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  1. Thanks Roy. I was hoping to get some feedback from members of the forum but that's a very good idea.
  2. It's the same thing just a different theme. I'm sympathetic to your situation but your post above is incredibly detailed which suggests how much you are letting this silliness upset you and seeking reassurance - perhaps not overtly.
  3. I feel I'm in a pretty good place at the moment in terms of OCD and other issues I've faced in the last couple of years. In some respects I'd say OCD is more manageable than it's ever been. I've been thinking recently about setting up a support group in Cardiff. As far as I know there's no specific peer-to-peer support group for OCD in Cardiff or the surrounding area although I might be wrong. If there IS one please reply to this post with the details for my own benefit and for a couple of people I know. I'd also be interested to know if people who live in South Wales feel there is demand so to speak for a group. I have a fair idea of the structure of a group, "rules", "yays and nays", appropriate settings etc. and would follow OCD-UK guidelines as I would hope it would be endorsed by the charity. What I'm hoping for is that someone in Cardiff or near by might be interested in getting involved in this with me - I don't see myself as the main facilitator or "leader" but as someone who is pretty good when it comes to organising things with help from others. I'm also hoping users of this forum and members of OCD-UK will give me some guidance in terms of what they see as being a good model for a support group. Any feedback would be most appreciated. Best wishes, Phil
  4. I don't normally "bump" posts as I know it's considered bad online etiquette but I'm doing so on this occasion because I think this post is important and Deb deserves some more support.
  5. I understand completely your distress as I've had similar experiences myself and the nature of "my" OCD is similar to yours. Remember though that this experience shows the ignorance that's still out there and has nothing to do with your true nature - that's not reassurance but a fact.
  6. Unfortunately there is still much ignorance in the medical profession about the reality of OCD although I'd like to think it's changed some what since I was diagnosed in the mid-90s. I found the hard way that the "best" way to discuss OCD with a health professional I'd not seen before was to talk about OCD in a general way to see how they reacted and get a sense of what knowledge they had. Some times it worked and sometimes it didn't. I can understand why you're feeling down but please try not to let one doctor's ignorance about OCD cause you to be overly distressed. When she asked about "hearing voices" etc. she was perhaps just "ticking boxes" as the saying goes.
  7. I know how difficult it is but those thoughts are not reflective of you as a person and they aren't for me either. OCD can wax and wane in my experience - it's the nature of the beast unfortunately. Try and remember, if you can, the following which was written by a real pioneer of CBT Claire Weekes: "They are only thoughts and no-one need ever be bluffed by a thought." I know it's not that simple when we're getting a battering from OCD but it is true. I wish you well, Phil.
  8. Well if that's the case maybe the moderators need to be informed.
  9. Low serotonin? Is that a fact or an opinion Handy?
  10. It does MC. I'm going out in a minute and I know I'll have doubts in my head that I've locked the door but I can't go and check. This is one of my less distressing manifestations. Obviously I would say work with a therapist if you're not already but there are things you can do for yourself if you're waiting to see one in my experience.
  11. From my experience the fear of what's going on in my mind is what perpetuated the problem and still does to some degree. OCD is a very cruel condition but it can be "managed" in my experience and I know people even beyond "managing" the condition who refer to themselves as "ex-sufferers". Fear of intrusive thoughts and physical anxiety are a sneaky combination which feed off each other and if you add them to ruminating the cycle can go on ad infinitum. You may never have control of what's going on in your mind but you can certainly develop a lot of control over how you deal with thoughts.
  12. It's all rubbish - whatever the theme. I was in hell on and off with OCD for 20 + years. I had loads of "therapy" - most of which didn't help. I took a wide variety of medications and spent time in psychiatric hospitals. "All" it has taken for me (at the moment) to consider myself 75 per cent better compared to a couple of years ago is to not take my thoughts so seriously - without therapy. Slow down the mind and try to relax the body and believe me you will not take whatever is going in your head so seriously. I'm not special or different to any other OCD sufferer - I've simply learnt to not react to specific thoughts and my life is so much better. It might get bad again but at the moment I would certainly describe myself as "in recovery".
  13. Beyond the OCD do you think you and your partner might benefit from couples counselling through an organisation such as Relate? I think it's understandable to some degree that you would have thoughts about the relationship after what happened. Discussing it with a counsellor who won't take side might allow you to express yourself in a different way to your partner and also calm down your mind?
  14. Bruces you've posted 4,205 times and you're asking that question about anxiety. Really?
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