well it is now officially Spring, though it is freezing cold and snow is threatened
But you can't have everything.
I am a focal point for communication between our families so, in a short several day period of a lull in those proceedings, i bought myself a new pay as you go modest-priced smartphone.Having done some research, I decided on the Sony Xperia E4 - it is not 4g capable, but i don't need that, and I have been chipping away at setting up the phone just how I like it - it has been stre
Well I can't get out and about in the garden, and I am struggling with a posture-related upper arm/shoulder pain which is inhibiting. But I can do things around the house and my procurement duties, I can read write listen to music - but above all I know not to let the disorder create new restricitng rules - it must be resisted. Over the years I have kept going in such manner, and I feel good about that. I can ease right down on the main news in the papers. The horrible stories around the mi
I normally have very strong self-belief, but in OCD it gets threatened because of the adverse meaning it gives to its lies and turning core values on their head.
But I am getting better at seeing these for what they really are, using ERP sensibly and refocusing and distracting.
And I often get the chance to use especial skills I learned such as presenting alternative options; and a little bit of success encourages self-belief and positivity.
There have been some wonderful insightful forum topics and posts here recently, and I have played my part; as always enjoying creating some writing and the opportunity to help others. Keeping busy has been no problem, with the need to help my wife with her power of attorney role re her Mum's affairs. We have worked together well, worked around each other well. It is likely our own move to the Midlands will have to be postponed, as we have had responsibility for two not one property - and getti
Over the last 3 months I have been feeling better, and have been able to help my wife re her difficulties with her siblings over her mother's arffairs, and some issues with using her power-of-attorney. I have also twice driven up to her Mum's flat and brought back paperwork and family items to be gone through to see what to keep and what ought to be shredded or discarded.
Alongside that, re my OCD I have been carrying out a lot of ERP across the four main trigger areas . I haven
I worked for some time on my ERP, especially targeting the newspapers and advertising posters, key triggers for me.
During that several kilos of weight crept on; not surprising, because ERP is by definition distressing, and I felt the need to hit the biscuit tin .
I have come to the end of that intense ERP work, and I am now applying what I learned in therapy and from the forum on a daily basis. :original:
Adjusting to retirement was very hard for me, and hard for my wife to get used to me b