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  1. Love this! We are definitely all behind you!
  2. Hi Nikki, If you've had therapy many times, then it's natural to feel a little hopeless right now, but just because CBT hasn't kept OCD away for long, doesn't mean that you won't have a therapy experience that really makes a difference in the future. There are specialist services in the England (if that is where you are) that might be able to help if therapy locally hasn't been long lasting. I would be happy to tell you about them if that would be helpful, or if you have any specific questions you can email us at support@ocduk.org Gemma
  3. Hi Optimistic, Welcome to the forum No need to apologise for the length of your post It's natural to feel worried about going out for a coffee, particularly if you have been used to taking quite extensive precautions against Covid-19 since the pandemic began. You're right that for the general public wiping things you buy or changing your clothes is beyond what the government recommends. We do have some resources on this topic that you might find helpful, our member's magazine from last year https://www.ocduk.org/april-compulsive-reading/ has loads of tips on coping during the
  4. Hi Nikki, I'm sorry to hear that you're having a tough time at the moment. It's hard to know why OCD gets worse, sometimes additional life stress can worsen symptoms, sometimes it is unexplained, the most important thing is that you have recognised that you want to do something about it, which is great You mentioned that you've had therapy many times, was this CBT and was it with different therapists? We do know that some people with OCD see two or three therapists before they find one with the right approach or expertise to really help them challenge and overcome the OCD. Gem
  5. Hi Real2, It sounds like you're finding this particular worry difficult to cope with and doing quite a few compulsions around it, with the main one being avoidance. I imagine OCD wants you to be 100% certain that nothing happened on the night you mentioned, as this is a common trap that OCD makes sufferers fall into. One of the specialists in treating OCD always says it's impossible to remember nothing happening, yet OCD causes us to think and think. It really is about facing going to collect your belongings, avoiding it isn't going to help you in the long term at all. You need to show yo
  6. Hi pansycake, Perhaps you could just start with some of the things that you mentioned above, that you're having intrusive thoughts of the taboo kind and that you find it very difficult to speak about. That way they will understand and you won't feel like you need to say everything at once. When you are a little more confident then you can gradually open up, just start small. Gemma
  7. Hi Harmocd, You definitely don't sound crazy, you sound like you have OCD. Unfortunately, we all make mistakes sometimes but OCD loves to flag up the fact that we might have made them previously and just can't remember. Inflated responsibility is common for those with OCD and when you make a mistake, it can make you feel irresponsible and careless, making you feel the need to check and make sure that nothing else has gone wrong. You have to learn to live with the uncertainty because everyone else does. Looking to be 100% sure all the time, leads to bad mental health and OCD. Gemma
  8. Hi Robin, Waiting must be really hard, I hope you find out what your local health board has decided soon. Please let us know if they say no and we will do our best to suggest what next steps you can take. Gemma
  9. Hi Hannah, Is your daughter managing to eat at all in front of people at school? If so, could you possibly come up with a plan with your daughter about how she can approach food, perhaps she could eat a very small amount of the foods she finds worrying and build up. I understand you might have already tried this. Is she getting any help with the OCD at the moment through local child and adolescent mental health services? Gemma
  10. Hi Robin, We know that OHSPIC can offer tailored treatment like intensive treatment over two weeks, or one hour a week for so many weeks, but the number of sessions someone gets at OHSPIC varies on a case by case basis, so it really depends on the individual. The therapists at Oxford are some of the best in the country at treating OCD, and therapy there will be very much tailored to the individual's problems. Gemma
  11. Hi Sodexo, There's no need to apologise for the long post, sometimes you just can't explain things in a few sentences I'm really sorry to hear what both yourself and your partner are going through, because it does sound like you're both struggling. It's important to say that no matter what your partner is struggling with, it is never right for him to take out his anger on you, particularly if it is affecting your wellbeing. Obviously, I'm not a trained mental health professional but from what you describe it is hard to say if your partner is suffering from OCD. It may be OCD,
  12. Hi Hannah, I'm really sorry to hear that your daughter is struggling with eating at school. Do you know if she finds eating difficult because of OCD or is there another reason? Are the school aware of the things she finds difficult? Gemma
  13. Hi pansycake, Dreams are like thoughts in that we can't control them and they don't actually mean anything. So although I know it's very worrying to wonder what you might have dreamt, the problem is the meaning you're placing on having the dream itself. If you can look at what compulsions you're doing in response to dreams and thoughts and look at stopping them, it will make you less panicked in the long term. Have you looked into any therapy for OCD, as ideally this will give you the best tools for tackling your problem? Gemma
  14. Hi Frantic, I'm so sorry you're finding things so tough at the moment. I think so many people have found lockdown unbearably hard, so please know that you are not alone. Have you considered joining one of our online Zoom support groups. They are free to anyone in the UK who is over 18 years old. You can register for them here https://www.ocduk.org/support-groups/zoom/ I know many people have found they feel less alone after joining them Gemma
  15. Hi CO9, I'm sorry to hear that you're struggling with OCD at the moment. You mentioned that you're in counselling, do you mean Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), as this differs somewhat from counselling and is the recommended treatment for OCD. CBT should help give you tools to tackle OCD and if you don't feel ready to do a particular exposure exercise, make your therapist aware and they might help you to approach the exercise with something slightly more manageable. It's also really common to feel apprehensive at first with exposures, but you will be amazed at how much you can challen
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