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Hi tottenh Welcome to the forum as well. They will be certain ones that are giving him pleasure and ones that are causing stress, I agree with Snowbear that focus on getting rid of the ones that are causing stress, That hobby he has sounds cool and he must be getting pleasure from it. I notice people enjoy collecting lots of items and it must give them a lot of pleasure. The hobby itself sounds good but they will be elements within that hobby that might be causing him stress, for example I used to love collecting or building my collection for video games in the past, an unhealthily approach I had was I remember once I checked every disc just to see it never had too many scratches on it. I knew deep down this there was no point to doing this as I knew I usually kept them in not a bad condition. In my mind it felt like I needed to check all the games and I knew this was a big waste of time and could even even cause unnecessary stress as well.

Hi Snowbear That's an interesting point you raise there Snowbear. I notice when I was searching for proofreaders a lot of them do focus on many aspects when it comes to the proofreading. At the time of posting my message I managed to get someone to give it a go. I'm still learning more about how the proofreading system goes, funny thing was I was looking around for proofreaders online and I noticed you can make good money from it and they do as you were saying a lot of content and opinion based proofreading. I managed to get someone to give it a proofread and I will bear in mind what you were saying, the grammar and spelling might be the one I'm probably going to focus on more at the moment. Out of interesting how have you found the proofreading yourself? Is it a difficult one to do or is it the more you do it the more used to it you become. Thanks for the help and wishing me success Snowbear.

I hope this is okay post this. I've been writing a book and wanted someone to maybe give it a quick proofread to see if everything is okay. Maybe Check for typos or anything that shouldn't be there. That will be a big help to myself and the book I might be self publishing to raise awareness about Harm Ocd. The book is about four fictional Characters who suffer from harm ocd where you get urges act on the thoughts you are getting. I could maybe post the attachment as a private message if that's okay. If you post me a private message with your e-mail address and I could send you the manuscript if that's okay.

I used to get the urge to burp but I wasn't able to unless I took some fizzy juice with the tablets. When I was unable to burp it felt so horrible.

Hi John, Hi everyone It's scary to the sufferer harm ocd, I felt ashamed of something that happened in the past, I was 13 years old finishing off some homework then out of nowhere I got these thoughts telling me to stick the pencil into the wire and I went through with this, it ended up I started doing this around the house then I felt so guilty that I used tip-ex to cover up what I had done. We certainly do deserve to enjoy life and don't let the ocd ruin that for us. That's a really good post Roopoo47 about the survival mode. The thing is as well is that doctors will ask that question about ever acting on a thought, it can be scary but the doctor or therapists probably have to ask those questions.

This is a good positive thread. ? I had a little bit of a thing today as I was in the shops buying some donuts, I know I shouldn't but I was lifting the donuts I felt something walking on my thumb, it was one of those small flies. I don't like flies. Usually anytime I see a fly I automatically think it's going to go up my nose. My main ocd is the harm one. An achievement that happened yesterday, I was meeting up for a running group, we did roughly a mile running but by near the end of it I felt out of breath and wasn't really wanting to be competitive, I was merely testing myself to see if I could mostly run the mile. I felt proud doing that as I'm not the most healthiest person around. I used to love the running a long time ago back in my school days, I did the cross countries and shorter sprint type runs which I did not too bad in.

Only natural to feel anxious in general about the situation but don't let the ocd have it's way here, relaxation is probably the advice I would give, take things easy which will probably give the ocd less power.

Hi Flic, Hi everyone I usually get the harm ocd thoughts in relation to the covid like I could give someone the covid by coughing on someone. Ocd can really have an impact on us and it stops doing the things we love. The harm ocd makes me think I'm going to do something bad even though I'm 100% against the idea of doing something bad, That's a lot of us in the Glasgow area of Scotland in lockdown an announcement made today by the Scottish government. The lockdown can have an impact on our ocd, as we might be spending more times indoors and maybe that might mean more times our mind. Is your area in lockdown Flic, I'm wondering as I think getting out and about is very important to our mental health. The fresh air does wonders.

I think BelAnna is right they are strict about the housing benefit aspect. I'm getting PIP and my mum is my carer.

Oh this is quite a good question and subject, We meet again Orwell. To me I think I would feel guilty if I was to use the tough love approach. I tend to feel that compassion is a really good way to go. The other day my dad and I had a discussion about using the word lazy, I don't like that word as I see it depicts a very negative thing. On the other side of things yes I feel that it is a good thing to challenge peoples thinking. I think I needed that at times. I'll keep an eye on this topic for sure.

Hi Wonderer I think I knew what was going to happen or some sort of feeling, it was thoughts like if my mind was telling me to do something, I felt as if I had to do it. (Now my reason for acting on the thoughts are complicated but I'll have a go hoping not to confuse anyone. The main reason being was that I pictured myself living this life again but having not been strong enough to control the exact same urges so when faced with those thoughts it felt as if I had to act on the thoughts. It hopes it makes a little bit of sense as my mind did seem like an enigma back then. Sorry to hear that your son was very distressed, that must of been frightening seeing him do that Wonderer. I think with those thoughts and actions we probably have to keep stress to a minimum, the same with myself, I think I'm handling stressful situations a bit better now than I used to. I did feel a bit suicidal around the time of getting a diagnosis and I was crying a few times not because of the diagnosis itself but because I was more able to talk about the ocd and I was letting the emotions get to me. I did put a knife to my throat, it was more to do with the, (You would of acted on it if we relived the same moment). I did do the movement where I imagined myself cutting my throat, I did hurt myself a little bit by pushing the knife into the throat area. Thanks sharing Wonderer and others.

Hi everyone Lots of good and interesting questions getting asked, yeah I thought I'll chip in. It's me again. (I have ASD and ocd as well) I think I still do the hand shaking as it was something I started doing a long time, it was more severe a long time ago where I would pick up coat hangers or other toys or objects I could find and start to shake them. I tend to be more secretive now when it comes to the hand shaking, maybe people still notice but it's not what it was like in the past. I do believe our thinking can be a bit different with ASD. I have a great interest in quiz shows where I enjoy remembering quiz related facts. I went through a very strange phase, this was probably something I never mentioned about much as I was probably focusing on the harm ocd more but maybe this is part of ocd or asd where my mind was telling me to do things and those things did seem a bit dangerous. I stuck the sharp part of the pencil into wires that were around the house, I must of been around the age of 13. It was scary, feeling like you have to do the thoughts you are getting. My mind was telling me to bite down hard on the wires, I had braces on at the time. I remember biting some wires, it was old wires and some new ones.

I don't think I got anything for the mobility part but I did get more for other part, my mum was mentioning that I'm getting more money than before. I think it went in my favour as I'm doing a few hours volunteering a week. I'm thinking of maybe getting a job in the future but see what happens if my ocd is improving well lets hope. (Just wait for whatever the next story in the news is going to be) I need to face the news and be strong. I don't want to confuse anyone but I feel as if the ESA might be a bit easier than the PIP if anyone is not getting much with the PIP, maybe go for ESA, I guess if you are not working. Don't get me wrong I think the medical you have to pass is strict and I can understand why. I got called in for an interview and they were just checking over that the things that were mentioned on the form were true. (I think that's what they did)

Hi PhilM There was an article mentioning that all 1.6 million claims are to be reviewed, this could probably take sometime. The government never challenged the courts decision. Pip I think they are going look into the mobility part for people who suffer from mental health conditions. I'm receiving PIP support. I think Phil is right it's not to do with whether you work or not but sometimes might ask this question if it something you put in the PIP form. You could try for the ESA Phil if that is something you have not put a claim in for. Ocd is very hard to live with as it is and I feel that support can be of great benefit, PIP or ESA, I understand they are strict when it comes to the medical. You might see my comment on that bbc news website I posted.

Try to keep a calm approach to things. Does sound like it is a lot of money but sometimes it might be the best option Paul. I have autistic spectrum disorder and it probably does make me think a lot differently to most people. Things can be very complicated but it does not have to be that way, we can get through this. I know this might sound like unusual advice but let him know that you care a lot about him. All the best Graeme