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Avo

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  1. Hi LondonTown, I am sorry to hear that you have had to stop your chosen career. I can relate to having OCD effect things so badly that it leaves us feeling unable to perform at work. to my knowledge of benefits you would be expected to take any job you can irrelevant of if you wanted that particular job or not. if you are deemed able to work. that in itself I think can be a tricky way to assess things. I have never been through the that particular process myself. the government just wants us off their books if you like so we can be paying into the tax system sadly they don't really care what that job is such as zero hours or high pressure jobs for minimum wage etc. I think most benefits now are rolled up into the universal credit payment but again I am not familiar with how this works. maybe if you check the OCD UK website they may have some info on there?
  2. That's really bad, especially the one on the left ! Who actually thinks it's acceptable to say that and produce a card with it on ? I hope they sell zero. I wonder if this is something Ashley could take up with them ?
  3. its a very distressing article you feel very much for the man involved. It goes to show how much OCD is still such a misunderstood disorder both by the public and health professionals. makes charities such as this all the more important to raise awareness and educate people about OCD.
  4. Can you drink responsibly bt ? Alcohol often seems to be a vehicle for your ocd. I am not saying don't drink but can you drink in a manner that doesn't lead to these sorts of States? I am not anti alcohol I drink myself but I think you have to be aware that excessive consumption is going to play badly with your ocd. My advice would be look at your drinking habits can you stop after a small amount or do you drink excessively ? Also don't confess at all. It's Just going to make things worse.
  5. Hi Nikki, nappy changes were tough for me, had I wiped too many times? should I even be seeing his genitals? bathing him washing his private parts - really struggled with this, so too if I ran his bath I would watch like a hawk and remove any hairs from the water before he got in (incase they were pubic hairs and he ended up touching them). him sitting on my lap wasn't comfortable with him directly on my lap - had to sit him on my leg as I thought it may be inappropriate? that's some of the ones that spring to mind. happy new year to you too, I hope its a good one for you.
  6. sorry to hear you had to end up in A & E Nikki, I hope you got some rest and that you feel a bit better today?
  7. so glad to hear you sounding positive Emsie, I go along with what Polar Bear says
  8. Hi Nikki, I did read your other posts, what you must avoid is trying to recapture anything to see what it was. That's a massive compulsion and a game you will never win. it will just strengthen your belief. I have had similar happen, at that particular moment it can feel like the most distressing thing in the world, you chase and chase convinced a bit more digging or looking for evidence will crack it and you will be satisfied. This is the cruel things about OCD, you will never ever get that satisfaction you are in fact making it worse for yourself. I really sympathise as its very distressing but you must not try and peruse this for an answer.
  9. Hi Nikki, congratulations on becoming a mother, clearly your daughter is massively precious to you hence why OCD is trying to target what you hold most dear. I had similar worries when my son was younger and wondering if I had wiped too many times his bottom during a nappy change, did I really need to do that last wipe or did I do it for some perverted reason. it got to the stage where I was scared to change his nappy, bath him and several other things. I agree with polar bear completely. take a step back and realise you had an intrusive thought, no amount of re-assurance from us is going to be enough. your not alone in suffering this theme just have faith that its OCD, use the tools that have worked in the past for you. Don't let it interrupt the enjoyment of being a mother.
  10. Hi OceanDweller / Equinoxygen. I remember you from when I first properly started using the forums nice to hear you seem to be doing ok. its nice to have you back on the forums
  11. Hi Tez, Sounds like a great opportunity well done. I think from my point of view the way ocd is made fun of could be worth raising. The people who say they are ' a bit ocd ' and those that think it is in someway a quirky almost positive trait . And don't realise how debilitating it can be and how much distress it can cause.
  12. Well done Ashley. I Like the hoody - I have a similar one, your clearly a trend setter like me
  13. Had a quick look - I will have a more thorough look later Ashley . GBG - how many of the cat ones did you?
  14. I have your book PB and have been aware you had a film being made around it. The trailer looks very good! when would it be released? specifically in the UK?
  15. Ocd still seen as the mental health disorder it's perfectly OK to have a pop at. The bake off is very popular so alot of people will have heard that and it helps rubber stamp the accepted view of ocd. I admit I didn't watch it myself but do you think this is an issue the charity could raise with channel 4 , with a view to at least apologising ?
  16. That's a very positive post gbg , it's great to hear how well your doing at the moment.
  17. The theme is very much alive for me, its under control - to a point but I know I still perform compulsions around the topic. I am much better than I was say 10 years ago, I was really restricted by it in terms of what I did, routes I took - in one of my previous jobs I had to drive past a secondary school on my commute to work. I actively thought about looking for another route at one point as I thought somehow i was going something inappropriate by daring to drive past it. this caused me genuine distress. I could list other things that I did - which seem extreme and stupid now but I suppose that's what OCD pushes you to. I am much better now by a long way but it still gets you sometimes I am aware I still restrict myself to a point over certain things. I would say I am 75% recovered on this theme still have work to do. I have the song its not like he would make any money out of me listening to it, and I suppose you have to remember the other members of the band were not involved in these vile crimes. Cognitive distortion is a big part of my thinking . Thanks for your advice I do appreciate it.
  18. I have the OCD theme of worrying if I am one myself I know I am not but its the thing I fear. I suppose like OCD attacking your core values - so that plays into that scenario, it really takes very little for me to make such leaps.
  19. Yes that's a good point GBG, l am not sure I am brave enough at the moment but I can see it would be a good ERP exercise.
  20. Some wise words dksea thanks for your response, I think its a mixture of OCD and moral reasons. I have also been ruminating quite a lot - which is my biggest compulsion across all my themes.
  21. Hi Gemma, Thanks for your response in truth I would probably have carried on listening to the song had this not happened. I don't listen to my I Pod that much but do avoid this song when I do. So I suppose technically I am practising avoidance? It is them GBG! the song in question is Last train home. Its been niggling at me on and off for a while now. I take your point about the artist not being the art and as you say many books could be questioned if you looked into the morality of the Author. I think due to the crimes committed and the subject matter it has worried me. its kind of playing to one of my themes. If he had been convicted of assault for example I would probably not have stopped listening. I suppose I worry I am somehow condoning his actions if I carry on listening? Assault if of course wrong too but I put it as less bad than his actual crimes. If it were another member of the band? it maybe would make a bit of a difference but I still probably would struggle with my trying to work out what I should or shouldn't do.
  22. Hi all, Can you help me on the following ? I have a song on my I pod which I have always liked. A few years ago it was proven that the lead singer was a paedophile. It was a very distressing story. From maybe 5 years ago. I have never listened to the song since but it's still on my I pod. My question is. Should I have deleted it as soon as this story broke. I have thought this but never got around to it. However is deleting it some kind of avoidance ? I am honestly not sure which is right in this. Thanks for your help. Avo
  23. I agree with it being best not to try and reply to this person during a bike race, he probably wouldn't have been very receptive and as Gemma says in this case its about basic manners and social awareness. - he could surely have seen from the outfit that Ashley was riding for a charity. I do wonder why OCD is seen as the poor relation of mental health disorders. My wife thinks one of the issues around OCD is it is seen as 'quirky' almost 'cool' and as a result it seems ok to mock it, and subscribe to the stereotypes . I think people see OCD almost as 'harmless' due to these stereotypes, people - or at least decent people would not think of making a Joke about Bipolar disorder or Schizophrenia at least to the face of someone representing a charity of that type as they consider rightly that these illnesses carry some kind of gravitas / seriousness.? is it a case of OCD being less threatening to an individual? i.e if you were stuck in a lift with someone and said you have Bipolar for example that person may feel uneasy as a result? maybe they would worry that a person with Bipolar may be some kind of threat? Say you have OCD in the same situation then the person may feel awkward but not necessarily threatened? Sorry if I am subscribing to stereotypes myself - these are not my personal views on conditions such as Bipolar but it is what I have picked up from speaking to people and reading things over the years. That's where education comes in but as mentioned it has to be the right circumstances.
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