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  1. Hi Fran, It's great that you want to be a team and if you do speak to him about how you're feeling then I think that's a great way to approach it. Has your partner ever had treatment for OCD, which would typically be Cognitive Behavioural Therapy with or without SSRI medication? If he doesn't feel ready to access treatment, do you think he would look into self-help material so you can make a start together? Gemma
  2. Hi Fran, Welcome to the forum I'm sorry to hear that you're finding it difficult to live with your partner at the moment. Does your partner have OCD? It's possible that his problem with coats hanging up or moving cushions is due to some sort of worry or 'just right' feeling, which is when it may be OCD or it may be something else. Have you spoken to him about how you're feeling? Gemma
  3. Hi thistooshallpass1996, Tourettes and OCD are related conditions, in that a significant number of people with Tourette syndrome also have OCD. As Felix mentioned, tics are not something that can be challenged like compulsions in OCD. I have never heard of compulsions becoming tics and the things you describe sound like compulsions. Compulsions can seem almost automatic. Because as we get used to doing them, we become faster and faster at reacting to intrusive thoughts and doubts. But we can still stop doing them with the help of CBT. Gemma
  4. Hi Claire, If you're in England then you can self-refer to your local Improving Access to Psychological Therapies (IAPT) service without speaking to your GP. IAPT is the first step in England to accessing CBT for OCD. You can find your local IAPT service by looking on the NHS IAPT database here https://www.nhs.uk/service-search/find-a-psychological-therapies-service/ Sometimes multiple services are shown, so try to make sure the one you pick is for those registered with a GP where your GP is based. If you are elsewhere in the UK then it would mean making an appointment with your GP, for a referral to your local community mental health team. I know how hard it is to get an appointment but keep persisting as CBT really is worth pushing for. In the meantime it might be helpful to look into a self-help book like Break Free from OCD https://www.ocduk.org/shop/break-free-from-ocd/ which is written by specialists in the treatment of OCD. It is a great way to learn what good CBT looks like. Gemma
  5. Hi Claire, Welcome to the forum I'm sorry to hear how much you're struggling at the moment, I think all of us understand how exhausting it can be. I'm also sorry to hear about your dad too, that must have been an incredibly difficult time. It's not uncommon for those with OCD to worry about asbestos among other things so please know that you are not alone. You mentioned that you have been going to counselling this year, do you mean Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) or counselling as I know many people say one when they mean the other. At the moment CBT is the recommended treatment for OCD and it differs from counselling in that it is much more of a doing therapy, which gives you the tools to tackle OCD. CBT is freely available on the NHS and I would be happy to explain the referral routes if that would be helpful. Gemma
  6. Hi Fefee, If these feelings are preventing you from tackling OCD then it's natural to want to deal with them first and if that's possible then great. Just be aware that OCD might also increase these feelings so trying to deal with them before tackling OCD, may not be an option. Gemma
  7. Hi Someone, It's not uncommon for OCD to latch onto things that are really important to us, like our relationships, and that is why OCD is such a difficult condition. Overcoming OCD is about applying what you learn in Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), which teaches us that our thoughts are not unusual, it's the meanings we place on them and our reactions to them. Have you looked into accessing CBT? A good place to start would be to work out what compulsions you're doing, these could be anything from seeking reassurance from loved ones or online to comparing to other relationship or checking reactions. It is our compulsions that keep our beliefs about our worries high, and it is these that need challenged. Gemma
  8. Hi Fefee, I'm sorry to hear you've been having such a tough time recently, it definitely won't make it easier to challenge OCD. You mentioned that your therapist said; Did they explain how to actually do this, because obviously if you could do this then you wouldn't have this problem. Is your therapist private or through the NHS? Gemma
  9. Hi 8thstar, I'm really sorry to hear that you're struggling at the moment. I have experienced feelings of anger and had harm thoughts during that time, and I understand how distressing that is. It really can feel like you are more of a danger, but that doesn't mean that you are. Usually my anger came about when I was triggered, do you think that your cat might be doing something that triggers you? Is he going places in your home that you don't like, or is he coming over when you're doing a compulsion or thinking about something? Gemma
  10. Hi 1Littlefoot, The four steps are very well known on the forum and many people with OCD find them incredibly helpful when times are tough. They feature in the self-help book Brain Lock written by Schwarz. They are not CBT or ERP, but can be used as a coping strategy when waiting for CBT, or alongside CBT. Gemma
  11. Hi Sweetcheeks63, We do hear from many parents where their child has a diagnosis of both OCD and ASD, and we understand how complex things can seem when your child has both conditions at once. It is possible to have success in CBT provided a therapist is skilled enough to work out what behaviours come about because of ASD and what are caused by OCD. Typically, more sessions of CBT are required, so for example the specialist children's service in London offer 20 sessions for those with OCD and ASD as opposed to 14 sessions for OCD alone. It's good that you've managed to access some private therapy for your son, but it could be worth looking into accessing CBT on the NHS, even if there is a long waiting list, he can still continue with the private CBT in the meantime. Have you talked to your son about OCD, is he aware that checking in with you is a compulsion that will make the problem worse long term? Gemma
  12. Hi LittleAngel, I'm really sorry to hear that you experienced being beaten by your father during your childhood, I can't imagine how difficult that was. Have you looked into accessing any treatment for OCD and possibly the trauma you experienced growing up? Gemma
  13. Hi MarieJo, I'm sorry to hear that two young men were recently stabbed outside of a local club that your son attends, that must have been difficult to learn about and will have definitely bought into your fears. I think it would be difficult to challenge this with reasoning, as you feel the risk is high due to recent events. The focus for CBT is really on what you do in response to your worries, and to look into whether or not these responses are making you feel worse or better. For example, if you were to research into attacks on young men in the area, that may increase your worry rather than make you feel better, it also wouldn't make the area you live in safer or more dangerous. In fact the only effect it will have is to make OCD worse. So I would suggest looking into what you do rather than simply your thinking about this problem. Have you looked into accessing CBT? Gemma
  14. Hi Stringularity, I'm sorry to hear that you daughter is struggling with hand washing compulsions at the moment and that it is effecting her daughter too. Is your daughter currently accessing any support to help her tackle the OCD? I think it's unlikely that telling your daughter to stop will lead to her stop but perhaps highlighting that you are concerned about her wellbeing could be a good place to start. The aim is that if your daughter can get well, then this will improve things for your granddaughter. Gemma
  15. Hi Mthecatlady Welcome to the forum! I'm sorry to hear that you're struggling so much at the moment. Like you say you're asking for lots of reassurance over these and other worries so it isn't surprising that you're feeling so anxious and unsure. Both health anxiety and OCD want absolute certainty that nothing is wrong or will go wrong and it's this search for certainty that causes all the distress. It's great to hear that you're trying citalopram and that you're restarting therapy soon, so I hope that you find them both helpful. These feelings won't be around forever, even if it might feel that way. You just need the strategies in place to try to live with some of the uncertainty that life brings. It might be helpful to look into some self-help resources if you haven't already like Break Free from OCD or Overcoming Health Anxiety Gemma
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