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Hi Snowbear, Thank you very much for your reply and your excellent advice. It's very helpful to know that it's just really OCD driving the thoughts about what happened last year, and making the thoughts stick. I kept re-running it through my mind as it's something that happened in real life, but I'll just try and re-frame it as OCD, and try and not dwell on it as much. It's kind of difficult when real life issues collide with OCD, and when something difficult happens in real life, the OCD just runs amok with it! But you're right - I do need to just let it go and let it stay in the past. I will indeed get the dizziness seen to very soon and hopefully get it sorted. Thanks again Snowbear

They may’ve been compulsions in the first instance, but then I doubled down and they became promises. I need to keep my word despite knowing nothing will happen. You don’t use a family member’s name in vain, and if you do, you keep your promise.

I’m having and have had loads of CBT and ERP but nothing seems to work. Do you have promises surrounding magical thinking and double down on them?

Will have a look thanks

Hi Beckym The checking up could be interpreted as a compulsion. The feeling that if you eat or do fun things then death will occur has the potential to become a compulsion. In the real world you have no power to determine someone’s death by eating and having fun. This is called ‘magical thinking’. It is akin to superstitution - when we do things to stop bad things happening. I have experienced something similar when for example I felt that I had to walk down one side of the street or something bad would happen. I decided to ignore the thought and walked down on the ‘wrong’ side of the street.Nothing bad happened.

Get you and sending a hug. Your words could be mine. And now in the summer, people celebrate holiday and enjoy...I don't... Thank you for sharing your experience. I like the words from Simonsky "keep a candle of hope burning..." Yes, let us.

I feel like any dedicated practitioner of CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) and ERP (Exposure and Response Prevention) would be able to identify many of the things you mentioned in your first post as compulsions. As Snowbear says, these are compulsions. What therapy are you receiving? Not all therapies are effective in treating OCD. Read some of the resources available on OCD UK, it should help guide you to what you need. I also have magical thinking OCD. It really, really sucks.

Recently a friend mentioned what I was describing sounded like ocd and I just wanted to get some advice before going to my GP and requesting help. I've always been an anxious person but never considered it ocd until recently as I never felt like I had obsessions or compulsions, but looking back now I can see alot of signs. The main one at the moment which is making me seek out treatment is that I am terrified of friends and family dying. At first I thought this was anxiety stemming from alot of my friends/ friends of friends having mental health issues themselves and from one of my friends suddenly passing away. But recently its got worse I am constantly checking up on people seeing if their okay and if someone doesn't respond or hasn't been active online I feel like if I eat or do anything 'fun' or enjoyable or productive then they will die, but its so hard to separate this from 'just' anxiety as that has always made me loose my appetite and be unable to focus on anything else, so I dont know if its ocd or just anxiety getting worse after something triggered it. Thank you to anyone who reads all of this or gives me any advice it is really appreciated.

Hi all, I am trying tp pushi this again in the hope I get a few more real-life replies from people who used it , how they think it helped or did nto help and also if the preceiber said anything regarding the practical risks at the low dose used for OCD. Thanks

Does anyone else think it's harsh how some therapists expect you to understand and be calm at the same time of cbt and exposure they make out it's so easy. Then when you actually do the theory on your own you like I can't remember

You’re definitely not alone @ecomum. Though speaking from personal experience, it can sometimes feel like this. OCD has isolated me somewhat and made me feel like a burden as well. There are people who understand though, so please try not to feel too alone. Sending you positive vibes and stay strong.

Hello there I’ve been recommended to have therapy with a High Intensity Practitioner. Has anyone experienced this and please could you let me know what it involves and what to expect? Many thanks Nick

Not alone! This forum can be wonderfully supportive.

Hi Does anyone have a sample theory A vs theory B example for numbers e.g. keeping away from 'bad' numbers by any chance please? Thanks

Thank you Snowbear

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Thank you for such lovely kind words Simonsky and Garfield . These replies are really going to help me get through the day . I am so grateful that you replied I knew someone on here would understand. Great advice thank you .

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You are not alone. I understand how lonely it feels though. We here understand and struggle alongside you. This "illness" is scary, infuriating, all consuming and all kinds of pain at times. Sending you a virtual hug . You are stronger than you think.

There can be a terrible feeling of aloneness with OCD and the mind games it plays where one feels cornered. Keep a candle of hope burning that you WILL get through this and allow time rather than terror to get you through the next day. People with OCD are strong, caring people living with a condition that pushes them to the edge of what is bearable at times, yet we get through still caring and loving as much as possible. Give yourself possitive affirmations, see how courageous you are in reality and imagine the guilt and ruminating floating away from you gradually leaving life lighter. Sounds impossible? You'll get there!!

Definitely OCD latching onto it, giving an insignificant social media message more importance than it deserves. So treat it as you would any other OCD theme - label the thoughts you get about it as OCD, don't engage with them and get busy with real life. Great that you have a best friend (doggie ) and family to help. I agree about the Samaritans, they are indeed a great resource for times of trouble. I hope you get your dizziness and legs-giving-way symptoms sorted soon. If it does turn out to be stress-related then that makes it even more important to let these obsessive thoughts go unheeded and put it behind you. So my advice is don't even think of it as 'an incident'. It's not that big an issue that it deserves the title! Often with OCD it's just about giving ourselves permission to let go of the feeling that we ought to right the wrong. Maybe just knowing that there's no further action you need to take for your friend's or your own benefit, and that you do not have any responsibility to take action against such a vile person (you're not the moral police with a duty to reform every vile person out there) will be enough to let you feel you can let it go.

Just bumping this, if I may. I'd appreciate any replies or advice please on how to deal with this cyberbullying incident, especially as the OCD has latched on to it, and how to let go of it. I try my best to put it out of my mind, given that it was last year, but it's always there at the back of my mind, and indeed sometimes it's all I can think about. Has anyone any advice on how I can try and move on from what happened, as I have been stuck on it for a while? Any advice that anyone could share would be gratefully received. Thanks!

Sounds scrumptious. Love the chameleon.

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I get similar triggers to this . What helps me is to remind myself that there is not a person alive who hasn’t done something wrong at some point . Everyone makes mistakes, it’s how we learn . It’s just ocd making it into something more for you and it’s the ocd part you have to fight . Think if a loved one had done it would you be so hard on them ? I know people who have made mistakes and don’t even bat an eyelid . We have to beat ocd and become like them . you can do it and it will pass.