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  1. So for me what seems to work best is to just allow the thoughts and the feelings be there. Not that I can do it all the time, but my most success has been to just acknowledge the fear. so thinking--yes maybe there are eggs somewhere, but just moving along without doing any compulsions around it. People seem to have different approaches though which is why i would talk about it with a therapist. Also i wonder if there would be different approaches depending on where you are at on your hierarchy... I just know that when i am trying to push the thoughts away,it tends to get worse. It would be interesting to hear how other people would approach it. what dose of sertraline are you on? How is your anxiety today?
  2. I am happy with sertraline. I was also very hesitant to take medication because of side effects and just general aversion to meds. Anyhow what I did that helped me was took it extremely slowly. I even got it in liquid form so I could just try a tiny bit to start and then worked very slowly up. Taking it slow just really helped me with the anxiety around taking meds. I've been on it a few years now and maybe had some weight gain but other than that it's been really helpful. That is great if your husband already has a good understanding of CBT--i did as well when i started on the meds and it seemed to just give me the strength i needed to do the work.
  3. Do you know what thinking you have that is behind threadworms being a disaster? That is usually a good place to start with changing your thinking around it. What kind of work have you done in the past with OCD thinking?.There seems to be a few approaches on this forum, but I find what works for me is usually when I can sit with the uncomfortable thoughts/feelings of contamination without doing the compulsions. So I try not to distract from the thoughts or reassure myself that it will be OK. That is my goal anyhow! How are your skype sessions going with the psychologist--this would be a really good thing to talk out with them.
  4. Oh I see--yes I get what you are saying. Yes i remember when my OCD was at that stage. It feels pretty awful. That's why its so worth the work to get out of it. Are you on any meds? I was thinking/wondering for myself if I don't give the meds enough credit for adding enjoyment to my life. Like i give them credit for helping with the OCD but maybe they help me in just day to day enjoyment as well, they are anti-depressants after all. I think that's too bad--you have so much to offer people! Just looking at how much you offer the forum--with good advice, sympathy, humour... So maybe those things could be added to that list of what you would do if not tied to OCD. Go out somewhere on the weekend, watch some TV...
  5. I don't know, for me just being able to do really simple things does seem that great. Going for a visit to a friends house, going for a bus ride, going for a walk, hell even taking the garbage out and it only taking me a few minutes feels just amazing after having gone through a period where all that seemed so impossible. Maybe over time that will seem like not a big deal but honestly to just feel that level of freedom from compulsions just feels great. I like just being able to enjoy simple things without thinking about all the compulsions i'll need to perform because i went out to a coffee shop for a cup of coffee or something. I will say though that I've never been an ambitious person!🤔 yes so important! I had a bit of a tough day today and days like this its easy to remember why we don't leave it at 'good enough'!
  6. Gee whiz! That's a good way to think. I agree with the comments from dksea above--they probably would be annoying to deal with but not more than that, as long as you don't let the OCD take over. I'm glad for you about the sertraline--that's what i'm on and i think it helped me a lot. You seem well grounded with the CBT approach so hopefully that will just give you the extra boost you need. Wishing you well!
  7. That is a huge win--you're right! Excellent! Yes that is the benefit of not giving into our compulsions. The anxiety fades, and we are one step further in our recovery having not done our compulsion. Way to go!
  8. lol! Closed for repairs you often make me laugh--thank you! @O Neg I can relate to a lot of your posts and think we have many similar issues. Please please don't be more 'mindful of these things.' That is a compulsion that will only make things much worse over time. I can easily see one getting caught in checking their zipper endlessly. Try more for accepting the logic that you can obviously hear as more true with the non-ocd thinking. A zipper down absolutely doesn't matter. I wonder if a lot of what triggered you was just the surprise element--you saying you are normally so careful about this, then suddenly you find your zipper is down. That kind of thing triggers me. So try to accept the ok-ness of something like this not being in your control as it has no importance anyhow. Don't let this situation make your ocd worse by making too much of it!
  9. So great to hear malina! you've worked hard and kept at it--so glad it's paying off! well that is a great start that at least the door is open I think for me getting back to happy things in life where every move didn't feel like just another exposure exercise was just a gradual process of continuing to move out into the world. At first doing the things were all exposures, but then as the anxiety about them went down they became my fun things again. I really tried to incorporate lots of things I would have enjoyed in the past. You mention staying home alone as your ongoing avoidance...I'm sure as you tackle that one and come to feel more comfortable with it, you will soon get back to enjoying things again. I can really relate to that. I have to really search for the motivation to keep pushing myself to stretch out further, not just stay in a "good enough" stage. I know that as long as i let OCD continue to place restrictions, not only am I keeping myself limited now, but i feel it also tends to end up slipping back where OCD gains even more power.
  10. Excellent! Very well done! Thanks Really I don't feel I did it all on my own though. I had an excellent book, a supportive family, a good doctor...and then later this forum. Good supports are really so important--it really is hard work! Staying on the forum reminds me to keep at things. Keep up the good work, Hopingtorecover, you are doing so well!
  11. Yes still making progress--but just feels at a much slower pace compared to when I was just coming back from that really bad relapse. The motivation piece is harder for me because my life feels ok despite the OCD restrictions so I really need to try to get more of that going. I feel like I've been working on using public toilets forever and feels like I should be much further ahead with them by now, but the progress is slow but still there. Besides obvious things like that I can see progress also in my approach to life. I see myself trusting myself more that I can handle anxiety, or that I can trust my assessment of a situation instead of asking for reassurance. No I'm not seeing a therapist. I've actually never seen a therapist that treats OCD for more than 2 sessions. Just cost-wise it hasn't been an option. So very glad for the good workbooks out there and also for this forum! How are you getting on with your psychologist via skype? How often are the sessions? And are you sticking with not having the kids change when they get home from school?
  12. I was one who medication made a big difference for. Though I must say I would have rather done it without, and going on it was a last resort. Of course as everyone says, cbt is a must alongside the meds and that is what I did. Just worked slowly and steadily through my workbook and kept at it.
  13. Yes it's that kind of motivation that will get you through the crappy anxiety! I'm in a relatively good place at the moment, though the ocd is still very much present and still putting enough restrictions on my life that i know i shouldn't get too complacent. I had severe ocd a few years ago where compulsions took all day and my avoidance of everything was so extreme. I really could hardly function. So compared to that I feel very free. I also experienced a bit of a setback a few months back and so started on the forum here to get some much-needed support. I've improved a lot since then, but I can certainly see many places i need to keep working on. I still avoid public toilets, shower too often, do too much laundry etc, so would like to keep working on all that. Public toilets is my big one that i would like to achieve as i feel it would give me a lot more freedom. Yes exactly. Such a boost of confidence and feeling of freedom! Keep that feeling in mind! And let's keep at it
  14. That is great that you are starting with a psychologist--hopefully that will give you the extra support you need. And yes, i agree, the stress of 3 young children can certainly make the battle harder. But on the upside, you can also see those children as good motivation to keep at the work. You are doing such a great job of keeping at it. Good for you for continuing on despite the anxiety--tough but well worth it for the long-term release from it!
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