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  1. I haven't used any of the various VR platforms myself other than a couple demos many years ago, but just wanted to suggest the Oculus Quest 2 as a potential alternative. Its cheaper than the Rift S and doesn't require a PC to play games (though it can be used with one apparently). I'm sure the games vary quite a bit in quality, but I've heard some, like Beat Saber are quite fun. Another alternative if you have a Play Station 4 is to consider the PS VR setup.
  2. Speaking from my own experience only, it has never made me feel numb that I’m aware of. I started at 13 years old and just turned 40 this year. Over 2/3 of my life has been on the meds, so in a way it’s just “normal” for me. I would say the only side effect I’ve noticed over the years is mild drowsiness at times, but then I also don’t have the best sleep habits so it’s probably not 100% the medications fault either 😆 I’ve tried different doses over the years, and there have also been some times where I’ve gotten sloppy about taking my medication (usually when things are going well) and I’
  3. Hi @Tealight, so sorry to hear about the difficult times you are going through. OCD alone is a real struggle, and adding COVID on top of that? Its absolutely understandable you are struggling right now, so many are! Its normal to be reluctant about taking medication. I know I was when my own therapist first suggested it. Now, some 27 years later though? I am so grateful they did! It has made a huge difference in my life and helped me be me. Its not perfect, and CBT is also vital, but I can't imagine what things might have been like for me without that help. Not everyone use
  4. There are no subtypes of OCD. There is only OCD. People categorize OCD for their convenience but the only difference between a person with "POCD" and "HOCD" is what thought happened to be going through their head when their OCD acted up. OCD can be about anything. If you can think about it, if you can worry about it, you can obsess about it. Maybe you are the first person in the world to have your particular worry. Give how many people have OCD thats unlikely, but it's possible. Well someone else was the first person to have OCD about being gay. Some else was the first person to have
  5. Hi @Flic, welcome to the forums. Safe to say many people, including those without OCD are worried about COVID right now. Unfortunately it is a real problem, and people should be taking it seriously. However, like anything, OCD can latch on to that and make everything worse. Part of living in the world is accepting that we can't control everything, we can't prevent every bad outcome. We can only take a reasonable effort to do the right thing and hope for the best. Dealing with and overcoming OCD involves a few things, one of which is to accept that we can't be 100% certain about anythin
  6. The thing is, it IS OCD. This is how OCD feels. I know, I've been there. I've been walking on a sidewalk feeling like if I didn't use every ounce of willpower I had I would throw myself in to traffic. Because that was my fear at the time, losing control and doing something to hurt myself. I eventually confessed it to my doctor and my therapist. I was convinced they would say that I was suicidal and lock me up. Surely this was real, surely this wasn't just OCD. But they didn't. Because they could clearly see what I couldn't, it WAS OCD. It was exactly OCD. To get over it I had to tru
  7. You are sick, you have OCD, its a mental illness. Trust me, I understand how scary and painful this is for you. I went through something similar, except in my case it was fear I would do something to hurt myself. There were times where it felt like I HAD to fight the "urges" OR ELSE I would give in and do something. I was wrong. Fortunately I had a good therapist to work with, though it took time. I finally stopped fighting the "urges" and guess what? Nothing bad happened. It was scary, and it was hard. I had to take a chance that my therapist (and my psychiatrist, and my parents, etc.)
  8. Hi @Cora, I want to emphasize (thus repeating him again) what PolarBear says here because it is spot on. I understand you feel like your situation might be/is different. Trust us when we tell you it's not. We've all felt it before, heard it before, or both. Nothing you have shared so far has shocked us, surprised us, scared us, etc. Its totally run of the mill OCD. Don't get me wrong, run of the mill OCD is painful and hard. Dealing with it is obviously causing you a lot of distress. Dealing with it isn't easy. But its doable. We can help you, but you have to be the one who does
  9. While some people find it convenient to categorize OCD, its important to keep in mind that there is only one kind of OCD, and that is OCD. Themes can (and often do) change over time, and the steps to get control back from OCD are basically the same, only the specific details change a little to address your current anxiety. I recommend not putting too much emphasis on what "type" of OCD you have, and focus on understanding why CBT works and then applying it to your recovery, regardless of your current obsession (or obsessions). That way you're better prepared no matter what OCD throws at you
  10. Hi @Jamesw, welcome to the forums. Sorry to hear you are having a rough time. As PolarBear says, the specific obsession isn't really important. Of course it feels important to you, but only because its causing you pain right now. Your obsession happened to be about faces this time. It could have been something else, it could be something else in the future. People often think OCD chooses specific thoughts, like OCD is some villain or bully acting against you. While it can sometimes help to personify OCD in this way, the truth is that OCD doesn't CHOOSE to do anything. It can't, its a
  11. You've changed houses before, yet you keep worrying. Changing houses is not going to be any different this time if you don't change the real problems. You CAN change how you see this, but it means doing the work, hard work yes, but necessary. You HAVE to touch the things that make you feel uneasy, you have to face the anxiety and do things anyway. Yes its hard, yes its unpleasant, but it can be done. Bleaching is just a compulsion, the worry comes back for these people too. Your situation isn't different from there's, to them it feels just as awful. But their situation doesn
  12. Hello @SeaBeeTea Diaries, welcome to the forums. Its not uncommon for people with one mental illness to be diagnosed with another. Unfortunately these sorts of things like to hang out together! The good news is working on improving one usually helps the other. Its very common for people with OCD to continue to doubt they have OCD. This is due in part to the fact that OCD itself causes us to doubt more, and also it can be unpleasant to accept we have a condition like OCD, its not exactly something to look forward to after all. The good news is you don't have to accep
  13. Not a lady, but Albertina has already answered that key part Fortunately/unfortunately depending on how you look at it, living beings, especially humans, are complex biological machines. So many things can impact our mood and our mental health and we are only now beginning to understand it. Stress, sleep schedule, diet, exercise, and yes for ladies periods can all have an impact on that. Some of it you can control, some you just have to deal with. Hang in there and do your best!
  14. It means OCD is a pain in the **** One of the main goals of recovery IS that the intrusive thoughts stop worrying you! Thats the point! Now you've got meta-anxiety, worry about worry (or not enough worry). But its just another intrusive thought, another "what if". As @OCD10 says, treat it like OCD, because it is
  15. You FEEL like you need the photo, but as PB says you don't. You need to work on understanding the difference between how you feel about something (because of OCD) and what you actually need.
  16. Sorry but this is not a fact, it is an opinion. Different people communicate better in different ways. For some people in person may be better, for others online may be better. Please try to remember that and be respectful of peoples differences.
  17. Its a lot easier to tell you what to do or even know what to do than it is to actually do it (as is often the case in life). Trust me, we understand how hard that is too As PB said, it took you awhile to get in to this, it'll take awhile to get out. I wish I could tell you how long, but there's just no way to say. But everyday that you work on it, every time you do the right thing and avoid compulsions, face your anxieties etc. is one day closer to that goal. Of course it would be awesome if you could be better right away, I know how desperately you want that, thats natural. Try to be pat
  18. Unfortunately recovery isn't an easily quantifiable process, you can't just follow a list like: avoid compulsions for 7 days and the anxiety will go away. Some intrusive thoughts are stronger than others, some compulsions are easier to stop than others, some compulsions are easier to identify than others. In my own life I've had some intrusive thoughts that only impacted me for a short time, and some that lasted for years and years before I started getting a handle on them (and really getting in to CBT, I wish I'd known about that a lot earlier). Of course its frustrating to struggle with
  19. Because you are a good person and you don't WANT to be having those kind of thoughts. Intrusive thoughts cause distress, and shame is one example of that.
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