gingerbreadgirl

Yes I totally agree but it that only becomes apparent in hindsight.

I like these although I have slight reservations about the last one. I think a better one for me is "the threat might be real but I'm not going to attend to it anyway". I think I might have used the last bit as reassurance - as in it's "ok cos I will attend to it one day". For me the key is leaving it open and uncertain.

Whatever question ocd wants you to answer, whatever problem it wants you to fix, it's ok to just leave it as unanswered, leave it as unfixed.

Remember how well you were doing the other day dave and how quickly that improvement happened. Read over that post again and get your determination back x

Hi BT, what do you think you could do to try and moderate your drinking a little more? Not being preachy (I have done it many times myself when younger!) I just mean for your own metal health - drinking til blackout is a really really bad thing to do (for you I mean) especially when you add OCD into the mix. It seems like your themes always strike after doing this.

Have you been to a therapist at all about this? I think you need to arrive at a better cognitive understanding of what fuels this fear you have. I think the drinking you do to blackout is really not helping you either xx

Bt when will you change this pattern? I see you go through the same pattern over and over and over. Time to change it for a new one. I also really think you need to get some help with your drinking.

This is reassurance seeking and I think you know that bt.

Are you getting any help with alcohol bt? x

Ignore handy his comment is not helpful.

Always run towards your fears never away from them

OMG this is the best post!!! It made me so happy to read this!! Well done dave!!! 👍👍👍👍👍 keep going!!!

You don't x

Like I say you have to take a leap of faith. You can't be completely sure you're not lying to yourself etc. You just have to treat it like that in blind faith. Things only become clear later - the gnawing anxiety will fade and you can see it for what it is. But you have to put the cart before the horse. Accept that you will feel doubt. If you didn't feel doubt then you wouldn't have a problem. You can't do anything to make that doubt go away right now - and the more you try, the more doubt you will feel. You have to take a leap of faith and trust that you will get more clarity later. It can't ever work the other way round.